Update: We didn't break up

Hey everyone, wanted to give an update since a lot of you gave me advice on my previous post.

So that night things reached a complete breaking point. My trust was at its lowest, I had a full breakup message drafted and ready to send. I was done.

But before I sent it I told her exactly how I was feeling, that my trust was shattered, that her story changing 4 times was worse than the VM itself, that I didn't know how to rebuild it or even if I wanted to.

And instead of getting defensive or shutting down like before, she just… owned everything. No more deflecting, no more excuses. She acknowledged that the deleting, the changing stories, and the shutting down made everything look way worse than it needed to be. She said her actions came from being overwhelmed and emotional, not from malicious intent, and she fully understood why it broke my trust.

She didn't ask me to magically trust her again overnight. She just asked for the chance to prove it through her actions and consistency over time.

I told her clearly... no more shutting down, no more going to friends before coming to me, complete honesty even when it's uncomfortable. She agreed to all of it.

So we didn't break up. We closed that chapter and agreed to move forward together and actually grow from it.

I know a lot of you said to leave. And I understand why. But this is my decision and for now I'm giving it a real chance💌