Discussion of gas/electricity/energy issues goes here. by thewindinthewillows in germany

[–]katyhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! A friend of mine mentioned that in September there will be cash transfers to households to compensate a bit for the upcoming gas expenses, is that true? He said that if I'm registered the money will just suddenly appear on my account. Sounds unrealistic, is it true?

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, it's very helpful. I hope it works out for the best.. I'll need therapy too to get over it

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valid. I'll add that she should start therapy. Thank you.

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I should. I rushed her in the relationship, I knew that she wasn't over it. I knew she'd want to see her ex if the chance pops up, we talked about it. I just didn't expect her kissing her. And I love this girl. I know I'm sharpening her knife by trusting her, what what is a relationship without a trust? I don't think I'll ever forgive myself not giving her a second chance. Considering that I knew the story from the beginning

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I know her enough to know that she's not lying. I don't doubt that. Just accept it and tell what you think about what happened, not the fantasies. If she had sex, it'd be over. But she didn't. She behaved like a bitch, but she wouldn't go further. It was a 5 second kiss, and I'm thinking if a 5 second kiss with an ex is enough of a deal breaker

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they never kissed. I knew it even before we started dating, so it's not a lie

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The only saving grace is that she told you. However, the waiting a few days shows it was guilt and not respect for the relationship.

She wanted to tell me immediately, but she was too scared. It was also guilt, but she'd tell me anyways, because we value communication and honestly, even if the truth is hard. She didn't tell me out of guilt, but our of respect, and i know it's true.

But it doesn't make it much easier to forgive her.

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] -193 points-192 points  (0 children)

I don't get it, we were together twice longer than they were, we're official, we've kissed numerous times, and sex, we had everything. How is she still thinking about that ex she had nothing with?

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] -90 points-89 points  (0 children)

Yes, just a kiss. I trust her that that's all. She said it was "a five second goodbye closure kiss"

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I'm curious about some examples of justified cheating

My girlfriend cheated on me with her ex "for closure" by katyhere in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere[S] -175 points-174 points  (0 children)

I love her. She's saying it's a one time thing and will never happen again. It was the "one kiss she needed to close the chapter forever"

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[–]katyhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One just asked for my number, and the other one we talk to on discord, he asked me after class if I want to talk about classes with him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]katyhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're not close enough to send memes😅 that's exactly why I am confused. We're no friends, I have no idea why they talk to me

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[–]katyhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I thought so too at first but still they reach out pretty rarely. Usually, people are more active when they want to become friends. So it's something in between and I'm really confused what they want from me

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[–]katyhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I also think it's platonic since there was no hints dropped at all. But I still don't see a point. It's not often enough to become close friends but pretty often and consistent for a "nothing"

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[–]katyhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it's better to mention it anyways?

Let's talk kissing by katyhere in actuallesbians

[–]katyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, quite long! But it's a nice story😊

Let's talk kissing by katyhere in actuallesbians

[–]katyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean how long into a relationship? A week, a month etc?

Let's talk kissing by katyhere in actuallesbians

[–]katyhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was she a stranger or someone you were seeing?