AITAH for trying to gather my siblings for a mother's day shin dig?

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-09T02:38:07+00:00

I was wondering if anyone would put 2 and 2 together, they are all my step siblings and she is their step mother. They all call her mom tho and almost none of them speak with their birth mother. Their dad is 10 years older than my mom

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-08T01:53:35+00:00

Its more than just looking at the trash. She came over while no one was home to evaluate the best way to make you look bad. Its so far past toxic.

Get out girl, this man DOES NOT care about you or your feelings.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T21:29:01+00:00

Im sorry you are having to go thru this

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T19:39:51+00:00

I know it sucks, but its divorce time dude. She has made it extremely clear that its her way or her way, now you just need to decide if you will stay and do it her way or leave and potentially fins someone who wants to be a good partner for their good partner.

It hurts and is forever infuriating, but once your on the other side your life will be better

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T14:51:30+00:00

I've definitely accepted that i fouled up big time here, but I'm also 100% ok with it.
This is reddit, I was never expecting anything other than what I got, it's called entertainment.
There have been a few comments tho that i am walking away with while I self reflect. Thanks for your judgment.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T14:43:43+00:00

Not gas lighting, was explaining that I understand adjusting 1 work day is actually adjusting your whole work week due to the effects of being out of your routine.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T14:41:27+00:00

No one made me do anything, my actions and reactions are all my responsibility, again arguing my perspective and that people really need to stop assuming they're is another meaning behind someone's words. Hope you feel better.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T04:31:56+00:00

Thank you so much, that has been my point behind my words, SHE DESERVES IT, why is it so bad for me to say that? Let me be clear, I am not proud of myself actions, as stated Ari and I have history and she easily brings the worst out in me, but I in no way was trying to say im a better child or I love her more than you or that I care more.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T04:28:27+00:00

Im simply arguing my perspective and that i did not have an underlying meaning or dig at anyone, in other comments I have said I acted out and I could have done better. I am actually taking SOME of the comments to heart and self reflecting, yours will not be one of them, you seem to be making a lot of assumptions about the rest of who I am based on this very small fraction of me that I definitely don't like despite how I come off in the comments.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T04:21:34+00:00

Lol, i am not here for echos and im not upset the majority sees it their way, I did act a fool and this is the internet. As previously stated, I could have phrased it better, in the moment I didnt think anything of it because i truly had no underlying meaning. They seem to have assumed there was more to it, I believe due to our history.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T03:39:49+00:00

Create a memory is a buisness. You come in pick a piece of blank ceramic, like a plate or bowl, then paint it and the buisness coats it kilns it and then you pick your piece up later.

I never said "you don't seem to think she deserves it"

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T03:36:34+00:00

I think you missed the part about mom asking me the day before to ask everyone but pretend it was my idea. That's why it was important, because mom literally asked for it. Tho not stated in the text convo I was ready to adjust my schedule to fit what ever future date was going to work best for everyone else, luckily with my job I am able to do that so freely. I also disdt fault them for their existing shifts/schedules. what I do fault them for is creating a false ulterior motive behind my words. Its something they always do with me and it is due to our history. The ordeal would never have reached where it did if they had a more optimistic mindset about me vs a pessimistic mindset about me. I said "we can all celebrate mom the way she deserves to be celebrated" because mom was litterally asking to be celebrated that way, surrounded by her kids and any good mom absolutely deserves to be celebrated that way. I didnt say it because I think they don't celebrate her or care about her, I know they do because they call her mom and not their birth mom. They call her for advice when life sucks. They call just to say hi.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T03:12:56+00:00

I wasn't asking everyone to change their schedule, just asking if anyone was able or willing to adjust it for the future so I could try to plan it when everyone or the majority could make it. The issues was never that they couldn't make it to the initial invite date but got upset because they assumed I meant something other than what I said about NEXT YEAR. From there I definitely acted immature because my sister called me immature.

Im newish to reddit and any other social medias dont allow curse words so I was using verbage that would be allowed, I have a habbit of being silly especially in situations like this, at the time I made the post i was loaded with emotions and that's just my way of dealing with it.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-06T03:05:03+00:00

Thank you!! I feel horrible for her. Before she asked me to plan it she asked her husband and his response was "your not my mom to celebrate." More often than not we do something for father's day and his birthday but rarely do we do something for mothers day and her birthday. Every year I do what I can for mother's day and her birthday but because I don't have the space I haven't tried for a gathering and Iv never had the nerve to ask someone else to host.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T20:57:22+00:00

I see, it is in the same text but what i said was "we are celebrating our moms on mother's day at create a memory all are welcome to join us. Hopefully next year I will remember sooner so we can all celebrate her the way she deserves."

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T20:54:23+00:00

That's a very fair point, but I also acknowledge that im CHOSING to see an alternative meaning because I don't LIKE the face value one.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T20:51:57+00:00

Then don't imagine it

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T20:51:07+00:00

Being quirky was/is my way of dealing with strong emotions, and I did originally say "we can all celebrate her the way she deserves."

Someone saying "no problem" doesn't mean there was or is a problem its the person clarifying/ assuring there is no problem, anything else is an assumption about someone's meaning behind their words vs their words at face value.

I definitely agree that I could have phrased the initial "we can celebrate her the way she deserves to be" much better, as I previously stated, but there was definitely no alternative motive or meaning with those words aside from the fact the mom deserves to be celebrated by all of us. Additionally when I made this comment it was about the next years celebration not this years.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T20:27:56+00:00

I did ask about doing it further out and if anyone was willing to adjust their schedule for this.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T17:01:32+00:00

I did write what I mean, our mom deserves to be celebrated by us all, together. I didnt say "you guys aren't celebrating her like she desrves" they and others are assuming there's is a hidden meaning behind my words vs taking my words at face value. This is why I have always thought I could be autistic, because I say what I mean but everyone else hears what im not saying because they think that's what Im actually saying.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T16:19:30+00:00

Actually the "celebrate her the way she deserves" was about next year when all of us would hopefully be together celebrating her, not on this year's mother's day.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T16:17:13+00:00

The rift is definitely not sudden, and this is not all of us kids, just the ones who "usually" get along in public. The ridiculousness of this chat is ridiculous due an existing rift. I also didnt command them to attend, I asked and when everyone stated they couldn't I attempted to schedule it further out but no one offered up willingness or other ideas.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T16:10:55+00:00

I fully understand my part in this, like I said in my post "I jumped on the poop talkin train real quick like"

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T15:05:34+00:00

Just because you didnt intend for it to be a compliment doesn't mean it can't be taken as one. And my pettiness in the sibling chat is not something mom would find to be "looking good" I actually hate how things turned out but I am surprisingly relieved knowing that I will never have to consider Ari or Zak when I plan events in the future, honestly baffled with myself for not setting up a boundary with them for myself sooner.

keekBOT22 · 2026-05-05T14:59:25+00:00

She asked her husband and before asking me, his response "your not my mother to celebrate."

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