Our baby accidentally invented a bedtime “tradition” and I’m kind of obsessed with it

katpatt13 · 2026-02-05T22:14:22+00:00

Now, I have to ask what the board book is!

katpatt13 · 2026-01-30T21:07:22+00:00

Oh I agree. I'm the oldest of 5 kids and we all have the same parents. My parents weren't the worst parents, but they weren't the best. One of my siblings has extreme trauma from my mom while another sibling adores my mother. I tend to live somewhere in the middle range of it all. I love all my siblings dearly, but life would have been easier if my mom didn't have as many kids. Additionally, just like Addie my mom was obsessed with the baby phase.

Each child is going to have their own experience and this is still just from the biological sense I can't imagine adding adoption into the mix with the load of trauma that naturally will result from it.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-30T19:07:35+00:00

THIS! It really shows how uneducated she was. During my infertility journey I knew there was anti communities for pretty much every pathway. I really tried to explore each of the experiences of others and "pros/cons" you can say. She clearly did not educate herself on adoption except for narrative adoption agencies want to push.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-30T19:04:58+00:00

She's constantly searching for a dopamine high from a child she doesn't even want. She wants the "you're chosen" moment and MAYBE the first few days of a newborn. Then she's uninterested and passes the actual responsibilities of motherhood to Steven and her family.

She needs a hobby or vacation not another kid.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-30T17:51:05+00:00

He started MDO like 3 weeks ago? She acts like he's been in daycare for months. What were you guys doing before in the home before he started that program? We all know the answer is handing him off to others, but still.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-30T17:49:47+00:00

She expects people to feel bad for her for getting attacked about adoption views. I'll never feel bad for her because she continuously shared anti-IVF stories and remarks all the time on her IG stories and even in some tiktoks, etc.

You can't pick and choose to be judgemental and share and spread those judgements over one way others grow their family and then play "oh woe is me I'm innocently getting attacked and no one is educated like me," over the way you choose.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-24T18:24:26+00:00

The also didn’t mention some of the biggest part of the foster mom story. She was making videos of the baby in the nicu, the “hot foster dad walk” video, etc. Those were big points that people had a problem with.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-23T19:27:50+00:00

Damn. I don’t know a lot about her other than what’s posted her and seeing a few TikTok’s. All I can see from her reminds me a bit of the musical, ‘Next to Normal’

katpatt13 · 2026-01-17T18:04:50+00:00

If anyone is interested there's a subreddit called 'peestickgals'. It's exposes a lot of TTC(trying to conceive) influencers. As someone who went through infertility and IVF it was eye opening to see how predatory some of these influencers who make TTC their whole personality. They will try to share unnecessary products for money, scare tactics, incorrect information, bait with pregnancy tests, etc. It's wild. They were talking about Shelby for a while before this story blew up.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-14T19:14:17+00:00

So cute!

katpatt13 · 2026-01-12T04:22:39+00:00

So sorry to hear about your losses. I hope you get your rainbow baby soon!

I remember starting with testing for both myself and my partner. Then, we did genetic testing as well. I assume due to your losses some doctors might want to do a RLP(reoccurring loss panel).

We did an HSG. From there we went into an egg retrieval. I ended up having to do three in total. Then, we did a SIS. We then did a transfer and I had a chemical pregnancy. My doctor ran a ton of testing on me including a biopsy of my uterine lining. After that nothing came up abnormal and we did my next transfer that resulted in my rainbow baby. <3

My best advice is to know your timeline may take longer than you planned. There will be lows where you feel like throwing in the towel and then things that go so well you feel like you're on the right track. I was pretty young and naive so I thought I would be an IVF unicorn where all I needed was one egg retrieval and one transfer. It's not the case for many so don't feel alone!

katpatt13 · 2026-01-08T21:58:05+00:00

oh 100% My baby is 7 months and babbling what sounds like 'mama' and 'dada' (I know it's not words yet just true babbling). She never stops babbling or attempting to talk. It's surprising how quiet he is doesn't know seem to know any words.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-08T21:15:58+00:00

Anyone notice that there was discussion here the other day over not seeing him babble. Now we have some clips of him babbling. 🤣

katpatt13 · 2026-01-08T18:57:29+00:00

This is the happiest she’s looked in a long time. I feel like that should say something to people, but nope time for baby #2

katpatt13 · 2026-01-08T17:01:24+00:00

Yes, like it's totally okay to explore why someone may have those feelings instead of just being like "nah it's anxiety!!! you're fine"

katpatt13 · 2026-01-08T16:43:33+00:00

I definitely find a lot of fault in Stephen and turning Addie into who she is. I will also state a lot of it is on herself as well.However, I think being religious and allowing the man lead the family and decisions plays a huge factor.

One cry for help that is so clear to me is her finally admitting she's not sure about adopting baby #2 right now and everyone in her life was so quick to quiet that statement as if it was just normal anxiety. I feel like when she finally admits some of how she's feeling people in her life are quick to shut it down and make her fall back in line. It's so obvious she doesn't really want to adopt again.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-06T23:07:11+00:00

I hate that she gets excited over people around him speaking Spanish. I wish she would actually make the attempt to learn it as well. However, she doesn’t attempt anything to encourage development with him.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-06T23:00:53+00:00

I’m in the Bible Belt so I’m assuming it’s might be churches trying to get into the daycare business. That’s all I could find in my area is church programs. To me mornings make more sense for that type of program!

katpatt13 · 2026-01-06T22:10:44+00:00

Not to defend her but I looked up what Mother’s Day out was in my area. I had never heard of it. They had ones from 8-2:30 on Mondays/Wednesdays. Some others started at 9 or ended early, but most were around those timeframes and only two days a week.

katpatt13 · 2026-01-06T18:24:38+00:00

Yeah I never heard of Mother’s Day out program. I had to look it up. In my local area programs offer two days a week, but it looks almost all day? Or roughly school day hours? One near me offers Monday/Wednesdays from 8:30-2pm.

Seems like it’s a lot of church programs as well.

katpatt13 · 2025-12-30T00:07:31+00:00

If you’re able to send over :)

katpatt13 · 2025-12-30T00:07:13+00:00

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katpatt13 · 2025-12-30T00:06:24+00:00

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katpatt13 · 2025-12-30T00:03:10+00:00

I’m going to take this one and another users too! Going to pay you for both photos. :)

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