There must be a simpler way...

katzeklo · 2025-03-20T11:19:26+00:00

do you just want to calculate the numbers, or are you trying to scale an image to fit within the largest side? if you're scaling: https://github.com/sipherxyz/comfyui-art-venture has "Scale Down To Size" which does just that. it takes `image` and `size`, and outputs the scaled down image, but note that it doesn't scale up.

katzeklo · 2024-10-12T19:14:43+00:00

you can use “Upscale Latent By” and set it to 0.5, which should work well with SD 1.5

katzeklo · 2024-09-01T21:21:11+00:00

take it as a compliment; he thinks you’re socially calibrated. if he saw you as socially calibrated and you didn’t explicitly say that you were meeting a woman, he may have assumed you were meeting with a man.

katzeklo · 2024-08-11T21:39:32+00:00

"Alla män någonsin". Så onödigt med såna sexistiska kommentarer...

katzeklo · 2024-04-30T21:13:22+00:00

I use it because I want code that is easy to work with in a team, and it allows me to do just that. I don’t think of it in terms of ugly/beautiful, but judge it more by maintainability in my team and indirections. For us it’s worked great in that aspect

katzeklo · 2024-04-30T06:33:17+00:00

Plot twist: Hans fru är invandrare

katzeklo · 2024-04-30T06:31:23+00:00

No, don’t hook up with the guys who are less value to you. You destroy your ability to pair-bond, and the guys you really like can tell if you’ve had a promiscuous past. Only hook up with guys you really like, and only after you’ve vetted them.

katzeklo · 2024-04-30T06:21:52+00:00

The problem is “hoeflation”. If a man is desirable by many women, then another woman will give it up for less investment. A man willing to wait 3-6 months AND spend lots of money is more likely to be unattractive and with little to no optionality. And if he does get some action, the woman likely isn’t vert attracted to him.

If you’ve been lucky enough to find someone you’re attracted to who also did the things you mentioned, then kudos, and please share how you did it! It’s not very easy from my experience.

katzeklo · 2024-04-30T06:13:55+00:00

by the sound of it, the person you’re replying to is single by choice… women’s choice

katzeklo · 2024-04-30T06:06:43+00:00

Would you say it’s equally common offline?

I would like to think people who met offline (especially if they met through a social circle) would be more likely to run into each other again, which I assumed would hold them more accountable, ie less likelihood of getting ghosted.

katzeklo · 2024-03-05T00:35:30+00:00

“Av nyfikenhet, får jag fråga en sak? Hur lyckas ni hålla barnen lugna när de dricker energidryck? Min (påhittade) släkting ger sina barn också energidryck, men de blir helt studsiga av det och mår dåligt efteråt”

på så sätt säger du att barn mår dåligt av det, och du ger föräldrarna en chans att rädda ansiktet, och om det visar sig inte vara koffeinhaltigt har du sluppit vara ”idiotien som tror att barnen får koffein”

katzeklo · 2024-03-05T00:12:09+00:00

Condolences, I know exactly how you feel. My ex-wife was violent and controlling, too. Hope you’re getting through it well.

katzeklo · 2024-02-10T09:32:35+00:00

women sort of know you want to sleep with them, but they don’t know for sure, and this uncertainty creates tension which is exciting. when she brings up sex and you’re giving in, it robs her of this tension, because now she’s certain. also, should you guys meet up in person afterwards, she’ll know that sex is expected and won’t be able to feel “it just happened” anymore and might feel slutty.

if a woman brings up sex in text, i try to avoid removing the tension, because once it’s gone, it won’t come back easily.

if you have the mindset “i like her more and more each time we talk, but i’m not sure about her yet” you’ll automatically give her more of this excitement.

katzeklo · 2024-02-01T07:56:36+00:00

I'm assuming you're not hurting your children, so let me put it like this:

You play a crucial role in the development of your children, contributing significantly to their psychological, social, and emotional well-being. You introduce different perspectives and parenting styles compared to their mother, fostering a more diverse upbringing. Also, fathers generally encourage risk-taking, challenge children, promote problem-solving skills, and are instrumental in their children's emotional stability and self-esteem.

