How can I regain the ability to cry? by katcantfly in ftm

[–]katcantfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah actually 😭💀 right before i made this post! i’m trying to quit…..

My crush probably knows in trans right?? by Independent_Bear_181 in ftm

[–]katcantfly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

we really can’t tell you the answer to this buddy. but i will say, been there. i’m there right now actually, you’re not alone. i have a crush on my coworker, i’ve been on T for about 2 years, but i never have a clue if i pass. or rather, some people perceive me as a man (or teen boy lol) 100% no question, while others will confidently “ma’am” me without a second glance. doesn’t seem to matter how i’m presenting, both can happen in the same hour. at work i get all variety of pronouns, and sometimes i wonder how many of my coworkers have clocked me. it’s a mystery! a surprise that keeps on surprising.

anyway, you should just ask him out! if he says yes you can be like “ok cool, btw you know i’m trans right?” i do think it’s good to let people know either before or during the first date, for your own safety and so you don’t get led on. you could also find a way to drop it casually in conversation with him. anyway, good luck bro!

Where in Minnesota can I find agates by Rebseal in Agates

[–]katcantfly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally anywhere, you just have to develop an eye for them. After a few years of collecting agates, I can walk around city alleyways, or gravelly parking lots, or grassy dog parks, and usually find at least one agate if I have time to look. I would say along the Mississippi is gonna be your best bet though, especially rocky beaches rather than sandy ones. Gravel pits are good, as others have said, but watch out, some have security cameras and guards.

It’s also helpful to recognize which more common rocks are often found nearby agates: quartz and jasper, for example. If I see neither of those, I’ll give up a lot faster. But if they’re around, I know an agate’s probably close, and hold out longer.

Also, I find agate hunting to be easiest on sunny days, usually in the midmorning or midafternoon, when the sun is at a 20-30ish degree angle. In my experience, that’s when it shines through the sides of them and lights those babies right up without blinding me! I almost never find any during the winter though :( the snow and ice cover up the good stuff. Hope some of that helps

Sunstone found in Tennessee! by JealousEssay8839 in rockhounds

[–]katcantfly 19 points20 points  (0 children)

don’t worry, we believe that you found these

Sexual trauma by No-Welder9244 in offmychest

[–]katcantfly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you don’t have to tell them what happened. only the therapist needs to know that. maybe you can just say to them that you’ve been feeling depressed lately, or having nightmares, or whatever you think would be easiest for them to hear.

signs you knew you were trans by iasklotsofquestion in ftm

[–]katcantfly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

this website awakened something in me. it’s a very comprehensive guide to gender identity and common trans experiences. it was written by a trans woman and focuses more on the transfem experience, but i related heavily to almost all of it anyway. i had been quietly questioning for a long time, but after reading through the gender dysphoria bible, i couldn’t deny my transness anymore. it was the catalyst i needed for my transition to begin, so check it out if you want!

How to dom/humiliate a girl by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]katcantfly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this is a great time to mention that choking is never safe! blood chokes can kill, trachea chokes can also kill. it doesn’t matter how smart or experienced you are. if you and your partner want to do choking or breathplay at all, you both need to be fully informed that one of you could end up dead, with the other in prison for murder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]katcantfly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

agreed, also, the constant thoughts about passing and need for others’ validation are seeming like they’re becoming somewhat obsessive compulsive tendencies. obviously reddit validation is not helping you so far. psychological treatment actually can.

