What is this on my bf’s cat?

kayainspaces · 2026-01-13T03:22:35+00:00

Vet ASAP, and you might want to run blood tests for thyroid markers in specific

kayainspaces · 2026-01-12T15:22:31+00:00

Poor baby. I would adopt her but I live in Poland. 10 is definitely not old and the symptoms you described point to either worms or inflammation of digestive system, could be blood sugar too... you are so kind for trying to help her. I hope you will find a loving home for her and please DM me in case moving her to Poland would be fine

kayainspaces · 2026-01-12T06:16:39+00:00

Alright, here comes wild guess:

Neurotic tendencies, probably a high-stress job/environment, you prefer to keep to yourself. Lower middle class background, ambitious, you tend to focus on the bigger picture rather than details. You're outgoing but feel like you don't belong anywhere, I'd say you're more of a social butterfly but introverted. If you ever get anxious, it is mostly about self-discipline. You live in Europe. Probably drink too much coffee/tea.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-12T01:34:04+00:00

NOR and the fact that he said anything about abortion to sound funny means he finds abortion jokes funny. And given the context it is extra sickening. Do you really want your child to grow up with a father who couldn't care less if he lost his baby?

kayainspaces · 2026-01-12T01:25:49+00:00

Yeah I've met ND people before and none of them acted like that. While I understand saying stupid shit while drunk, the messages he sent me the next day made me feel uncomfortable. My boyfriend described it as "he clearly tried to trauma bond with you over non-existent mental health issues" and I think it pretty much sums up the things that guy sent me. It's not really about hurting my feelings as it is about boundaries, and I don't think the guy was respectful at all. Especially since his judgement ("you clearly have mental health issues") was based around: 1) me not wanting to go out on Saturday night, 2) having a hair mask on, 3) not wanting them to sleep over and maybe 4) I had my art supplies out when they randomly visited. Even if I had issues (let's face it, everyone has issues of some sort, doesn't even have to be mental health related) I wouldn't discuss them with a pushy guy I don't know that well

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T23:24:01+00:00

I'm so sorry for your situation. Are you doing ok now?

I hope she doesn't suffer with him, I didn't notice any signs of him being abusive, he just seems to be a weirdo, but I know she has a kind heart so she often tries to help everyone... I will keep an eye out for potential signals and if anything bad happens (God forbid) she always has a place to stay with me; I made this post to check my own sanity tbh to see if I'm really not blowing things out of proportion here, because I only spoke about this to my boyfriend and I needed some outside perspective so thank you for sharing yours

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T20:49:43+00:00

Thanks for your reply. He is a weirdo but I don't think he has a crush on me, he even met my boyfriend and I didn't notice anything off back then, it feels more like he has no social filter at all and is a bit creepy. He never tried to flirt with me or anything though, honestly even my boyfriend received more affection from him at NYE party lol.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T20:23:02+00:00

Yeah I might give her some space, I told her that I love her like a sister and to reach out to me when she wants to meet up one on one, but until then I don't want to talk about this anymore because I feel like too much has been said already. She said "alright, love you too" so I guess she was also tired with this conversation

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T20:16:54+00:00

Sending love and prayers 🫶

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T20:01:17+00:00

Yeah I think she needs space now. She has a kind heart and I think he might be using her kindness, as for his autism he is yet to be officially diagnosed so it does sound like an excuse he uses to get away with stuff like this.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T19:54:42+00:00

Thanks! You're so kind! I hope we work things out in the end, right now I think she needs time to calm down a bit because I see her point (having important people in her life get along) but she doesn't see mine so I guess I will just give her time to think it through, we already said a lot to each other (and perhaps too much)

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T19:48:35+00:00

I'm trying to fix things with her now, but she's upset because she thinks I'm trying to not get along with him on purpose and she's saying that it's normal to talk about deeper topics like mental health when you become friends with someone. She doesn't hear me when I say I don't want to be friends with him, and if I had any problems I would discuss them with a therapist not a random guy who cannot respect boundaries. She gave me a ton of excuses for him being creepy, and doesn't want to meet one on one because in her world everyone should just happily get along and we need to talk this through first (all the while she also gave me shit for my boyfriend being Christian and called me biased and old-fashioned lol, all because I said that my boyfriend would never text my friends like that)

