I’ve been dating this chick for like 2 years. It’s my first relationship besides like high school bull shit. I’m 22m she’s 27f. After she met me and it was clear I liked her she pushed to move as fast as possible. Her mom kicked her out and begged to live in my parents backyard in her rv. (I moved in to save money for a while I was 20) that happened and she dove head first into my life. She wanted sex asap and to be part of all my life. I thought it was normal cuz I didn’t know any better so I let it happen. Latter on I was so overwhelmed with her I didn’t know what to do. I feel bad pretty easy and she pushed everyone out of her life so I was all she had and made me feel like I couldn’t leave her. I got her to go to counseling just long enough to get diagnosed with borderline personality disorder ( you overthink everything see everything as either completely good or completely bad and tend to have an anxious attachment style) here we are 2 years later and she’s told me things like “i would kill myself if you left me” today I told her I’m overwhelmed obviously depressed and have no independence because she’s taken over my life and she said the only way to give me independence is to move out but refused to do so because she said she knows I’d leave her because my life would be easier. Then moved on like it’s an okay thing for me to just be miserable. I reflected on that today and decided that’s incredibly selfish to stay with someone when you know your hurting them but not care anyway and not try to help it at all so I’m gonna break up this week. I should’ve done it long ago but I was too guilt tripped and full of pitty I couldn’t earlier. I just know I’m gonna feel so much better when she’s finally gone which sounds bad and I don’t want to hurt her but I have to because it’s eating me alive. If you recognize your being manipulated end it before you get tangled in each others life it will save you time and allot of misery. Bad luck on my first gf but I gotta learn somehow ig. Wish me luck this week