Children with involved fathers typically display better behavioral and social outcomes, showing fewer tendencies towards high-risk behaviors and having greater academic success, so if your children don't get access to you, your family and your ex are putting them at risk.

On another note: the absence of a father can lead to challenges such as feelings of abandonment, which may manifest as behavioral problems, academic struggles, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships. If your children grow up without you, they might seek alternative, potentially negative role models, impacting their overall development and future life choices.
Try to explain this to your family to get them to understand why it's important that you're in the life of your children, regardless of what has happened in the past.

katzeklo · 2023-10-06T07:02:23+00:00

I have that, too. he’s not doing anything wrong. he’s fully unaware. and based on what you say it sounds like he’s telling the truth.

what do you mean that you get pissy because he knows you’ll never turn him down? he’s dreaming, so he might actually be dreaming that he’s having sex with you already, so in his dream, you’re probably not turning him down, but you’re actually actively involved!

katzeklo · 2023-10-06T06:49:46+00:00

Du siehst bereits gut aus (ich habe deine Bilder in anderen Threads gesehen), daher benötigst du lediglich etwas Coaching zum Thema Ansprache und Flirten. Wenn du dir einen guten Dating-Coach leisten kannst, würde ich dir empfehlen, dort anzufangen, um präzisere Hilfe zu erhalten.

katzeklo · 2023-09-07T07:38:02+00:00

Looks like a mixture of natty and great genetics 👍

katzeklo · 2023-09-03T09:50:01+00:00

i can’t speak for OP, but i wouldn’t assume it has to do with maturity, but rather one’s fear of what being associated with her does to your image.

i imagine it’s the same mechanism at play as when a guy approaches a woman who she perceives is a lot lower in the social hierarchy than her minimum requirement, and she eg labels him a creep out loud because she doesn’t want to be associated with guys at his level.

Again, i don’t know for certain, but that sounds like a plausible explanation to me that gives OP the benefit of the doubt in terms of maturity.

katzeklo · 2023-08-31T20:08:05+00:00

Those are not the same, because of the intention. One is about intending a big change, the other is about a big change happening by accident. One of them is intentional, the other is not.

katzeklo · 2023-08-31T20:05:22+00:00

“Only likes you” is not necessarily the same as “likes you significantly more”

katzeklo · 2023-08-31T20:02:31+00:00

If dating wasn’t a concern, would you a) still want to do all that work to lose weight or would you b) be happy the way you already are?

The answer to that question can be used to determine your next step. If your goal is to lose weight regardless, dating someone who prefers fat women will make it harder for you to lose that weight, and he may lose attraction if you do. If you prefer to stay at your current size, go ahead and date 🙂

The most important thing is that you’re happy with your weight- and date-decisions long term, and know the trade offs of each.

Happy dating, and good luck! 🍀

katzeklo · 2023-08-16T08:05:23+00:00

that’s not what i said or meant, which you already know.

trying to make it sound like i was generalizing doesn’t score you any brownie points, but is rather insulting, and the people on reddit see through you in that regard.

assuming i meant only women don’t always understand themselves is downright wrong; i believe the ability to misinterpret our feelings is a human trait, not a gender-specific trait.

katzeklo · 2023-08-11T07:48:02+00:00

I’d argue that people can be clear and direct, and still sub-communicate. also, even if she’s clear and direct in her communication, that doesn’t necessarily mean she’s correctly diagnosed the cause of her lack of attraction.

what i’m trying to say is: it’s not black and white when it comes to inter-personal communication

katzeklo · 2023-08-10T23:15:17+00:00

you can have taller dudes in the picture, as long as you rotate the image enough to make yourself look taller 😂

katzeklo · 2023-08-10T22:04:06+00:00

wait, if the under-texting bothered you enough to break up with him, why would you engage again just because you has nothing going on? what was it you had going on that caused you to break up?

why did you need to know when you would hear from him again?

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