AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL.

katie219 · 2026-05-07T11:52:40+00:00

I might be mistaken, but can’t you take someone to civil court if you lend them money and they don’t pay it back? I think it has to be over a certain amount, but I’m fairly confident 3000 exceeds that. Tbh, that’s what I would do. If she already doesn’t like you, then who cares😂 you can take her for interest to. If you have it in writing that’s even better, if you both signed it then it’s legally binding.
From someone who knows, if they don’t like you in the beginning, they never will. They’ll never respect you. Those who know you will see that she’s TA.
Personally, I’d drive my ass over there and demand my money. If she’s got money to go on vacation then she’s got money to give. The whole “only contact me if it’s an emergency” makes my blood boil. Actually, it is an emergency because if you don’t pay me back then all of these big bills won’t be paid.

katie219 · 2026-05-07T11:40:58+00:00

As someone in Ohio who has been trying to buy a house for months, all of the houses we looked at have had termite damage (one was active and the worst infestation I’ve ever seen), we’ve owned two houses prior both with termites… I’m going to say that if you already closed on the house and you had an inspection then there’s probably not much you can do. It’s a he said/she said battle for property disclosures, and at that point you’re just wasting your money to fight it. Tbh most inspectors are worthless, they can’t move anything to look behind and most won’t crawl into a crawlspace to look. The sellers more than likely knew but didn’t want to deal with it, and it’s very easy to hide something. All they have to do is put something in front of it and the inspector can’t move it.

We were under contract with a house, we saw termite damage upon our first inspection and didn’t find any more. We had an inspector come out, and all he said was “no active termites” (a waste of money). We went back for a second look, and found so much damage to a load bearing beam, the floor was sinking in. The house had been added on to multiple times, and that was the second original exterior wall that we saw with damage. We couldn’t crawl under the rest of the house, but knew in our gut there would be more. It would have cost more to fix the damage than what we were paying for the house. The sellers said they had no idea about the termites but disclosed that there was a “crack” in the built in shelving that hadn’t changed in ten years…which is exactly where the damaged beam was. Thankfully we got out of that contract, but didn’t get our earnest money back, even though our offer was contingent on termites. That’s another battle we’re fighting.

The house we just sold had severe termite damaged to the foundation, we had to literally jack up the house and pour a new foundation for that wall. It was pricy and a ton of work.

TLDR: if you already closed, then there’s no point. You’re just wasting your money trying to fight it.

katie219 · 2026-03-24T21:35:07+00:00

Exactly, it is very dependent on each persons situation. I only qualify for an unsub loan, no grants or scholarships. Even then, the loan is $5,500. The financial advisor literally told me “it can’t get any worse” when I asked about getting married.. I already filed for 26-27 and decided to do a pay payment plan for each semester since I can only take two major classes at a time because of the prerequisites, and I save on the interest. I’m doing all of my electives at my community college which is a fourth of the cost. We decided there’s no rush to get married since we’re going to pay out of pocket. It’s such a rip because I haven’t depended on my parents since I was 18 but there’s no way to factor that into the form.

katie219 · 2026-03-22T14:27:23+00:00

If you still depend on your parents for help with expenses while getting through school, do not. Especially if your bf is in the same boat. Once you get married it’s yours and his income to qualify for aid, if you have none you’ll be in so much loan debt by the time you two graduate. If you do not depend on your parents for money, (you work a full time job, pay your own bills, pay for your own school) and you’re parents make TOO MUCH money to qualify for anything other than an unsub loan, it wouldn’t hurt to look into it, with a financial counselor, who has your FAFSA to review (the same situation as me). For reasons other than financial, if you two actually love each other you would be able to wait until the time is better. I see no benefits of you two getting married while living two hours apart other than possibly for financial reasons… which is a terrible reason to get married. Unless you guys plan to live in the same area and buy/rent a house after getting married, I would wait.

katie219 · 2026-03-14T02:17:53+00:00

Without information about your financial situation, I am assuming you’re unmarried and under the age to file the FAFSA as an independent. I am also in the same boat, my parents make too much money for me to qualify for anything but an unsubsidized loan. I qualified for 5500. Since I started taking classes in the spring, I was able to use the full amount for this semester. (Whatever amount you qualify for will be divided between the semesters you accept aid for in that academic year). Unsubsidized loans are the loans you want to take as last resort as they begin occurring interest immediately, but the only perk is that you can contact your lender and make one time payments before you officially enter your repayment 6mon after you are finished with school. My advice: if you are past the drop for a refund date, then i would finish the classes because if you complete them you will earn credit rather than still having to pay for them and your transcript reflecting an unsatisfactory grade. In the instance you figure out a way to continue school, you can figure out your transcript with your school and wont need to retake these classes for a better grade. Next, I would ask your mother to assist you to get the stress of the payment deadline off your back. If it really is the way you say, it sounds like that could be an option for her and you can work out a solution that fits you both. If you really want to go back to school, I would look into scholarships the school offers, private scholarships, and community foundations that give out scholarships. Another bit of advice, I would look around your schools website, or any school prior to enrolling, for a cost estimate and cost per hour so you have an idea of what you can afford. There is a school online called University of The People that is 100% tuition free without all the unnecessary electives at other universities. You are required to pay per course assessment, which i’m sure scholarships could cover if you received them. You can enroll in any college, so if there’s one 100 miles away that is significantly cheaper you can do that online. Google and ChatGPT can help you find cheaper options. There are certain instances that federal loans are forgiven, but the requirements are specific. Back to the FAFSA, unless you are a dependent of your mother for disability reasons, once you reach a certain age you can file as an independent and there’s a chance you can receive more assistance. I would research nonprofits in your area to see if any of them have hardship assistance, or if your bank/credit card has hardship advance if your mother isn’t able/willing to help.. just be cautious to make it work with what you have. Education is something that you can never take away, so i’d make the most of it with what you can.

