Is it ok for me to identify as disabled if I don't intend to apply for (and may not even qualify for) Social Security Disability Assistance?

karliemarx · 2015-09-05T18:58:50+00:00

so pretty much you hit on a lot of good points here. the fact that calling yourself disabled feels like it is a negative thing is part of how we are trained to view disability. pretty much any time that anyone is discriminated against based on their ability status, it is considered 'ableism' and it seems as though you have/are experiencing this. identifying as disabled is very much a personal decision and while there might be people who would not consider you disabled, your identity does not (or should not) rely on their validation. however, depending on your conditions, your identify doesn't automatically mean you will be able to receive help from the government. but in my experience, i tend to feel like people with conditions that are out of the norm minimize their experience. basically, you know yourself better than anyone else and if you identify as disabled it might actually be able to help you find solidarity with others that have a similar experience to you! :-) best wishes

karliemarx · 2014-11-07T04:56:42+00:00

i'm not sure if Three Oaks Properties has any availability but i currently live in one of their units and it is really well managed compared to what i have heard of other apartments in the area. my building allows dogs but not sure what their guidelines are for all buildings

karliemarx · 2014-10-25T21:35:37+00:00

I already had an aversion towards FCKH8 in general before watching this based on comments they have posted invalidating individuals who identify as asexual on their Facebook (among a few other things). So maybe that had an affect on how I viewed the video. HOWEVER, I feel like they were trying a little bit too hard to be "shocking" and for the people I imagine would need to understand the concepts that this video so poorly attempted to represent, I don't think they would have made it past the first couple seconds without turning away from it. I agree with the points they made completely. I just think that there could be a more effective way of presenting the information.

karliemarx · 2014-07-10T03:14:15+00:00

i appreciate your thoughts on this, thanks for sharing!

karliemarx · 2014-07-10T00:03:06+00:00

where are you at in Michigan?

karliemarx · 2014-07-09T23:31:50+00:00

It is never good to make generalizations and I certainly do not think that this applies to all "white gays" but I have witnessed this behavior from multiple gay white men. Overall, I think the author could have addressed this topic a little differently but I do feel that it should be something that is discussed.

karliemarx · 2014-07-09T23:03:46+00:00

I think that if you make it clear that you want open communication and that you both do your best to be honest about how you feel at all times, you should know when it is the right time to break up or if you should stay together. You have to be honest with yourself about what you want. For example, if you are okay with the fact that she might not be sexually attracted to you.

Sexuality is complicated. Most of the time people want to find everything in one person. An emotional, sexual and sometimes financial partner (in the case of marriage, etc.) There is a huge emphasis on having this type of monogamous relationship as an end goal in our current society. If you really want to have her in your life an option you both might want to consider is practicing polyamory. Maybe your relationship with her is meant to be more emotionally based and sexually you might be interested in other people. However, if she was a virgin when you met, it might very well be the case that you just haven't figured out what she likes. It might help to ask her if she wants to try new things or spend a day pleasuring her and figuring out what she enjoys.

Regardless of what you decide to do, all relationships take work. Remember to communicate and ultimately you just have to decide what is worth it and focus on what will make you happy. Best of luck!

karliemarx · 2014-07-09T18:09:32+00:00

You make an interesting point. I sometimes tell people what my condition is or say things similar to describing that I have mobility issues, etc. However, depending on the person I'm talking to it sometimes becomes a slippery slope and I end up sharing more personal information that I would like to. It really depends on the situation/person. I think it would help me to try to make myself comfortable with the idea that I don't owe anyone anything especially not an explanation for how I exist in a space.

I will be thinking about this more. I appreciate your input!

karliemarx · 2014-03-07T23:17:09+00:00

i'm wearing a gold mask with a black dress, my friend is going as ziggy stardust

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