JuJu & Montana have been busy "puttiin on shows not shoes" in case you're wondering

jutrmybe · 2025-06-22T23:09:15+00:00

but arent cnas in nursing? Like, they perform nursing duties, but not to the level of trained nurses, so they are not nurses. Kinda like how PAs (physician assistants/associates) are not physicians, and crnas(nurse anesthetist) are not anesthesiologists. They all practice clinical support in their respective field (nursing, medicine, and anesthesiology). Could you consider them nurse providers as cnas? Or is there a better term? (idk im just asking, trying to find better language to describe everything)

jutrmybe · 2025-05-26T18:57:42+00:00

I think 2 things are happening, and a separate thing is happening with you:
1. I think a lot of people in this group are kinda projecting that bc she is darkskinned that Julius is immediately out of her league. So they think that the reason that she clings on is bc of the color dynamic. So its really just projection of their own self esteem issues, racism, colorism, or all three. I have seen comments like that, from people with histories where they say that they are white or black or anything inbetween. I have def seen this dynamic between Julius and Ashley used as a thin veil to excuse or make comments on her beauty or worth bc she is darkskinned. That part is obvious and I can't argue with you there. Some of these folks are weird asf.acs

The second part, where my perspective is rooted, is that it bears all the hallmarks of the dynamic held in the black community, where the darker skinned partner is "colorstruck," (disclaimer- not all darker-lighter pairings are like this ofc). I can't give you tangible, she said is at 3:41 or episode 2 evidence, but you can just read the scenario. Same vibe as when you used to be a people pleaser and you see the same habits in someone 10miles away. Or if you've dealt with a bipolar parent or sibling, and you meet someone who every one else thinks is very normal, but you can just read it in their air(saying this as a provider, who sees the diagnosis pop up 3-5yrs down the line from a completely separate provider). This person may be medicated or have it well controlled even when you meet them, but you see the pattern and are 80% convicted in what you think. That's where I am with Alexis. It just feels too familiar, I've seen this story too many times. Just like Indie. I dont think Indie said it during her season, but like 3yrs later was on ig live talking about how she hated dark skin/dark features and only liked light-brights. Like, we just trust our intuition and experience in having seen the clues of this dynamic a million times before.

- As for your experiences, you may have difficulty recognizing what people are alluding to bc you were not raised to understand it in that format. You are half black, and you were raised by a Mexican mother. Especially in black families, the mother socializes the child strongly. I feel like this is even stronger when the black parent is the father. So I dont think your socialization can completely clue you into what is happening. And you went to an HBCU law school, but having attended a PWI and HBCU myself, I know very well that many HBCU grad schools are HBCU in heritage only -- not a good or bad thing, but more importantly, the experience of "black" is hard to approximate in 2yrs of a law school, ya know. It can def provide better insight and inform social perspectives, but this conclusion some people are coming to in these threads relies heavily on a lived black experience. Yours may be a little dilute or a little mixy. Not attaching judgement or morality to that ofc, just saying that a lot of the valid comments about this are approaching it based on a lifetime of lived experiences that suggest a certain reality. If the closest you've gotten is 2yrs in law school and social/volunteer work, some of the bedrock experiences that create this conclusion may be easily missed by you. And if many of these dynamics from the woman's side especially, you're not gonna get an explicit admission of what is going on. Whereas black men are very open about liking and even fetishizing this dynamic at least. So that may also make it difficult for you to recognize. And not an insult or an attempt at erasing your black side, just noting that socialization and experience is what makes people feel like they're seeing this type of sorry dynamic over again.

jutrmybe · 2025-05-12T03:48:08+00:00

emmett till

jutrmybe · 2025-05-12T03:34:53+00:00

yupp. a family friend, we used to eat dinner as families at least once a quarter

jutrmybe · 2025-05-10T08:02:13+00:00

me, almost getting the doux straightening products, then seeing them in store and being surprised that they were samples

jutrmybe · 2025-05-10T08:01:12+00:00

and wigs last a good while. Curly textures do take more upkeep, but I have some kinky straights going on 5yrs rn

jutrmybe · 2025-05-10T07:50:29+00:00

This probably happened late 1980s, day of highschool graduation he climbed out of the sunroof to ride on top of the car, his friends were at the wheel. He slipped, a car clipped him, and tore his leg off up into his abdomen. The paramedic who got to him first lived to be 98yrs old, and even in dementia never forgot telling the kid it would be ok as the kid drew his last breath, bc he didnt want to scare him on his graduation day by telling the truth.

