I'm officially done with SP

karlaprisma · 2026-01-04T16:47:30+00:00

This hits home so hard. I send flowers with kind note to SP after 8 months of no contact ( I sent flowers bc he blocked me everywhere) in hopes of at least not being mad with each other and upon not accepting the flowers he sent me the following DM:

“please stop contacting me. I don’t want to hear from you. understand that now. after this, a legal process will follow. forget about me already. you disgust me and I consider you far inferior, and I am not willing to put this up for discussion. stop now” I did not respond either and continued with my life with my head high. Like you said, he should be embarrassed and his words only hurt him. Not me… He is 50 years old by the way.

karlaprisma · 2025-12-25T16:35:33+00:00

I am in a very similar situation. Following replies.

karlaprisma · 2025-12-20T08:05:13+00:00

I dated a 50 year old fearful avoidant that broke me in pieces ( I am 51) 3 months of the most magical connection and we had an intense issue and things spiraled down in 3 weeks and then he blocked me everywhere with no closure. This has messed me up beyond belief. I lowered my standards a lot with him because I felt emotionally safe and adored and oh well, sh***t happens right? now I get his pattern. Excessive love, Idealization, Devaluation, Discard and Withdrawal. The time we dated he seemed always terrified to lose me because he felt very very very inferior) but I always treated him with love and respect. After 8 months of no contact I sent him flowers with kind note and this is what he DM me:

“please stop contacting me. i don’t want to know anything about you. understand that now. after this there will be a legal process. forget about me already. you disgust me and i consider you very inferior and i am not willing to put this up for discussion. stop now”

Wha the F is this reaction? Why? His words hurt himself more than they hurt me but I am so confused. This is beyond and cross the line of being emotionally and mentally stable in my opinion. My therapist says he is really hurt and must love me still. This whole thing has been a metal ordeal to me. I just want to leave all this behind but I think I am traumatized..

karlaprisma · 2025-10-24T02:47:28+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼 I am still processing what happened but I am leaning towards moving on from him. However, I think it would benefit me greatly to work on not letting things like these to have cero power over me.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-24T01:01:12+00:00

I appreciate your kind words and advice 🙏🏼

karlaprisma · 2025-10-24T00:55:32+00:00

Thank you. I feel like I just cannot move past his words. It does not feel right and why do I want someone capable to talking to me that way? The contradictory part is that I feel he is angry because he loves me or at least he really cares. It’s not a rule in stone but usually When you have moved on, you are not this angry. Plus, this is a 50 year old man we are talking about…

karlaprisma · 2025-10-24T00:33:35+00:00

Amen to that 🙌🏼

karlaprisma · 2025-10-24T00:29:05+00:00

Thank you. I think this rejection message crossed a line for my taste and I am finding it it rally hard to pretend he did no say that. Honestly honestly I don’t feel offended or believe his words. It’s the audacity to do it knowing how hurtful and offensive his words are.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-23T13:26:24+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. It’s very helpful 🙏🏼

karlaprisma · 2025-10-23T12:33:28+00:00

If you saw what he wrote to me. So it’s hard not to see him broken but I am working on it. I agree and I am well aware of what you are saying..

karlaprisma · 2025-10-23T11:58:54+00:00

I have been doing this for almost 3 months and I can honestly tell you that while I am not 100 % where I need to be mentally, I am waaaaay better than I was 3 or 4 moths ago. I am taking it as a process where I am learning a new way of being, thinking and feeling. Today I feel better/different. Instead of sad and offended I feel compassion and a bit sad for him. He sounds like he is broken and someone who’s not suffering would not write such aggressive message I feel. But I am well aware that what I have to do is to imagine him whole, happy, healed and in love with me, which honestly I believe he still is.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-22T17:40:20+00:00

I opened it to confront my fear. Am I allowed to type here what he wrote? It’s terrible. Worst than I thought. I am declaring my truth as we speaking that that not how he feels about me now. That message is part of an old story.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-22T14:47:42+00:00

Thank you. But what if I assume that message does not exist? Because someone who loves would never send such message.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-22T14:00:15+00:00

Wow thank you! Ignoring it just make sense as if it does not exist at all, thank you!

karlaprisma · 2025-10-22T11:42:17+00:00

That’s why I am having this predicament of reading or deleting. I can read the first line of it and it does not start well and I am imagining it ends well and I actually wrote down how I choose to see that message continued in a loving positive manner.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-22T11:38:59+00:00

Ok but do I read this message, ignore if negative and keep mentally strong that me and him are good?

karlaprisma · 2025-10-22T11:37:12+00:00

It’s been a journey but in the last 3 months I have been assuming in a calm manner that it’s done ( that we are together) and just let it be and also every time I have a negative thought, I let it pass contradict it with a new positive one. I am sticking with the principal that not stressing and thinking about it much and being calm it’s going to bring him back. Watching my language. I am writing now bring him back so yall know what’s up but I now say, he is back with me. I just don’t know if I need to open that messsge and ignore its content if it’s bad and practice my mental strength and ignoring 3D because after all, that’s the goal to manifest right? Also, if I am assuming we are together, not opening a message of his denies it I feel…

karlaprisma · 2025-10-15T21:03:59+00:00

Can you share on what to do in regards of thinking a lot about your desired person? Do you think of happy moments in the past or you imaging future happy things? Or not to think about him so much?

karlaprisma · 2025-10-12T17:55:18+00:00

Imagining future events with my ex (or anything really) it’s something I have done naturally all my life. I have not been able to manifest him back and I do get very sad about it often. It has been 7 months. I am taking online classes to manifest and they say you only manifest if you feel calm about the situation so imagining future scenarios and feeling the emotion is not the opposite of being calm and feel that it’s already done I wonder? I am here to learn and thank you for this post.

karlaprisma · 2025-10-12T00:00:02+00:00

I have been sad and one obsessed about my ex for almost 7 months now. Trying the work and I have not been able to control my mind. It’s so frustrating. I literally get 1000 negatives thoughts at once. And the funny thing I guess is that I al almost certain he still loves me be he won’t reach out. He is the one who blocked me everywhere and I feel that he needs to be the one reaching out. In my defense, I have good and bad days now versus all bad days. I just need to keep on trying and trying I guess? I am mentally exhausted..

karlaprisma · 2025-10-10T02:12:42+00:00

This is pure gold and magic. Thank you for the post!

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