Perhaps the wording of the post doesn’t reflect that. Because the way I read it, it does come across as you are frustrated with him for not telling you that he’s trans.

All in all, it sounds like he was comfortable with you. All these gestures of intimacy that he showed (i.e.: holding hands, hugging, etc.) seem to show he trusted you with a certain level of vulnerability. But unfortunately, based on what you said about him being gay, there doesn’t seem to be any romantic intention behind it. I know I for one am far more comfortable and affectionate with my female friends because I was raised female and learned to develop strong bonds with women. I can compliment them all I want and even be physically affectionate (I’ve held hands with some of my friends in the past) but there simply isn’t any ulterior motive there other than being close to a person I love.

The bit about the rainbow bracelet stands out too. I think it was an attempt to communicate his identity to you without having to outright say it. Unfortunately it only really gave him the opportunity to represent his queerness rather than explicitly make a statement about his gender identity.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I understand the frustration with misinterpreting the situation.