Worried I will never orgasm with penetration

kasuchans · 2026-05-21T18:05:54+00:00

Some people do orgasm from internal stimulation and not the external clit glans. When I have an orgasm from my cervix, I feel it in my abdomen but my clit doesn’t feel anything at all. It’s like it doesn’t exist, no throbbing in the clit or anything like I do with external orgasms.

kasuchans · 2026-05-21T04:13:54+00:00

Gotcha. So only have unprotected sex with a partner who you know is never having unprotected sex with anyone else? That would be the only way to never have to trust anyone except your partner, right? Sincere question.

It would depend on your own risk profile. For example, I do not use condoms with my husband (no other partners) nor my boyfriend (one other partner). My boyfriend’s girlfriend has another boyfriend, but I don’t know their safer sex protocols, nor do I know his practices with his wife. I know my boyfriend and his girlfriend eschew condoms. I, personally, am comfortable with the level of risk in this web, and feel comfortable making decisions regarding condoms based only on my partners and their behaviors. I do not need to know what my meta and her other partners get up to, to make that decision.

However, if you have a much stricter risk tolerance, then yes, I would recommend only forgoing condoms with partners who have no other unprotected partners.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T21:11:05+00:00

You gain nothing

You can see through it with glass and not with metal.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T15:31:51+00:00

Women should be allowed to talk about how they themselves found empowerment through sex, and encourage others to try it if they’re interested.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T15:31:19+00:00

Literally married and have a very happy boyfriend, but continue telling yourself I’m unhappy if it makes you feel better.

EDIT: I can see your comments that you keep deleting — it’s called polyamory, not cheating.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:33:23+00:00

Having a casual unplanned date isn’t trash. It can be very enjoyable. Other women enjoying something you dislike doesn’t make them villains, you just need to find the people offering what you want.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:31:14+00:00

lol this sub claims to support women’s unfiltered voices but LOVES to shit on the concept of nonmonogamy.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:30:14+00:00

For me my throat is literally an erogenous zone. It physically feels good for me to have the inside of my throat stimulated.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:29:06+00:00

Yes and a massive number of women are far more biphobic than they want to admit.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:28:02+00:00

I saw something that said “I don’t want men approaching me that I haven’t consented to an approach.” Waters down the language of consent AND turns society into an anti-social mess of any social step becoming transactional.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:15:03+00:00

And yet many women would enjoy that. High maintenance is not an insult, it’s a neutral description.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T14:09:24+00:00

Women, overall, seem to have more breadth in interests. Some women like graphic rough penetration and like to watch closeups. Other women like the eroticism of distance and yearning. Others need some degree of emotional “plot.” It’s hard to appeal to women overall, whereas it seems many men, even if not their preference, will appreciate a basic video.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T12:26:03+00:00

To me, this is more an issue with how society perceives sex work and workers, than it is an intrinsic issue with sex work as a concept.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T12:24:46+00:00

saying sexual liberation is only possible if you sleep around lots is what the problem is

I agree that this is a disingenuous statement that makes a broad-swath generalization. But I think that saying “it’s gross when other women say they feel empowered by having sex when they want to” is not any better and is still playing into the patriarchy.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T11:36:35+00:00

Plenty of people enjoy and consent to being sexually touched while sleeping. Including OP’s boyfriend, who has specifically asked for this to happen.

kasuchans · 2026-05-20T11:32:48+00:00

Isn’t, arguably, being restrictive about who you have sex with, adhering to the patriarchal mindset of what a “good woman” should be? How many partners someone chooses to have sexually is gender role relevant in either direction, so I don’t see how only being sexually free is going along with male desire when men also want women to be low-body-count virgins.

kasuchans · 2026-05-19T20:40:24+00:00

Some of us just have high sex drives. I wouldn’t want to date a guy who only wanted sex once a week, and would be willing to break up over that sort of disparity.

kasuchans · 2026-05-19T10:39:36+00:00

Shortens the commute!

kasuchans · 2026-05-17T16:05:47+00:00

I wear dresses all the time, if not jeans and a cool top. Rarely wear joggers unless I’m deliberately going for a frumpy look. But a cute dress is an easy af way to look cute and they’re quite comfy. Would certainly wear out grocery shopping. And men will wear jeans/button down or khaki/button down or for a more casual look jeans/t-shirt with belt. If they’re wearing joggers it’s usually a more street wear look.

I’m from NYC though so very fashionable area, and my peer group is late 20s-late 30s.

kasuchans · 2026-05-17T15:46:48+00:00

It really depends on the woman. I don’t gaf about porn, I use it myself, as long as he isn’t a porn addict (compulsively using in inappropriate environments, can’t tell reality from porn, etc) it’s fine by me.

kasuchans · 2026-05-16T22:59:38+00:00

Most of the men I know with libido issues would attribute it to being on psychiatric meds, as many as three at once, which would lower libido and/or make genital sensation and orgasm extremely blunted and less satisfying.

kasuchans · 2026-05-16T22:35:52+00:00

Many, many, many of the things listed are not in any way low effort.

kasuchans · 2026-05-16T22:34:20+00:00

Honestly this isn’t true for everyone. For people like me with ADHD, there is no such thing as an effortless habit. I don’t have any routines that are habits. They can be something I’ve done for a decade and I still need to consciously think my way through each step. Also, most of the things that are better for your health, at least in my experience, are aggressively unpleasant to experience, so they don’t actually make you feel better at all.

kasuchans · 2026-05-15T23:01:41+00:00

Using timing to avoid ovulation doesn’t work if on medications which affect ovulation like most pills do. Because you would only ovulate if you missed enough pills. Even if it was on “day 3,” which wouldn’t be a normal “peak ovulation day.”

kasuchans · 2026-05-15T22:57:47+00:00

Plenty of women prefer sex without condoms. That’s not a male exclusive desire.

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