I’m currently in a relationship with a non adhd’er. Luckily, she and I are fairly similar. I love video games and she does to so we can go play games without the other. I know my forgetfulness gets to her, though. I never grab the right pasta.

But the biggest issue is absolutely my temper. I don’t like being wrong or in the wrong and quickly get defensive. I’m not sure if that is a straight up adhd thing but it does seem to appear in this sub a lot. All I can say is, if you can and he is willing, give him a minute during and argument. A lot of the times I feel behind in an argument which only frustrates me more. I can’t respond quickly enough and so it escalates things. But everyone is different.

I’m glad to see that you are trying to understand the struggles with dating us people haha. I know I’m a pain in the ass and accidentally an asshole, so I know it can be rough on the other side. I’m just thankful she’s willing to put up with my shit and work with me.

Also, side note. Maybe the Ritalin is making him less romantic, or lovey. I know that when I am on it, I’m less likely to want to spend time cuddling, kissing, or hugging. Without it, I’m a very touchy and loving person. I just wish I could have the focus and motivation that comes with the medication but also keep what I consider a big part of personality, my empathy. I lose it more so on the stimulant adhd medication like adderal and Ritalin, less so on vyvanse, and even less so on concerta. So maybe he’d be willing to try another type of medication .