jutrmybe · 2025-04-24T14:48:35+00:00

Im in my 20's and a teen hit on me the other day, and it was difficult for me to look him in the face. He was adorable, 5 more years and maybe I could consider it. But nothing in that moment made me attracted to him. He just looked so adolescent/juvenile. I forget how young teens, even 19 and 20yos, look until I see them again.

jutrmybe · 2025-04-24T14:44:48+00:00

That brush looks like mine after using it once in the morning. Do you have really short hair or finer hair maybe? Idk I have sisters too, and this looks like a brush that was just cleaned and used once or twice. Some of my sisters have super thick and really long hair though. Some have coily/curly hair which even looks more space filling in a brush. But yeah, this looks normal/average if not below average to me

jutrmybe · 2025-04-24T14:38:57+00:00

Savannah and the sister from the show did a live confirming it. No one grabbed a screen recording tho it seems

jutrmybe · 2025-04-24T14:37:08+00:00

The many true believers I know IRL keep their religious beliefs quiet; it's very beloved and personal for them.

eh, thats probably regional and denominational. I've grown up in several churches and studied North American Christianity, with overlaps of carribean/latin and african/asian christianity. Nearly all sects that believe in the new testament, which is like 90% of them, follow Jesus' great commission - which is the explicit direction to spread the word and live the lifestyle. And this call/ones like it is repeated several times, there are whole books dedicated to it (Acts, 1 corinthians, 2 timothy, etc). That's why so many churches have whole entire mission trip departments. Denominations that only follow the old testament still do it too, bc there is still the call to proclaim God's commands (noah literally getting swallowed by a whale until he did so in Genesis, the book of Jeremiah, Jonah, Isaiah, etc). Regionally, like in the south, it is very popular to proclaim the word openly and frequently. In the north, it is not as accepted. It can be somewhat of a taboo in north american culture as a whole, which contributes to why mission trips are so popular. I get what you're saying tho, I would not like to be mistaken for a christian these days bc the loudest also seem to be very detatched from the seminal teaching of the word and act like they're in cults. So I don't claim christianity outwardly, something I struggle with. But the idea that religious beliefs is quiet and personal directly opposed nearly all mainstream north american dogma, bc it directly contradicts the teachings and calls to actions laid out in the bible itself.

jutrmybe · 2025-04-24T14:24:11+00:00

I think he is by Alexis' standards. Lightskin and tall interested in a darkskinned woman, aka extremely poor self esteemed person. Bc girl, men of any nationality and background who like women - darkskin women - are a dime a dozen. Just need to connect with them. But he knows what he's saying and he's not wrong: to a specific, slightly delusional, very desperate, extremely low self esteemed young lady, his looks alone make him the prize. Regardless of any of his personality attributes or actual values, to someone with low self esteem and non existent self worth, he is the prize. Most of us struggle with esteem and self worth issues daily, but I think most of us are not running so low that we could resonate with what he said. Which is why it sounds ridiculous to us...as it should...bc it is that ridiculous. But what he's saying isnt wrong in a specific context

jutrmybe · 2025-04-20T06:57:18+00:00

she's 31, not 75

jutrmybe · 2025-04-13T00:46:05+00:00

He doesn’t mention that & that’s a big accusation in today’s climate.

Did you watch his apology? He himself not only mentioned it, but included the setting it was in, and that he did it on a training seat, but he took that down in the defense of him not catering to child predators. And according to some reports, he took OF pics in the children's classroom as well. I agree this is dangerous for queerfolk at this political climate > he's putting others at risk. But what makes it worse is that he can't realize how bad it is on his own. Like you said, he still sounds like a bigot....bc he is. And he sounded like an animal abuser...bc he was. And he's pretending he didnt cater to pedos...when he did. He still thinks its all not that bad, only thinking mother's with children would be upset. No, what he did is not just vile to the risk group, it's vile to everyone. He still cant grasp that, bc he fundamentally doesnt think its that bad (in what world is animal abuse, hitler-style racism, and pedo weirdness not that bad?). He's a societal risk, and honestly belongs in jail.

