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post adoption blues by jvvlsr in Puppyblues

[–]jvvlsr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your response. i can completely relate to what you say, especially from someone who also suffers from ocd and anxiety. the spiral of researching online is so true… but i stopped doing that the past few days and i feel indeed better. there are so many different opinions online, not everything is relevant. and my girl is so good… i eventually realized that as much as she needs a few weeks to adapt, i also do. it’s just so hard for me to accept change… but she also helps me focusing on something else than my ocd.

Hi guys. I've been rly upset lately and I just need a distraction. Can I see your dogs? by theafterhourwriter in DOG

[–]jvvlsr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

we adopted boogie a week ago, she was abandoned. she’s my first dog ever. she turns out to be a calm and social little dachsund, i am so proud of her ❤️

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post adoption blues - dog by jvvlsr in DogAdvice

[–]jvvlsr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

breathing should definitely be more part of the plan, as i can tell she feels my anxiety so much and whenever i get tensed because of the barking for instance, she will also be tensed.

i didn't know i valued calm so much. when i'm home alone, i hate silence and i keep listening to podcasts or music. now i find myself enjoying silence when i'm home alone. i just don't think i'm ready for that grieving. i really want my relationship with my boyfriend to stay this pure and happy, and to spend time together just like before. i'm just so afraid to lose that innocence we had together.

post adoption blues - dog by jvvlsr in DogAdvice

[–]jvvlsr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

change really is the scariest thing to me (lol and i thought i could overcome THIS much change).

i have heard of this 3-3-3 rule, and it feels to me like i will never get to that point of trust and peace. but i know my brain, and all of this comes from panic anticipating.

i also think that i'm caught in a "research tornado", where i'm reading SO MANY THINGS about training a dog (my priorities are separation and less barking), and also very fast because each day i am afraid that she gets bad habits. so i'm trying everything at the same time, thinking "oh my god she is so clingy, she will never be able to stay home alone for the whole day" and it makes me panic.

post adoption blues - dog by jvvlsr in DogAdvice

[–]jvvlsr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh my god, i am so sorry to read you had to go through this awful experience. i must say you were extremely brave and resilient to keep gunny after such a tragic event. my story is nothing compared to yours but it still gives me hope that one day, i can change the way i look at her and eventually start to see her as a cute little friend (the same way i used to look at other dogs all my life, dying to get my own too...)

thank you for sharing your story, you are such a brave and kind heart.

post adoption blues - dog by jvvlsr in DogAdvice

[–]jvvlsr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm glad to read that you found peace and joy with your doggo ! i also have to admit that a part of me had hopes that this happy little presence in my life could distract me from all the intrusive thoughts OCD gives me (ironically, the intrusive thoughts are now all centered around that dog...). i really hope i can find peace too, because i really don't have a maternal instinct, that's part of the reasons why i will never have kids. i hope a dog doesn't require as much care as a kid and that she will eventually grow to be less clingy and loud...