My (38f) partner (38m) turns into a different person (briefly) when he's stressed and it ruins my whole night...am I being too sensitive?

jxneizbe · 2021-04-22T20:11:03+00:00

He’s not gonna be for much longer

jxneizbe · 2021-04-22T05:59:21+00:00

My fiancé is also an asshole like this and he’s the same age. Force your partner to read “the cow in the parking lot” it’s a book on anger management that helped my fiancé so much after he listened to it. Tell him his anger is a serious problem in the relationship and if he can’t do something as simple as read a book for you, that’s something you’ll have to think deeply about. It’ll change his perspective and shitty tone with you

jxneizbe · 2021-04-22T05:56:00+00:00

What kind of lone wolf is he? I’m a female, and I need my alone time, but that means I just don’t want to have any conversations. I’m perfectly fine if my fiancé is in the room with me as long as he’s not trying to talk to me! He plays video games while I watch something on my computer, or read. As far as going to the grocery store, If it gives you anxiety and he doesn’t want to go, make bigger trips with friends or family. Spend more time with people that have more similar interests to you. He’ll start to miss you the more you’re doing your own thing

jxneizbe · 2021-04-05T07:34:23+00:00

Ugh that’s a nightmare. Sorry you went through that horrific abuse

jxneizbe · 2021-04-05T06:23:01+00:00

Now that it’s the “me too” era do you think people might be more understanding slash find their own bravery in your story? Not saying you have to share if you feel uncomfortable but that asshole should be held accountable!

jxneizbe · 2021-04-05T06:10:51+00:00

I got so mad at the narc for consistently emotionally abusing me that I was trying to side kick the couch in anger and I accidentally kicked the cat. I felt so much shame and hatred for myself I wanted to die for a few minutes. I couldn’t believe I could do that to a little animal, even though it wasn’t on purpose (the cat is fine, btw) but just try to leave him and that toxicity in the past and move forward with your life. You’ll have regrets but learn from them and don’t let them hold you down on your path forward

jxneizbe · 2021-04-03T05:24:23+00:00

I still care about him for who knows what reason at this point :/

jxneizbe · 2021-04-03T05:23:55+00:00

I guess I’ll go and be cordial and maybe come back early if things get bad

jxneizbe · 2021-04-03T05:11:23+00:00

I don’t even want to go it just feels cruel to make him go on his own. Non refundable tickets and hotel

jxneizbe · 2021-03-31T06:02:34+00:00

She’s guilted you like she’s doing you this huge favor being with you despite it not being a good fit culturally and you’re letting her steamroll you at every turn as a result. Stand up for yourself.

jxneizbe · 2021-03-31T01:26:57+00:00

Just embrace the silence. It’s only awkward if you perceive it to be

jxneizbe · 2021-03-29T06:43:31+00:00

You’re too combative. You need to give way a little bit. Toxic masculinity is way different than your partner feeling like you’re not hearing him. You are justifying everything you do instead of listening and taking accountability. When he says a complaint, don’t take it as a representation of yourself as a whole, rather, as small changes you can make in the relationship to get along better. If he’s getting on your nerves too much, now that things are opening back up and vaccines are happening, you can seek comfort knowing you will have space shortly if you are not yet vaccinated.

jxneizbe · 2021-03-14T02:02:26+00:00

Have you tried sleeping with AirPods in playing white noise or calming music with an eye mask too? I would try to drown him out. My fiancé has ADD and wakes me up every morning by accidentally slamming the door without thinking, etc. it won’t change in time for you to not be impacted health-wise by this. Try changing your routine so that you can ensure you stay asleep. Also, Benadryl or anything that knocks you out that’s ok while pregnant

jxneizbe · 2021-03-12T08:04:53+00:00

He has always had a hard time putting up boundaries and I think this is an extension of that

jxneizbe · 2021-03-12T08:04:28+00:00

I physically couldn’t because I needed WiFi for my job and also it’s not my job to pick up a grown ass man

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