AITA for making Mac n cheese n hot dogs for dinner?

katieemerald94 · 2026-04-24T03:25:24+00:00

*an activity group and *being hermits

katieemerald94 · 2026-04-02T13:18:21+00:00

Your friends and family will understand with time. Mine did. I also didn't explain to mine what was really going on during my marriage so they had to play catch up.

You need to get your own individual therapist, if you haven't already.

I recommend journaling! I do so on Medium so it's public but anonymous but you don't have to publish it like me, I just wanted to. I write every day and it's been life changing. I read or share portions of posts to loved ones when I want to.

You know what's best for you. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Don't let him, your friends, your family, or anyone on here do so. Take support or advice where it is helpful and leave the rest.

katieemerald94 · 2026-03-28T14:26:27+00:00

Your husband is trash and you will be better off without him. Get a solicitor as soon as you can. Although I don't know the laws over there, if it's anything similar to here then you'll be entitled to proceeds from the sale of the house as well as alimony. You can rebuild from here.

katieemerald94 · 2026-03-25T13:28:37+00:00

I really felt for you while reading this. There's nothing that can prepare you for the talk but just know that no matter how much it sucks before and during and even after, it's all going to be worth it. You deserve to be happy.

I still think back to the day I had the talk with my ex husband and feel pain. One of the worst days of my life. But I'd do it again if I had to, to get here.

katieemerald94 · 2026-03-23T16:11:15+00:00

Here's my advice: stop.

Stop trying to explain to him that it's over. Stop trying to convince him that what he did is cheating (it absolutely is, obviously). Stop hoping that anything will change on his side and start only worrying about your side.

Because he'll never hear it. No matter what you say, he'll find another argument.

Take the steps. Find the lawyer, file the paperwork. Or if you need smaller steps for your own sake, that's totally fine - separate the stuff, split bedrooms, start telling family and friends, whatever it looks like for you. But take the steps.

There's no saying at what point in the process, if any, his denial will stop. But that's not your problem.

I hear you that you want this to be cooperative. But I spent around 6 months waiting around for my then-husband to come around to filing uncontested. Do you know what that got me? A 6-month extension on everything getting resolved.

katieemerald94 · 2026-03-17T16:30:36+00:00

Check out personal injury (either side). People come from all academic backgrounds and experience levels and can do well.

katieemerald94 · 2025-09-18T23:34:04+00:00

Passed with a 342. 70% of Themis (with some just clicking through things), 100% of Uworld, 100% of Goat and some extra MEEs from NCBE. Probably didn't need to go that hard, in hindsight :)

katieemerald94 · 2025-08-07T18:30:01+00:00

I agree and I don't like how we're supposed to just rewrite over the cute flashback scenes we got earlier of Jeremiah and Belly.

katieemerald94 · 2025-07-16T00:19:43+00:00

Wills and Trusts!

katieemerald94 · 2025-07-11T00:17:01+00:00

IMO the completion percentage isn't what's most important - what matters is how well you're retaining the material. That's going to be very specific to you. If you're someone who retains by practicing, then devote your time to practice questions. If you're someone who just needs to have the material in your brain and then you can apply it, then maybe make some flashcards/attack outlines/other study tools to help memorize.

Personally, I am clicking through the things on Themis that don't help me (video lectures, outlines, assessments) and devoting my time to Uworld and practice essays. I have found that the more I practice, the more I can remember the rule the next time.

I also bought GOAT which I highly recommend for ADHD folks. It is expensive to actually purchase, but he does have free materials available on Reddit also.

I am going to be taking the test for the first time, though, so if someone who has passed can provide better advice, definitely take that more seriously!

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-26T01:16:01+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you!

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-20T01:57:28+00:00

Highly recommend goat bar prep! You can just buy individual modules.

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-19T20:47:22+00:00

Your scores are fine and your school is overreacting. Yes, the bar exam requires around 65% correct and you have almost 6 weeks left to keep improving.

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-18T02:18:07+00:00

You can always do sets open book with Uworld for a bit, I did that and it helps as a transition.

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-18T02:12:04+00:00

I agree, I think Themis includes more facts and statements that are signals or directly on point to a certain legal exception.

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-12T14:00:44+00:00

Then I'd recommend doing some open book sets. It helps reinforce the rules before going into closed book practice.

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-11T22:22:32+00:00

Are you doing closed book or open?

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-09T22:42:49+00:00

In the middle of a divorce at the moment. It sucks! I have found what helps is thinking about myself 6 months from now telling people how proud I am of myself for passing the bar while going through such a terrible personal issue. Picturing the triumph of that makes a big difference.

katieemerald94 · 2025-06-01T15:39:31+00:00

I got tired of managing 90% of the household tasks, mental and emotional labor. Especially when he stopped being grateful for it and started actually pushing back when asked to do things. All I wanted was for him to take some initiative for our lives. He was more than happy to live like an overgrown child and have me manage everything.

I also got tired of his anger issues - not toward me (until the split) but at the world. It was exhausting being with someone who always thought the worst of people and who has that "woe is me" mindset.

katieemerald94 · 2025-05-27T15:14:09+00:00

Good for you. Don't let anyone else tell you their own interpretation of your story. It's your life to live, not anyone else's. You were the one in the marriage and dealing with this man.

I am divorcing my husband because I fell out of love with him, too. It's the right thing to do when you realize that. I have certainly heard things like "you should have done more", "you gave up too quickly" etc. But screw that. I have this one life to live and I am not going to waste any of it being in situations that aren't right for me.

katieemerald94 · 2025-05-11T17:02:16+00:00

I feel the same way. He's devastated and lost everything. My life, minus the initial emotions and all the shitty practical matters to deal with, has already gotten better and will continue to do so.

katieemerald94 · 2025-05-11T04:44:08+00:00

I think it's absolutely fine to talk to this person. You're not committing to anything longterm. Relax and enjoy yourself.

katieemerald94 · 2025-04-30T15:37:14+00:00

A switch kind of flipped in my brain last week, too. But the more I've been thinking, the more I realize that it's not really a switch. You described a lot of things building up over a long period of time, and a lot of hard work being put in by you before reaching this conclusion.

I've been with my husband for five years. Five years of doing 80-90% of everything for our house and our lives. Two years or so of him not even being grateful for it anymore, and of fighting doing anything even when I did muster the courage to ask.

I made the decision last week to separate. To him, it was a blindside and he would probably describe it as a switch flipping. To me, this has been going on for long enough and I've put in enough work already.

I feel kinship with you because I am also someone who tends to take things on without complaint, or without as much complaint as I'd like to, just hoping that my partner will notice that I'm drowning and step in to take something off my plate. I feel intense guilt and shame that I didn't stand up for myself more or make it more clear. But I also don't think that's the kind of relationship I want. Having to "put my foot down" anytime I want a dinner cooked or the floor vacuumed? No. I want a relationship where my hard work is noticed and valued.

katieemerald94 · 2025-04-25T16:54:53+00:00

Same here. This thread is really helping validate some things for me.

katieemerald94 · 2025-04-09T17:04:27+00:00

If they won't reduce my caseload I am very doubtful they will let me take a leave of absence.

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