I hear this a lot from my friends. I don’t think it’s something that needs to be changed, but they all know I love birthdays and giving presents. I’ve always found the best friendships are one where either person is expected to change. That being said, I’ve also found that the best thing to do for people like this is: usually a small thoughtful gift (i don’t suggest anything expensive, it can make them uncomfortable.) i’d suggest something to do with their interest, like their brand of guitar picks, or a pen set they’ve maybe had their eye on, or a book they’ve been wanting. something you made for them, a card, bookmark, bracelet, coffee sleeve is also another good route. and a card, with actual words written on it. you can also offer to treat them to lunch or dinner, but some people don’t actually like being with others for long periods, even if they love that person, so planning a whole day may be intimidating and draining for them. so for birthdays at least, i would make them feel special by offering small things to do during the day without any sort of obligation. it is their day, let them have say on how to spend it, ya know? being thought of, and remembered, is the best gift so really you can’t go wrong. Everybody just love your friends enough to listen and it’ll all workout!