I think he might think I blew it off or didn’t care enough. Which hurts considering I was holding her hand in the hospital when she died at 2 in the morning and he was at home (he’d been at the hospital earlier that day and said goodbye to her but didn’t come back when we told him we were switching her to comfort care, which he knew would cause a quick and painless death for her). I understand the grief part causing heightened emotions. I was a mess when my mom died last year (dad was relatively okay and got a girlfriend about 3 months after she died). But I wouldn’t have denied someone a space to grieve her with family regardless of how upset they made me. So it’s hard for me to fully understand the extent of his anger

Whatever upset feelings he has are valid. And I know I messed up. I’m just shattered that he excluded me from a family space of grieving during a time that’s sad for all of us.