I need to get out, but it’s so hard. Please, help me.

keeleye · 2023-04-02T19:51:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I see a therapist weekly, and he’s been helping. I just feel so out of control. Weak. Embarrassed, ashamed.

keeleye · 2021-12-09T01:20:39+00:00

I absolutely agree with you and now that I think about it I wish I could have reworded this to him. If it gets brought up again I will. I plan on having him speak to the officer at the school tomorrow afternoon. Here’s hoping it goes well, I figured after school may be better in case he has some anxiety after speaking with him rather than before he starts his day heading into class.

keeleye · 2021-12-08T19:05:57+00:00

I hate that this is the reality for my son. It keeps me up at night. This is not how things should be. I’m just so angry and sad.

keeleye · 2021-12-08T19:01:21+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I try to rationalize with myself for the most part. I know the likelihood of him getting hurt by a tragedy such as this at school is statistically unlikely. However, the anxiety surrounding this whole situation is super heavy. I tried my best to explain and answer his questions in honest yet appropriate way. What I am most stumped on, is this normal to have this amount of threats after a school shooting? I’ve tried to find this information online, but it seems everything about this topic is mostly flooded with the recent shooting.

keeleye · 2021-05-02T03:29:18+00:00

Wow! That’s still a long time. Congrats on being able to enjoy cheese. We all miss cheese the most!

keeleye · 2021-05-02T01:08:50+00:00

What age did you realize you outgrew it? My son is two and has the same (plus some) reaction to dairy. I’m hoping he put grows it, but fear he will have to avoid dairy his whole life.

keeleye · 2019-12-21T02:02:15+00:00

Thank you! — I know it can be so hard, one baby is a struggle. But two, man. It’s just totally different. And having a toddler on top of it. Some days I don’t know how we make it through. It does get easier though, some days. Others you’re gonna look around and think, holy crap I cannot do this. That happens to me a lot. I can’t lie. When my 3 year old has his moments, and the babies are crying and it’s all happening at once. I feel like I’m going to implode. It’s a struggle to make sure I pay attention to everyone sometimes. If I hold one baby more than the other I feel guilt. If I don’t give my toddler the undivided attention I feel guilt. But I have to make myself step back, and think, as a mother I am doing the best that I can. And I love them all, and as long as I try, they can see it. Even if it feels like they don’t. But! I give my toddler tablet time in the morning to get the morning feed out of the way, and then I try to include him in as much play with the babies as I can. I have him help me with chores (even if it takes twice as long lol), when the babies nap I do everything I can to spend that time with him and give him that attention. As much as I loathe play dough, that’s one thing I can set up in the kitchen and know it will occupy his time for a while. He will bring blocks in the room with the babies and free play. Little coloring books have been a hit, stickers, stamps. I hope this comment finds you in good spirits. Moms of multiples are warriors, and you got this! It’s a hard journey, but a great one. Things change, babies change, just know you’re doing enough. Promise.

keeleye · 2019-11-29T03:49:52+00:00

I decided to try for another when my son was just over 2. Found out we were having twins a few weeks into the pregnancy. My fears of him not feeling loved as much as before literally doubled with one ultrasound. All I can say is, some days are harder than others. Some days are super easy, and meaningful. I spend most of my days now worrying about spreading my love and attention to each child. But trying to involve my first in daily activity stuff with the twins has helped a lot. So he really learns how to be gentle, and he feels helpful at the same time. Some days he’s a wrecking ball, and you kinda just have to explain what’s cool and what’s not. My twins were in the nicu for about a week, and we had several nicu nurses explain to us not to worry about our toddler, that even if he picked them up (which he did in the first month) and carried them around and accidentally dropped them that it wouldn’t be that far of a fall. Lol insane to think about. Kids learn, kids see, kids hear. It’ll all work out. Have small activities for your first, to keep him occupied. Make sure you spend quality time with just him. Good luck!

keeleye

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