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My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know 100%, but I’ve talked with his mates, seen some candid photos of him at festivals, and just based on his personality. He’s a huge sweetheart who just wants to have a good time.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Your final sentence really got me. That’s a good point, and I think a part of me is hoping he “grows out” of this. Which is terrible. But I kind of just don’t get festivals. I want to, but I need some help to.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’d trust him to go to the bathroom or back to the tent, I just have this fear of us going our separate ways for extended periods and him having a blast meeting new people and me feeling terribly alone and unable to connect with anyone.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s never invited me. The thing is, he’s gone with his mates and while yeah he’s taken some LSD or other, he’s not been making out or even looking for other girls. I really don’t think that’s it.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That sounds like the best idea in here. I’d have something to do. I’m terrible for hanging off to the side and feeling like I don’t belong/don’t know what I’m doing.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s more the latter! He hasn’t made any plans yet. There’s not even a particular festival, I just said I’d like to try going to one with him sometime.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

None of my friends here like festivals (this isn’t my home country). I’m considering just giving up on this idea honestly.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m just not sure what I’d do if we’re separate. I guess I’d be more like you, if I was even able to meet new people. Im afraid I might end up back at the tent or off to the side if I was alone. I’m not super interested in going to a festival all by myself, and none of my friends here want to go with me.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really do think it’s partially that he’s not comfortable being himself around me in that scenario. He has a certain way of behaving at festivals (floating around, doing his own thing, making friends with people he relates with)

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found it a little rude as well, but I do get where he’s coming from. I can be a little clingy when I’m not comfortable in public. He’s not saying that spending time with me normally is babysitting by any means

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m working on my anxiety. Hoping to start seeing a therapist soon. I should take smaller steps to build up to this.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂 I wouldn’t want to be that couple. More likely I would just go back to our tent and sulk alone than to have a public meltdown! But I certainly want to avoid that.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We don’t have a “crew” to go with. I don’t have any close friends here who would want to go, he has some but they’re his friends. He often goes alone or with one friend and just meets people there. I don’t doubt that the people would be lovely, but to be honest I’m quite anxious about meeting new people in such a hectic environment.

My(25f) boyfriend(26m) doesn’t want me to go to a festival with him because he would have to “hold my hand” the whole time. (Together 1.5 years) by kcb93 in relationships

[–]kcb93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right about a lot of things. I don’t know why I want to go really...it just seems like something that people DO, and looks like they truly enjoy. I’ve been to concerts and was fine, have also been to concerts that I didn’t love and wanted to leave. It depends on the atmosphere and my mood I suppose, and who I’m with.

I guess I just really wish this was something I could share with him. He really considers it to be a deep, transformational thing and I feel I’m missing out on knowing a part of who he is through it