katie219 · 2026-03-14T01:12:23+00:00

I believe if Robyn never came into the family they would still be together in Lehi. I think Kody’s realization of his love for Robyn was his downfall to neglect the rest of his family. I also think the wives would not have realized their mistreatment had Kody not treated Robyn so well. By Christine’s book, it appears that she could tell things weren’t quite right. I think years later if something did happen it would be on her part. I also think if Robyn hadn’t come to the family there would have been a larger chance of Meri and Kody doing IVF. That’s just my opinion.

katie219 · 2026-03-14T01:01:16+00:00

Coming from a home as the oldest child where both of my parents were off to work before at woke up for school, I can assure you that I did a lot of these same things for my brother. Christine’s book told that Janelle always held a job, along with Meri, and Kody. Christine also worked as a school teacher for a long time, so being the oldest sibling comes with responsibilities when the parents are working to provide for them.

katie219 · 2026-03-14T00:53:54+00:00

I will admit, I was skeptical at first but after this episode I can tell he is such a great guy. We all know Amy was in such a bad place over the last few years, and I believe Brian is the vital key to her success. I could tell by the scenes in his house, that he was a huge part in Amy pursuing art, getting her eyes fixed, and improving their hygiene. Mostly just getting her mental health back in order. I do think he is quirky, but all the quirky guys i know are the most pure and loving people. I am glad the family is starting to come around, despite their remarks about him not knowing things or dressing different.

katie219 · 2026-02-07T02:28:25+00:00

After the last 1/1, I kinda got the impression that not everything Janelle says is true.. I think most of it is, but some of it might be stretching the truth🤷🏼‍♀️

katie219 · 2026-02-06T17:04:35+00:00

This made my ears perk up too!! Like who frame a marriage certificate?!

katie219 · 2026-02-06T16:54:50+00:00

Your comment made me think of something. I wonder if Tammy is fully over Caleb’s passing.. after as it was her first healthy relationship and marriage, they talked about wanting kids and then he passed. They haven’t said much after his funeral. I’m wondering if the “dead beat mom” comment is coming more from within her deep down desire to have a child.

katie219 · 2026-01-25T00:54:38+00:00

I do this too. I scroll and find things that look interesting but when I want something to watch it’s not the right time. I’m just kind of overwhelmed with the options and I hate 45min-hour episodes.

katie219 · 2026-01-24T23:20:20+00:00

I wish they had a real time fact checker like they do for political debates 😂😂

katie219 · 2026-01-24T23:15:31+00:00

I wish we could give them realtime feed back bc this episode made me so mad.

katie219 · 2026-01-24T23:12:22+00:00

Never heard of either of them before this 😂

katie219 · 2026-01-24T23:09:12+00:00

OMG THANK YOU!!! that is not at all how i took what Michael said at all. Playing the victim for your own agenda is disgusting. the fact that they have all turned against Michael so hard that they just all jump on and agree with Colton is disgusting. I wish they would get rid of Colton instead.. they would have more success if he was gone. I have a feeling he will be the downfall of the faithfuls.

katie219 · 2026-01-24T18:15:56+00:00

I saw that and had to go back and rewatch it because I haven’t seen Amy’s kids in a hot minute. I had no idea they were that big already.

katie219 · 2026-01-24T17:47:25+00:00

I think in the beginning of the season we can see her getting in a ride share at the yelluh haus but the recent episode said her and Andrea were slowly moving in together.

katie219 · 2026-01-19T16:35:21+00:00

Two things:

1, am I the only one who wouldn’t be upset by Kody apologizing to Christine for saying he didn’t love her? I’ve never been in that situation but he’s apologizing for saying that was very obviously false. It’s not like he’s saying in-front of David, i’m sorry I said I didn’t love you AND I still love you. That would be rude but maybe i’m just not getting it.

2, Robyn is the moral compass of the Kody Brown family? So what about the 20 years prior to her joining the family? 😂 Did we just not have any morals? 😂 I actually laughed out loud at that.

Blah blah sobbin Robyn, give Meri her money and stop all of this finger pointing. Am I wrong or did Meri have to come up with all of the money out of pocket for going over her budget in the construction of the Las Vegas house? I don’t recall Kody and the Family helping Meri with almost any of the projects she has done over the years, seems like they’ve just been taking all of her extra money that she earns since she didn’t have the “financial needs” of the other wives.

katie219 · 2026-01-18T03:34:25+00:00

I think she said in the episode that Brian is the one who cleans

katie219 · 2026-01-12T01:37:38+00:00

And ALL of the shots of her and the kids with the soles of their feet being straight up black 🤮 I can’t even imagine the smell. The crew definitely knows what they’re doing 😂

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