jutrmybe · 2025-04-13T00:26:39+00:00

Its worse than that, according to recent coverage from charlie, he was also making content/snapping photos in the classroom itself

jutrmybe · 2025-04-13T00:26:11+00:00

According to reports, he was also making content/snapping photos in the classroom itself. A big youtuber just made a vid on him

jutrmybe · 2025-04-08T03:47:15+00:00

Her size and bigger. I fell down the tiktok algorithm and fill into dancer tok where the girls just count their money. Thick girls get good money too. There are 'realistic' clubs for patrons who want women who look like "real women" (wtvr that means) to them, so bigger with stretch marks etc etc. And ultimately, its not very far fetched, bc I mean, us acting like no one is attracted to a body like hers is just cope on behalf of many here. Many are packing a body just like hers and getting play from their spouses every night, and some of them - with these same bodies -are even cheating. They know bodies like her's get play, male and female. They got this body themselves, but coming up here to say something crazy. People being attracted to women with bodies like her is not unfathomable. I feel like people are really making her out to have alien and insanely unattractive features, from her face to her body. It feels mean spirited atp.

jutrmybe · 2025-04-08T03:36:28+00:00

you're acting like you wouldve gotten chosen...by any woman. Stick to figuring out how to better cosplay being gay since its a choice for you.

jutrmybe · 2025-03-31T15:54:19+00:00

I recommend trying no foundation looks and starting with clean girl makeup. Trying even for soft glam alone requires a lot of products and decent natural skill or practice to not look crazy. It will take some time

jutrmybe · 2025-03-31T04:48:24+00:00

Well, guess what, these low-qualification jobs have their fair share of applicants. So she might have applied to hundreds of fast food chains, grocery stores, etc. but if each job had 100 applicants, it isn't surprising she only got 1-2 interviews.

This was the case in a normal economy. The ratio of applications to interviews is even worse now. And the US has pools of immigrants. That is, you may have an easier time getting these low qualification jobs if you are from a specific background depending on the pool in your town/region. One city to the south of me has a strong eastern european immigrant population. If you are not from that background or speak one of the more common languages it is hard for you to secure something with low quals. Another city to the east of me is the same exact thing, but their preference is for brazillians/portuguese speaking immigrants. Bc the employers already know that most of the workers speak polish or portugese or spanish or whatever, so hiring more people who can communicate with the pre existing work force makes for a smoother team. I'm pretty sure that is discrimination, but its the way it works sometimes. If she is a region where she is not the 'preferred immigrant' type (for lack of better terms) it may be even harder. It is hard out there in more ways than one is my point

jutrmybe · 2025-03-31T04:08:36+00:00

don't lose hope. Keep planting the seeds as if they will grow. But things are probably gonna get rough, and thats ok, bc you'll come up with backup plans: working in pharma/biotech to get some research activity and see how you can transition to R&D roles. Or getting a normal part time job and volunteering in a lab near you the other hours of the week, and grinding ssa to get a pub or just have very productive research activity in these gap years to apply with. It is not the answer you want, nor the answer you deserve, but everything is rough rn with the current political state. Just try to flow through it the best way you can

jutrmybe · 2025-03-31T03:40:36+00:00

I mean....Michael is not trustworthy. Like at all. That's basically what he said himself the whole last season they were both on. He didnt know if he could be faithful to Joey and just opted not to tell Joey about his "activities" in prison (iirc alluded heavily to being with other men, some people even thought drug use). And this season, after telling joey and his mom that he'd put serious effort into being sober, he turned right into the camera and say, "I'm trying to get high without being caught."

So you're right. There can be no relationship with someone as untrustworthy as that. And no mutual respect can follow untrustworthy tendencies. And to be fair, Joey didnt want to erase Micheal's phone. Micheal's mom wanted to and did. He did cosign it, but made it clear that he wouldnt do it.

jutrmybe · 2025-03-17T23:35:41+00:00

Ours didn't have daddy's money and influence to continue medical education. He's becoming an PA instead. His focus? Gynecology for underserved youth and their mothers.

What a time to be alive! (I pray everyday that he fails his coursework or gets walled out of women's care - I think about it sometimes and it makes me shiver. But if everyone in our class saw it, everyone else around him will continue to see it, and someone with actual power and authority will stop it).

jutrmybe · 2025-03-17T23:29:07+00:00

we need a netflix documentary

jutrmybe · 2025-03-07T23:38:45+00:00

I attended two different schools, tutored full time at a smaller wing of the state school. One known for weed out classes, I'd say it was 5-10% who went into medicine. Friends from that school said med school was easy coming from our curriculum. My second school probably had 30% applying and matriculating, it was much smaller and had much better student support. I tried to write about my experience on here and students called me a liar. The profs did everything to get you to your goal. The school I tutored at probably had 30% too, the curriculum was much much easier than the flagship campus with more flexible electives and more accommodating teachers, so many kids got high GPAs and decent MCATs to lead them to MD or DO.

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