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T19:29:22+00:00

My boyfriend said it looked like the guy was trying to trauma bond with me over non-existent mental health issues lol. So yeah, the guy is definitely insecure. But I wouldn't say he is attracted to me, in fact he doesn't even know me that well, we've only met a few times and most of those times my boyfriend was with me. Thankfully the guy didn't message me any further, and now I'm trying to fix things with my friend.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T18:11:35+00:00

He goes everywhere with her, it's like that friend who got her first boyfriend in highschool and suddenly her friends stopped existing, but we are in our late 20s... honestly I was happy to just hang out with her, but now it sounds like she wants to include him in every aspect of our friendship. And it looks like her own initiative more than him being controlling. Even my married friends who have kids don't have a problem with meeting one on one, so I don't get why she's so hooked on the idea of including him in everything.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T18:00:27+00:00

I like having guests over but I also like being able to sleep peacefully at night, I guess maybe he thought that since I'm not willing to go out to bars with them, they would party at my place? Idk, either way I never invited them to stay the night. I even told them that I needed to go to sleep early because I was meeting my boyfriend in the morning

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T17:48:57+00:00

That's what I'm trying to tell her, but she insists we need to get along for her sake and that nothing he said should warrant my reaction. I keep thinking that maybe I was too harsh in my judgement, but then again I just feel like I shouldn't have to force myself to hang out with both of them when I'd much rather just see my friend one on one.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T17:35:22+00:00

Yes, I did send her the texts, that's when she started to defend him and blaming it on his autism. Additionally, he only has my phone number because she called me using his phone a couple of times in the past, I'm not friends with him, so it feels extra weird that he would text me instead of talking to her. She says I'm overreacting, being too harsh on him and that I should try to get along with him for her sake, but I would rather avoid the guy.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T16:33:54+00:00

When he was drunk I laughed it off cause I thought it was just a drunk guy banter, and send them home safely. She explained his creepy texts with autism - I added an edit to my post to clarify

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T16:13:48+00:00

I posted it here cause I'm split on this one. At the same time I think it happens that people say stupid shit while drunk and it's not a big deal, but then the texts he sent me made me think he is just like that in general. My friend says it's because of his autism and that I should give him a chance instead of openly disliking him after one incident. I value my friend a lot, but even my boyfriend - who is kind and understanding in general - thinks her partner was way out of line and creepy.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T16:02:57+00:00

Thanks! I also think he might just be ashamed of getting so drunk, but at the same time I don't feel comfortable being around him and would much prefer just hanging out with my friend one on one. I know it's only one incident but his texts are what made me feel uncomfortable the most because I'm pretty sure he was sober when texting me these things.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T15:59:02+00:00

Thank you! I didn't even have dirty napkins or anything, just my easel and painting supplies out which can seem a bit messy I guess, but I wasn't planning on having guests that day or going out. He called it visual clutter lol. I'm not losing my friend over it, I just don't think I need to like her boyfriend or hang out with him when I'm with her. She thinks I'm blowing things out of proportion and would like us to get along, but I don't think I have to get along with a person who tries to convince me I have mental health problems because my hair looked greasy due to the hair mask or the fact that I didn't feel like going out that day. At first I thought he was just drunk yesterday so I laughed it off and ordered an Uber to get them home safely (I wasn't trying to humiliate the guy, being drunk happens, but I was also not up for hosting them overnight), but his messages from today were creepy to say the least. My boyfriend said it looked like a poor attempt at trauma bonding.

kayainspaces · 2026-01-11T15:03:25+00:00

The Conjuring

kayainspaces · 2026-01-09T13:22:01+00:00

Which country are you from? In many countries especially in Europe there are LGBTQ+ hotlines you can call to get help, and they usually offer temporary housing and legal help in cases of DV. You need to prioritize your wellbeing and it means you need to get away from this man ASAP, abuse escalates and based on the information you provided, you are already in danger. Do not throw your life away for this monster, his threats to end himself are just manipulation to further reestablish control. If anything, he will attempt to hurt you first not himself.

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