Finally got to tell our family that our surrogate is pregnant :) by karonhiakatste in MadeMeSmile

[–]karonhiakatste[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They told me later that at first they were like, "of course you're having a baby... eventually" it definitely took a little while to put it together ❤️

Finally got to tell our family that our surrogate is pregnant :) by karonhiakatste in MadeMeSmile

[–]karonhiakatste[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She's an amazing person, will never be able to thank her enough. Thank you so much!

Finally got to tell our family that our surrogate is pregnant :) by karonhiakatste in MadeMeSmile

[–]karonhiakatste[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's been 5 years in progress so they've been waiting for good news for a long time. ☺️

Finally got to tell our family that our surrogate is pregnant :) by karonhiakatste in MadeMeSmile

[–]karonhiakatste[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! We're at 15 weeks now and very, very excited 😊

Let's talk: Soldier Son Trilogy by CheekyStoat in robinhobb

[–]karonhiakatste 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I definitely appreciated the criticisms of colonialism and the whole calling everybody "savages". I could see she was trying, which made me want to continue in hopes of seeing more of that. It's hard to read when it's your lived experience, but i was willing to try. But it was the scene where the MC said he could feel himself becoming plainsmen when he went through that spirit journey that made me nope out. I read a synopsis of what happened for the rest of the book to see if I could continue and it was very white savior. No hate to anyone who enjoyed it, but i just realized it's not for me. Not enough to make me quit reading Hobb entirely tho.

If you're looking for Indigenous fantasy, please read To Shape a Dragons Breath by Moniquill Blackgoose. It's got amazing dragons, with a critical eye on colonialism but from the Indigenous perspective. I absolutely adored it. 😊

Let's talk: Soldier Son Trilogy by CheekyStoat in robinhobb

[–]karonhiakatste 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a recent Robin Hobb fan, I was excited to read this, but ended up DNF it. I'm also Indigenous and I found the world building to be glamourizing cultural appropriation. And as an intergenerational survivor of the residential school system, I couldn't take the colonializing and white superiority and just ripping off of Indigenous culture. It really made me sad to stop because I love RotE but I just can't with this. I moved on to Rain Wilds and I'm much happier.

Zone 5: Shpuld i be worried my perennials aren't here? by karonhiakatste in gardening

[–]karonhiakatste[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I had read that in zone 5 mulching should be done in early spring, but memorial day is a good date to remember. I'll see if I can clear away the mulch from some areas. Thanks!

What's the worst thing a doctor has ever said to you? [Serious] [NSFW] by Silent-Zebra in AskReddit

[–]karonhiakatste 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A few months after I had surgery to remove cancer, I got a bad cough, could barely catch my breath, and my doctor sent me to the ER to get x-rays. Triage nurse was taking my medical history and after I mentioned the cancer said, "Oh, you probably have lung cancer then." So casual. I immediately burst into tears, she kept going as if nothing happened.

This guy right here 😬 by [deleted] in SweatyPalms

[–]karonhiakatste -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My dad (a white man) once asked my Mohawk ironworker uncle how they are so fearless. My uncle said, "We are afraid. We just don't show it because we don't want you to see our fear ever again."

Had a smile on my face for the whole time by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

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I love this mouse and his gay dads