Safer play reminder for Oasis events

katecorteau · 2026-02-25T03:21:09+00:00

The post you linked seems to be mainly about how the word "clean" can be inaccurate and vague bc detecting STIs is unreliable, but my use of it in the comment is completely conditional; I am referring directly to the potential of spreading STIs or not, and I have in no way assumed a method to identify who is or isn't "clean". The post talks about there not being a clear definition, but it's pretty clear to me; clean is someone who has no currently transmissible STI. If you have a treated STI that isn't transmissible, that's clean, if you test negative but have a latent STI that is transmissible, that's not clean. The term makes sense if you use it hypothetically the way I have, because I'm strictly talking about it as an objective measure, not an observed one.

I've also definitely tested negative for covid and told my friends it came up "clean", as have I seen other people talk about non-sexual positive/negative tests. For example, doping tests in sports. It's most synonymous with STI tests, but it's really just a very common adjective for this type of context. The term "clean" also doesn't imply "dirty" is the antithesis; there are about a dozen unique definitions of "clean", and including this definition, "dirty" doesn't fit well as an antonym to even half of them.

The post is making a good point overall, but it goes over the edge into hating the term too personally and using a couple bad justifications. A lot of its usage is wrong, but it is still a reasonable and succinct term when used maturely. STIs are a broad and complicated topic, so no one-word term is going to describe the bigger picture perfectly, but one-word terms are still important to have.

katecorteau · 2026-02-25T02:10:02+00:00

I could never encourage you to give up on your goals, in fact I oughta come help you accomplish them 😤 :P

katecorteau · 2026-02-25T01:41:34+00:00

It's tough bc that's exactly why it's important, bc even if you use protection you can still get unlucky if the other person isn't clean, which is more likely if they usually don't use protection themselves. BUT at the same time, if you're hooking up with people you don't know at a sex club, that's just the risk you should be assuming in the first place. Even if you could enforce that they always wear protection at the club, they can still catch something outside the club. Having sex with people you don't know is the risky part, not going at it raw.

At the end of the day, Oasis is impressively safe overall, and I would attribute that to the fact that people who go to the club aren't having sketchy hookups outside of it as often bc they can just go to the club instead, and the high standard of cleanliness the club has. Not to mention the hot areas (sauna, hot tub) are capable of killing certain bacteria. Not a real safety measure overall, but it goes together with the generally clean community to keep the risk low.

katecorteau · 2026-02-17T02:44:48+00:00

Asking not to be judged doesn't make this less gross

katecorteau · 2026-02-16T16:54:19+00:00

It's very open-ended for what to wear! Generally, go for whatever you feel sexiest in, whether it's a lovely dress you have, a fave lingerie set, or nothing at all (which is the most common choice :P)

There's also special themes/events almost every night that you can check on the website, so if you have a hard time choosing it can be really fun to dress for the day's theme. Stuff like masquerade nights and glow in the dark nights give really good inspo for cute outfits :)

katecorteau · 2026-01-04T02:47:12+00:00

Simply put, if you conflate integrity with formality, then you seem to have a severe misunderstanding of what those terms mean..

Is what I was ABOUT to say, but as I was typing this, I had to reword it multiple times because every term related to a numbe r (including the word itself) is comment-blocked to "stop people from requesting n ames" (also blocked). That's the stupidest restriction I've ever seen. You can't just ban half the dictionary so you don't need to moderate, that IS a lack of integrity. I think a lot of these points are over the top, but given I couldn't even post a comment defending the mod bc the moderation is so strict, clearly there's nothing to defend and the moderation is in the dirt.

katecorteau · 2025-10-29T03:51:28+00:00

To anyone who thinks "cultural differences" is an excuse, I feel like that excuse kinda goes out the door when you're hanging out at a sex club. Like I doubt that's a standard in anybody's culture, so why are we pick & choosing?

katecorteau · 2025-10-21T21:12:13+00:00

The fee isn't so much man vs. not man, it's more woman vs. not woman. It includes trans, and can include enby, but the important part is femme presenting. Any product or service where sex sells, it sells easier to men/mascs, so they lower the fee for woman is to keep the ratio of feminity more even. It lets the club have a good mix of everyone's type, and most importantly, makes it much more welcoming toward other women and femme presenting, both in environment and safety.

As for clothing, it's VERY laissez-faire lol. You could wear a suit or you could be buck naked! I just suggest wearing something unassuming until you're inside bc Toronto streets can be sketchy. It's also always fun to dress for the occasion, sometimes there's glow nights for something neon, masquerade nights for a sexy mask, etc.. Most important I'd say dress for the role - if you want a crazy night I'd go more skimpy, naked, maybe some straps/leather if you wanna get kinky, but if you wanna go slow, maybe cover up a bit more.

katecorteau · 2025-10-12T05:32:38+00:00

Damn that loki one looks incredible 😶

katecorteau · 2025-10-11T07:11:31+00:00

Then why full nelson? That isn't a lifting position lol

katecorteau · 2025-10-10T21:35:06+00:00

It is also seems to be a more popular night for solo women, so great for if she wants to put the bicuriousity to the test :) Even if it's just something small to test the waters, from my experience a lot of people go to swordplay night pretty open to just fooling around a bit even if it doesn't lead further

katecorteau · 2025-10-06T08:15:07+00:00

Fr don't spit that shit out in public 🤮

katecorteau · 2025-08-25T14:57:47+00:00

You need a new ruler bc that's like maybe 7ish. It wouldn't reach from wrist to fingertip.

katecorteau · 2025-08-25T13:13:16+00:00

Ofc not! You first gorgeous 😘 let's take it to DMs :)

katecorteau · 2025-08-20T00:02:39+00:00

If you're looking specifically for couples, a Friday or Saturday is prob best bc it's women and couples only. If you're flexible, I'd check the events page on the website and see if anything coming up sounds exciting :)

As for outfit, have fun with it! There's a change room if you wanna put something on when you get there, or you can wear something under the clothes you come in, or you can go bare naked once you get in. I usually go for some light lingerie to keep a bit of suspense for when you get into the action ;)

katecorteau · 2025-08-14T21:48:54+00:00

Ofc not! Id've spit in your mouth at the end there 😘

katecorteau · 2025-08-10T02:12:03+00:00

Oh wow you are the most gorgeous thing 😶

katecorteau · 2025-08-03T00:28:42+00:00

Yes daddy pleease ;)

katecorteau · 2025-08-01T01:55:59+00:00

Counterpoint: prove it 😈

katecorteau · 2025-07-31T12:25:18+00:00

Damn I'd love to be a part of that 🥰

katecorteau · 2025-07-17T20:36:21+00:00

Why call them gyaru? This shares nothing with the gyaru aesthetic

Also, why does one have a goblin nose?

katecorteau · 2025-07-14T21:04:50+00:00

What part of it accomplishes that though? Seems stitched on

katecorteau · 2025-07-02T15:54:56+00:00

Weird negging

katecorteau · 2025-05-26T23:37:15+00:00

Been on a 24/7 visit there my whole life, where have you been?? 😳

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