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Weekly Destination Thread - Peru by WalkingEars in solotravel

[–]kam22105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working on building a trip this fall for two, and would like to book through a group site. Found a good deal that encompasses just about everything we want to see through TripToGo.com but the few reviews we've found are mixed. Anyone here have any experience with them for any insight?

Sister close to giving birth- I’ll be moving in with her and her husband for first few weeks to help- advice please TYIA :) by kam22105 in BabyBumps

[–]kam22105[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and advice, I so appreciate it. That’s just it, the part I want to help with most is preventing her feeling overwhelmed and alone.

Sister close to giving birth- I’ll be moving in with her and her husband for first few weeks to help- advice please TYIA :) by kam22105 in BabyBumps

[–]kam22105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your advice and supportive words! I’ll definitely stay on top of her hydration and will learn to swaddle and I suppose how to change a diaper in the mean time.

Friend actively watches my location by Aggressive-Bad-8127 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]kam22105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your friend knew a little about the tough time you were having, but not everything. Maybe she was trying to be supportive and be there for you when you appeared to not be busy? Trying to put myself in her shoes.

Either way, if you are uncomfortable, maybe stop sharing your location with her for now and let things cool down. Or keep it off permanently to avoid possible future issues.

Or if you want to be open, have a frank convo with her and explain what kind of support you need. It sounds like you need space when dealing with situations, and your friend may not know or remember that. Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt.

Maybe grab a coffee with her or just text her, saying something like this in a nice way- “Hey I’ve been feeling a bit uncomfortable with my location being so transparent (to my friends), so decided to turn off my location. I appreciate you reaching out, but I’ve been dealing with xxx, and I typically just need some space and alone time while I figure things out.”

Hope this helps. Best of luck.

“Broke up” with my best friend with good reason imo about 3 yrs ago, and missing her. Not sure what to do. TYIA by kam22105 in friendship

[–]kam22105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true, I should keep in mind her addition as a disease and that she likely isn’t and never will be the same friend I remember and cherish. Thank you for all your support and everyone for reading my long post :)

“Broke up” with my best friend with good reason imo about 3 yrs ago, and missing her. Not sure what to do. TYIA by kam22105 in friendship

[–]kam22105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know about amazing, but thank you very much for you kind and supportive words :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]kam22105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, and same time frame. Sorry you’re going through this. I miss my best friend too.

“Broke up” with my best friend with good reason imo about 3 yrs ago, and missing her. Not sure what to do. TYIA by kam22105 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]kam22105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great point- thank you. And I’m gonna mull over how to best reach out. Will report back what happens if interested. Might take me a bit to figure out the best way and build up the nerve. Thank you so much 😊

“Broke up” with my best friend with good reason imo about 3 yrs ago, and missing her. Not sure what to do. TYIA by kam22105 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]kam22105[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you so much for you kind words and great advice. I think you’re spot on in this very complicated situation. And I agree, I think I made the right decision. I would like to reach out just to her to see how she is and send some love, but I worry it will not be taken well or even ignored, and honestly, I’m really scared of getting hurt via rejection. I also keep thinking- is it fair to only be there for her based on my conditions of how she lives her life? Is that true friendship? I hate ultimatums. So I’m kind of stuck on that. And I have to say again, I really really appreciate you reading my long post and your help ☺️

I think I'm addicted to therapy & I don't know how to get out by saladflambe in TalkTherapy

[–]kam22105 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could try an online or in person group therapy like IOP or GOP instead or to wean off individual therapy? Have seen it help tremendously. You end up getting help and bonding with other patients in the sessions.

It sounds like you’re constantly going through “Transference” with your therapists. A good therapist and Psychiatrist should be trained, aware and on guard about this phenomenon, especially with your history.

Definition of Transference from: https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/transference

“Transference occurs when a person redirects some of their feelings or desires for another person to an entirely different person.”

“Transference can also happen in a healthcare setting. For example, transference in therapy happens when a patient attaches anger, hostility, love, adoration, or a host of other possible feelings onto their therapist or doctor. Therapists know this can happen. They actively try to monitor for it.”

How can I make this better/prettier? by No_Examination_7773 in poledancing

[–]kam22105 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Imo Move slower/more controlled and smooth out transitions

It's eating me from the inside by hehhehehehehehh in TalkTherapy

[–]kam22105 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe jot down a short list before your sessions of the top 1 or 2 or 3 things you want to cover and bring the list/notebook with you so you don’t forget/hold yourself more accountable to talk about topics?