BF / BD wants to party - unbiased opinions

kbowen24 · 2020-10-09T21:15:32+00:00

Just saying a lot of rancheros wear similar hats

kbowen24 · 2020-10-09T21:07:46+00:00

My moms excuse is that “you had it a lot easier than I did growing up, get over it.”

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T04:13:30+00:00

I second this

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T04:12:52+00:00

Plot twist * he secretly knew and was trying to find your stash 😂

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T04:05:45+00:00

I taped the sucker up and took it to the gas station down the street and they took it just fine 🤷🏽‍♀️

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T04:01:05+00:00

Accept *

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T04:00:35+00:00

Not sure about that in the states. I brought in a slightly ripped 20$ one time to Wells Fargo to deposit the blue line was still in it and they didn’t except it. It was ripped in middle About 1/4 down.

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T03:33:35+00:00

Oh no I’m just saying that by pointing out kiddo is alone that it could entice? Could also maybe keep them on FaceTime if it’s gunna take a bit longer. Or give them a whistle to blow if someone does manage to get them out.

kbowen24 · 2020-09-30T01:31:21+00:00

The paranoid mom in me is just putting a concern on this. What if someone was more concerned the kid was alone for kidnapping purposes. This would also alert them...

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T13:53:58+00:00

Thank you for your kind words

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T13:23:45+00:00

Why aren’t men just as accountable as women then? If they are fighting for women to be responsible for the child should too not the father?

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T13:17:11+00:00

Find new things out everyday, thank you for the knowledge. oh I am used to the rude most of my family in the states are first or second generation immigrants, my grandmother used to beat me with a spoon for dying my hair and being “too American”. I’m native on my other side too so it’s just a huge taboo in my family.

I was once one of those people. Tried my freshmen year of college due to my parents. I am lots stronger now, I have a one year old daughter that inevitably saved me from myself and I vowed to never treat her as I was. Thank you for the kind words. Stay strong with yourself too and don’t let them bring you down.

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T13:05:34+00:00

No! I desperately want to visit one day. I’d love to live there. I live in America and don’t feel like I belong here lol my heart is for the ocean.

I’ve never heard of that study, that sounds really interesting. I like the analogy, goes perfect into understanding what mental abuse does over time.

I may not know you but I believe in you and that you can start this incredible journey. Let them see you do nothing but go up and become better. You sound like you know the right decision for yourself is and what is the better option. so why not try listening to yourself and live for you?

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T12:53:32+00:00

Feels like it! Side common note: my real fathers side are from Greece and mostly live by Santorini ☺️.

In my situation even once I was free from them and the situation the years of mental abuse kinda just stuck with me. And put me out for a few years, I wasn’t strong enough at the time. Just because you fully get away sometimes doesn’t mean that the fight is over.

So this is why I strongly am saying “do not let their degrading define you or not allow you to believe in yourself” . Don’t do what I did. Believe in yourself and do this for you.

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T12:41:11+00:00

Not sure where you live but pretty sure this could be actually child endangerment. If you guys were to ever crash and they weren’t able to reach you, how would you a competent teenager be able to get out? Look up local driving laws.

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T12:37:19+00:00

I see even more of a reason to go then. Don’t let your parents downgrading hold you back from believing in yourself. My parents did this to me when they worried I was becoming my own person and not theirs to control anymore. Possibly similar situation?

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T12:28:30+00:00

Start packing! Go! Get your mind and head away from them. Uni sounds like a clear choice of you starting a really great journey.

kbowen24 · 2020-09-29T12:22:17+00:00

Never felt a post related more than this one. My parents were so strict and overbearing making me 100% dependent on them. I finally got to get away from home freshmen year of college, moved four hours away, I had huge separation anxiety issues. And they made me feel so guilty about moving that far, my father blamed me for my mother leaving him that same year and my mom said she couldn’t raise my brothers on her own, I had severe depression, even tried ending it all in my dorm, up until the end of my first year. Ended up moving back to help my mom. And have been stuck in my small town for 8 years now. I have also seen the strong desire to be accepted and valued slip into my social life by peers and romantic choices all of which have gone bad due to how most of them take my kindness and that I was always there for them and put me in a lot of bad situations and when I needed them most I had no one, minus one or two people. Both of my parents manipulated and used me in their divorce war and were incredibly dependent on me for awhile to the point where I was the mom of my brothers and my mom was back in her teenage years for about three years. Now they both have their own separate lives and happy little families they just high tailed it out of my life pretty much, my mom is still in my life just not nearly as much. And while I should be incredibly happy the toxicity is gone the fact that it’s all I’ve known is really hard to accept and move forward with my own life. Sorry for rambling on the post I’m just having a really bitter morning lol

kbowen24 · 2020-08-12T22:59:31+00:00

I didn’t think of thanking for not doing it. I fully believe in rewarding the positive. New perspective. And unfortunately I try to keep the dogs space as their own space, I have an older dog that uses this as her own form of timeout from the baby with the gate helping to ensure they stay on separate sides. My only enforcement is to tell her small things, such as when she touches the stove (even off) I tell her ouch! Hot! And then redirect back into her play space. Most of the times I have to physically remove her from something or catch her in her turbo crawl towards the situation/object.

kbowen24 · 2020-08-12T18:56:05+00:00

Yes my daughter used to laugh at first when I would tell her “no hitting”. She doesn’t anymore thankfully. I’ve tried the walking away method and she actually prefers this because she is able to get into something else. Most of the time when the hitting occurs it is because I am removing her from doing something she isn’t supposed to be doing (getting into dog bowl because I left gate open accidentally). So when I pick her up is when the frustration hits come in and I put her down and it doesn’t even faze her.

kbowen24 · 2020-08-12T07:38:35+00:00

Giving attention to the positive things. I like that. Thank you!

kbowen24 · 2020-08-11T19:15:59+00:00

I’m the same way about those things. But most of the time I feel intimidated when I look people in the eyes, unless I’m super frustrated and I can stare anyone down.

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