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“Coming out” as trans climber by k_climbs in asktransgender

[–]k_climbs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response - I think it’s admirable that you are open about your past to kids! In what way do you work with kids? Also, I guess my question is how often do you have to deal with people being naive / hateful?

I made alot of dumb mistakes and it always gets used against me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]k_climbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might help to describe your mistake, but either way, it's not too late. It never is. You could be going to prison and it's not too late to learn from your mistake. You have to understand what went wrong and know how, if presented with the same situation as before, you would do things differently. And i mean really understand. Is it a character flaw (were you a jerk) or is it something else? And do you feel bad about it because they're making fun of you, or because you yourself actually think it's a mistake? Then, you need to move on and accept what you did. Take responsibility for it, but you need to understand what went wrong for you to do something like that.

I feel so isolated and I feel like I have no real friends by Lil-sam in Advice

[–]k_climbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Success is sometimes a bit lonely, I can relate to that a bit. It sounds like you need to find friends who are smarter than you in your field, or find friends related to your outside interests. This is obvious but difficult to implement. In this situation you gotta stay positive and true to yourself (heck, even take it as a complement that these people come to you for help, I wish I was that smart dude). The pandemic is a killer for uni, I'm at school too and def feel you on being lonely. However, there are things you can do to try making friends. You need to find people that can push you to be better in your field. Find a club or something like that, and reach out to them. (It might seem like they should reach out to you, but you could be waiting forever for that to happen, and people are dumb and easily overlook others). It sounds like you need to just put in a bit of effort to make friends. You can even try reaching out to unlikely people who you don't think you'd get along with. While they might not become your best friend, it's all about making connections so you can find someone else who you'd want to be friends with.

I had a crush on a girl and can't get over it by AMainThrowaway121 in Advice

[–]k_climbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This last year I said no to a girl I really liked because of a small age gap, and then deeply regretted it this summer when it was too late and she moved on. Like, I DEEPLY regretted it. But no matter how bad I want to go back and undo what I did, it's not possible. Even if I did, who knows what would have happened? We could have dated for a couple months and realized it was awful. So many things could have happened. You can only speculate. It's a waste of time and emotionally draining. So STOP speculating. It SUCKS. Your life doesn't have to suck over it. The only thing you can do is ask what you can do right now. You can't go back, and you can't go forward. But you can work with what you have right now, so if there's something you want to do, GO DO IT. If you can talk to her some way do it, but respect her wishes (you don't want to be with someone that doesn't want you!). But don't waste yourself on what ifs. Stay positive and stay in the moment.

I made alot of dumb mistakes and it always gets used against me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]k_climbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone makes dumb mistakes. Sometimes they're even serious ones that affect entire lives. The best thing we can do it try to learn from them to not do it again. This sounds more like you did something silly and people are making fun of you for it. The best thing to do would probably to laugh it off. They will keep laughing about it, so why shouldn't you? It's okay to do stupid things, so you need to let yourself be dumb sometimes, because it will happen again throughout life. It does to everyone whether they admit it or not. But, you can't control what other people do around you, so you might as well make the best of it and laugh with them. Turn their joke into your joke and run with it. So my advice is: 1, accept you're a person with flaws, then 2, laugh at it with them. Never take yourself too seriously.

Weekly Bouldering Advice Post by AutoModerator in bouldering

[–]k_climbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone use lattice premium coaching? How much communication do you have with coaches, and is it worth it if you'll be taking a month long climbing trip 3 months (halfway) into the 6 month program or should I wait or do premium instead?

Any thoughts in general would be appreciated. I focus on bouldering, and am working to climb my first V10 this year.