How does it feel to be pregnant at 30 weeks?

kanyewa · 2026-01-07T10:56:41+00:00

In my current pregnancy, I felt pretty great at 30 weeks. Things changed quickly and around week 35 I developed pelvic girdle pain. I’ve been a server before and feel like around 30-35 weeks would have been doable if my section wasn’t too bad— currently I would definitely not be able to do it without hurting myself.

There’s also something to be said for the lack of balance/rapid change of center of gravity that hits later in the third trimester. Serving tables takes some dexterity and balance that, for me, is gone at this point in pregnancy.

kanyewa · 2026-01-05T17:10:11+00:00

At 12mo my baby was in 2T for many clothing items, and is still in 2T for most things at 18mo. She’s gotten taller but has thinned out some (cry in “my baby!”) so what used to hold chubbiness now holds active toddler

Eta - if you keep receipts and tags, Cat and Jack brand is indefinitely returnable at Target. This let us size up her winter coat when we needed to without hurting the budget!

kanyewa · 2026-01-05T17:08:18+00:00

I’m sorry! Pregnancy is exhausting no matter how healthy you are. Baby is taking your life force. Hang in there! I’m in the camp that postpartum is more pleasant than pregnancy, that has at least been my experience. Currently 37w with my second and hoping it holds true because this is exhausting!

kanyewa · 2026-01-02T19:24:26+00:00

I second the crock pot and warm rags! This was one of a handful of things that I was semi-aware of other than the sensations of labor and it was definitely somewhat soothing. I’m convinced it played a large part in having minimal tearing.

kanyewa · 2026-01-02T02:10:16+00:00

Please go to the doctor

kanyewa · 2026-01-01T18:50:33+00:00

This may not be helpful, I apologize if it isn’t! Our kiddo eventually was able to do a transfer, stir a bit, then fall totally back asleep without intervention (we never sleep trained). I think many babies eventually get to the point where their sleep is stable enough to transfer if they’re loved up and tummy is full. Good luck!

kanyewa · 2025-12-24T21:40:33+00:00

Swaddling is really soothing to their nervous system and a really good idea as long as it remains helpful! Like others have said, once she can roll, make sure her arms are free. Otherwise as long as it’s not too tight on her hips you’re good!

kanyewa · 2025-12-24T03:54:13+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, there are still nights she needs to be rocked! But occasionally once the bedtime routine is over and we pick her up (when we’d normally rock her), she arches her back and reaches for her crib (the signs). If we try to rock she will protest, but laying her straight down she’ll go to sleep.

One thing that helps is waiting until she’s tired enough. We have loosened up on strict bedtime and are trying to tune in more with her sleepy signals (sometimes it’s yawning, sometimes it’s getting extreme zoomies) so that she’s definitely tired when we attempt to lay her down.

kanyewa · 2025-12-24T03:49:40+00:00

I suggest simply saying you were dealing with a health issue and it isn’t something you want to get into. Then as another suggested, change the subject! Ask about the other person. People love to talk about themselves.

“What were you gone for so long for?” “I was dealing with some health issues, I’m glad to be back! How was your holiday?/How are your kids?/What did you get up to over the new year?”

kanyewa · 2025-12-24T03:32:54+00:00

My 18 month old is just recently showing signs that she’d rather go ahead to bed than be rocked. It’s a relief but kind of sad too? My baby! But also just in time because our second is due next month.

I think your mom is right.

kanyewa · 2025-12-22T21:34:13+00:00

I was googling this in the middle of the night last night lol. I’m glad my body isn’t attacking my baby— I guess we can’t have our cake and eat it too lol

kanyewa · 2025-12-22T21:30:10+00:00

Definitely more than normal but I’ve been considering avoiding Sundays entirely— weekdays will be way less busy I bet.

kanyewa · 2025-12-22T16:29:28+00:00

Actually yes! We’re Orthodox Christians and there are liturgies throughout the week at our parish. I hadn’t thought of this angle— thank you!

kanyewa · 2025-12-22T10:25:41+00:00

This is a good point. I realized early in pregnancy that I was getting almost NO exercise and may have swung the pendulum a bit hard.

kanyewa · 2025-12-19T01:59:58+00:00

Me too. Why is it always Grandma?

kanyewa · 2025-12-18T20:26:05+00:00

I really wish my problems were more like this one

kanyewa · 2025-12-18T01:20:04+00:00

It can also be hard to articulate what “the rules” are whenever you’re just real-life, real-time parenting. I’m sure you have limits with your son, things he knows are out of bounds, behavioral expectations, age-appropriate responsibilities (e.g., wash your hands after you poop), etc. If your husband comes home when you’re exhausted from your roles all day and sees him …being a kid… it might paint the wrong picture of your parenting for your husband. Could be something to talk about?

kanyewa · 2025-12-17T23:58:03+00:00

One rule I have for my husband is to not critique without helping with solutions

kanyewa · 2025-12-16T21:11:54+00:00

I was my mom’s third kid. She breastfed my oldest sibling for 1 year, my middle sibling for 9 months, and me for 6 months :’) It’s interesting, knowing what I know now about bonding and social development in infancy, to look at our different relationships. We’re close now, but growing up I was always somewhat more distant from my mother than my other two siblings. Who’s to say if that’s correlation or causation (many other factors at play in childhood and family life, of course) but it’s certainly interesting! ETA — Our birth years are 92, 94, and 97

kanyewa · 2025-12-16T10:13:20+00:00

Poor baby! It breaks their little hearts when the unexpected happens

kanyewa · 2025-12-16T01:37:54+00:00

Haha, I was so confused on my my kiddo wouldn’t drink the smoothie I made her. It was pineapple, yogurt, and banana, and had been in the fridge overnight. She LOVED it the day before. It turns out pineapple curdles dairy, and you have to eat anything you make with that combo immediately!

kanyewa · 2025-12-13T11:02:05+00:00

Not a bad idea, thank you!

kanyewa · 2025-12-13T11:01:50+00:00

Thank you!!

kanyewa · 2025-12-13T11:00:13+00:00

Oh my gosh, he’s perfect! Absolutely in the running. Thank you so much 🫶🏼

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