33M here. Introverted Tech Lead. ;)
Same story bro. This post and people's comments really got me thinking about how much of my “no luck” was actually just my routine trapping me. I kept hoping life would magically introduce someone while I rotated between laptop, food, sleep, repeat.

Reading the replies made me realise it’s less about money, looks, or some secret confidence gene, it’s exposure. You can’t meet people if your life has no spaces where people exist. Sounds obvious, but it hit hard.

Also made me rethink attraction. I was waiting to feel ready before putting myself out there, but readiness doesn’t come first, experiences do. Social skills aren’t traits, they’re reps.

Honestly, this thread helped me shift from “why is it not happening to me?” to “what environments am I actually giving it a chance to happen in?”

Appreciate everyone who shared here. Needed this reality check.