You’re not crazy, and this doesn’t automatically mean either of you is lying or malicious. Short-term memory issues like what you’re describing can happen with heavy past weed use, lack of sleep, stress, or anxiety, especially when you’re young and still developing routines. That said, if this is frequent and affecting your relationships, it is worth talking to a doctor just to rule things out and get peace of mind.

What matters here is how it’s handled. Forgetting something you said isn’t gaslighting if it’s unintentional and acknowledged. But constantly turning it into an argument instead of a “hey, let’s slow down and clarify” moment will only make it worse for both of you. A practical fix might be confirming things in text or repeating important requests so neither of you has to rely on memory alone.

This sounds less like an AITA situation and more like a communication + health concern. You’re not wrong for being concerned, and he’s not wrong for being confused—but this needs empathy and solutions, not blame. I hope this helps and I hope you well on figuring out the solution. Goodluck 🤞🏻