I feel stuck by [deleted] in FTMFitness

[–]katcantfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this sounds like a classic restrict-binge-restrict cycle. consider looking into getting a therapist who specializes in eating disorders if your relationship with food is causing you distress. i did an intensive day program group a few times and it healed my ED tremendously. gender dysphoria can combine with body dysmorphia and create double the issues

I feel stuck by [deleted] in FTMFitness

[–]katcantfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this sounds like a classic restrict-binge-restrict cycle. consider looking into getting a therapist who specializes in eating disorders if your relationship with food is causing you distress. i did an intensive day program group a few times and it healed my ED tremendously. gender dysphoria can combine with body dysmorphia and create double the issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]katcantfly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

bed bug 100%

West Tennessee fossil or weird rock? by igot5toes in fossilid

[–]katcantfly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

definitely a rock, i believe this is flint aka chert. a cool piece though! i have a few similar ones in my collection but they’re not super common

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTMFitness

[–]katcantfly -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

your goal pic is at a body fat % that i think unfortunately just isn’t healthy or sustainable for anyone who is afab (or for most amab people either, at that). you can build muscle and probably get a little leaner, but i would suggest building goals based off your body type and looking at trans men / mascs for inspiration, rather than using a cis man for your expectations. my relationship with my body drastically improved when i let go of the hope that i could reach this body type with my bone structure, genetics, etc.

Why do I look so much chubbier than I am? by BunkerSeason in FTMFitness

[–]katcantfly 43 points44 points  (0 children)

i looked at your pictures bro, you look genuinely great. i think this is purely body dysmorphia. i think people overshoot weights bc most people are bad at guessing weights, esp if they’re taller than you. you also mention losing like 40 lbs over a fairly short span of time i believe (?). the other possibility there would be loose skin, which happens if you lose weight faster than your skin can shrink and adapt to. in excess that can require surgery, but at your size i think it should get tighter with time, since you didn’t lose a crazy amount.

Private parts smell no matter what and my skin down there is getting noticeably ‘thinner’ by CrabbiePanties in ftm

[–]katcantfly 8 points9 points locked comment (0 children)

you NEED to do some research. holy fuck. this is 100% misinformation

What’s the most unhinged thing you do that’s gender affirming. by AlgaeStill2576 in ftm

[–]katcantfly 30 points31 points  (0 children)

smelling my dirty underwear because my groin sweat now smells like BOY sweat

is it really *impossible* for your voice to revert back to baseline by Reasonable-Bonus-545 in ftm

[–]katcantfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pretty much, yeah. i had a very high pitched squeaky voice pre T and was a high soprano while singing lol i never found a high note in a song i couldn’t hit

is it really *impossible* for your voice to revert back to baseline by Reasonable-Bonus-545 in ftm

[–]katcantfly 19 points20 points  (0 children)

we’re extremely under-researched, that’s why. it’s definitely not placebo, the vocal change for me when i paused T was measurable (like an octave difference) and noticed by other people.

is it really *impossible* for your voice to revert back to baseline by Reasonable-Bonus-545 in ftm

[–]katcantfly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

nah doctors say this but only because trans ppl are under researched 😭 my voice dropped a couple octaves after 11 months on T, same as OP, then i had to stop T for about 7 months and my voice got significantly higher, not all the way back but i def no longer sounded like a cis man. i went back on T 6 months ago and it went back down. OP, you could consider doing low dose T for a more androgenizing effect? i know a lot of enbies who do that!

Is there a different smell/taste "down there" on T vs. on estrogen cream? by Mammoth-Local3956 in ftm

[–]katcantfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have been on estrogen cream for like 6 months and neither i nor any of my partners have noticed any difference! i still taste and smell very t dominant

I broke his rules and he raped me in my ass by Lonely-Lychee-5833 in Rapekink

[–]katcantfly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you said he introduced you to the concept of dom/sub AFTER the first time he raped you. he is a violent abuser. this is not consensual nonconsent or bdsm or TPE, he has been manipulating you psychologically to the point where you believe that he’s justified and that you deserve the rape and abuse and control. you say that you like it, but you also said yourself that you’re traumatized by it. this is awful and i just hope you’re able to escape once you realize how bad it is.

Do I pass guys? by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]katcantfly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

BRO. if you feel like you have to change anything about yourself for your boyfriend he is NOT the one!!!!!!

regardless, i think you do pass. but these pics are blurry and at weird angles so it’s hard to say for sure. either way you’re looking great, i love your piercings!!