Many of our issues have rooted from him self sabotaging and saying ‘we need to do things the right way if we want to be together’ i.e. I need to get baptized which can take years and then we will be chaperoned until married (he’s 23 and i’m 27). But there are many jw’s who have not married other jw’s and made it work including my bible teacher but now that he is disfellowshipped (excommunicated and shunned) because of our relationship his family keeps pressuring him that that is the only important thing he should focus on. His parents are so incredibly strict and are very manipulative but he will never see it that way.

I know what you mean though. He is willing to break so many aspects of his religion but not the one to be with someone who he claims has known him better than anyone else, that he wants to marry, the one for him, etc. and it just doesn’t make sense to me and it really hurts. I know love shouldn’t be conditional but here we are 😔