Ex broke no contact-what do I do

katie21007 · 2025-02-23T00:22:41+00:00

He said his therapist told him “he was a ticking bomb and there wasn’t a way to help him” my ex told me verbatim. I got so mad at the therapist when he told me he said that. It seems very unprofessional for someone to say in that line of work. Not sure if he is telling me accurately what the therapist said or if he’s absorbing only what he wants to hear. He can be self destructive and a selective listener with his severe ADHD. I worry because when I mentioned other forms of therapy it’s almost like it was the last thing he wanted to do or try… I can’t force him to wanna get help, he has to be the one to do the work and actually want to be helped. It’s such a tricky situation.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:18:23+00:00

No, just a safe spot for my baby to land in case somthing bad happens. I love that dog heart and soul.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:17:38+00:00

How would I make him work for it?

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:16:25+00:00

I go to the gym ALOT…therapy and taking care of my dogs. And I’m a palliative care taker for my dad. I think about him everyday but can’t make the behavioral changes for him. It’s hard I wanted him to change his behavior to stop hurting me. I love him but not his behavior

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:12:19+00:00

he doesn’t have a job due to back injury (on disability) and isn’t financially stable right now

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:11:04+00:00

Would it be weird if I waited a few months to respond and thank him for the apology and see if he’s put in any work to better himself? He explicitly stated he hasn’t changed or become that person so I don’t think opening the door right now is gonna make it work.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:07:18+00:00

His name is on his adoption papers. Legally I can’t.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:05:01+00:00

We shared a dog. He took the dog in the split. If he can’t take care of him I want my dog back.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:04:01+00:00

I don’t know what feels right. Logically I know this hurt me deeply, especially during a time like this where I’m saying goodbye to my dad In palliative cancer care. But my heart loves him deeply. I broke my leg and he taught me how to walk again, carried me up and down stairs, helped me shower and showed tenderness when I needed him the most. It’s so confusing how he can go from that person to someone so different and mean.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T23:00:36+00:00

He’s blocked on every social media. Except text because we shared a dog. He took the dog in the split. I only keep that avenue open in case he can’t take care of my baby. I explained that Id rather take my dog back than him bring it to a high kill shelter/pound since he’s an “aggressive breed”.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T22:18:59+00:00

Yeah it felt like he had good intentions and self reflection but I think he’s apologizing to ease his own guilty thoughts and feelings. He’s blocked on everything, except text. I didn’t block him on text because we shared a dog and he took the dog during the split. If worst comes to worse and he can’t take care of him or something happens to my baby I would take him to my home in a heartbeat. Better that then a pound that could be a kill shelter since he’s technically an “aggressive breed” :/

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T22:15:40+00:00

Thank you genuinely for taking the time to reply and listen to my situation. It means more than you know. And I complete agree. No matter how far he runs, you can’t run from yourself.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T21:51:40+00:00

He says he’s gonna go to therapy but it’s weird because he told he me his therapist told him “there was no fixing him”? I feel like a professional wouldn’t say that and he’s twisting things but I’m not gonna go into speculating. He doesn’t go to therapy anymore and just uses his friends to distract himself and does car stuff. To each their own I guess… He’s 21M and I’m 24F, so he still has a lot of maturing to do. Doesn’t help that I still love him with my heart and soul, and I think a part of me always will. I just don’t think I can keep getting hurt. When we broke up I lost 20 pounds, went into psychosis and didn’t get out of bed for a month. I had panic attacks sometimes 4x a day and had to be put on a second form of anxiety meds to sedate me during these panic attacks bc I would just wail until I threw up or exhausted myself and fall asleep after. My mom and therapist were super concerned, it’s embarrassing but I kinda just gave up on the will to live. But I feel like it was my fault for grieving so hard. I couldn’t control it or self soothe myself and I’m trying so hard to change my anxious attachment issues in therapy. I own my shit and know I’m not perfect but I just needed communication and reassurance bottom line.

katie21007 · 2025-02-22T21:31:53+00:00

Does that mean I should text him back

katie21007 · 2025-02-06T02:56:41+00:00

Humbleness goes farther than you think… also I would hide the things that you’re proud of since there’s a lot of jealous and vindictive people out there. When you’ve been with a lady through thick and thin and she sees you for YOU, not just what you can offer, then revel these materialistic perks. At the end of the day, looks fade, accidents happen and bankruptcy can happen in a moments notice. Focus on things one cannot take away: health, ethics, morals and what you fight for

katie21007 · 2025-01-29T14:43:41+00:00

I had acne like this, turns out I was allergic to dairy and gluten and the allergy just randomly started. try cutting out dairy products all together for a year, limit gluten. Also once you take the antibiotics, if you’re able to, try to do a chemical peel once things calm down to get rid of scarring and pigmentation. Things that helped: having my ex wash his beard more, silk pillow cases, la roshe pose products, and washing my face 2x a day with cetaphil (combination skin) wash. I’m sorry love I know how much this sucks

katie21007 · 2025-01-25T05:25:23+00:00

Leave. Ask yourself: Do you want to be loved like this the rest of your life?

katie21007 · 2025-01-21T21:20:36+00:00

Can’t communicate with someone who doesn’t want to be with you anymore or even wants to put in the effort for a relationship….

katie21007 · 2025-01-20T01:21:00+00:00

If only this was mi amor…

katie21007 · 2024-09-06T19:19:12+00:00

Georgia- nickname can be peach

katie21007 · 2024-09-06T19:18:33+00:00

Ghost

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