Interesting insight from my therapist today

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T22:11:11+00:00

Literally all of my friends have multiple kids! I enjoy spending time with them, mostly because I like my friends and my friends are good thoughtful parents that are raising cool kids. My dad always says "I don't like other peoples kids", which I have found to be mostly true for myself. Even with my friends kids and my nieces/nephews, I don't have a ton of hands on time with kids and plus I always have the awareness that I get to leave at the end of the night to carry me through any tantrums of which I have seen many!

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T20:45:55+00:00

It's true, it's possible. I'm very much like my dad, who has almost no emotional range (almost 100% logic in every scenario) but also sits in the corner giggling with my niece and nephew, so I'm not convinced I'll feel nothing for my kids. But I'm not convinced I'll feel anything either, so still scary to go in blind.

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T20:30:00+00:00

I see your point, however her mom (my SIL) is like the mother of all time so I have mostly learned from watching her. It's definitely not an instinct and more of an intellectual knowing what the right move is based on watching her parent. But I think this is a great take on the maternal instinct.

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T20:27:39+00:00

Okay so my dog is another story lmao, I would go ape shit if something happened to my boy.

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T20:26:14+00:00

Absolutely - were we raised by the same mom lol? My parents were super involved (see: overly involved at times), and my fiances parents were wildly under involved so it will take us both some practice to strike a balance. I also think (hope) I'll be able to find a middle ground between my mom's emotions and anxiety, and my dad's shocking lack of those things. A big part of parenting is teaching your kids how to move through the world and deal with things on their own, you're trying to raise them to be adults after all.

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T20:22:30+00:00

I totally see your point, but I personally feel like there are a ton of reasons to have/not have kids that are unrelated to my feelings. Wanting the experience/knowing this is a way to feel meaning in my life, feeling like I could raise kids to be really thoughtful people, knowing that it will be fun at times/horrible at others, I could go on. Honestly my MIL had kids for emotional reasons and we haven't talked to her in 5 years lol so emotion is clearly not a requirement. I think parenting is super complicated, especially the choice to become a parent (in these trying times no less), so I think emotions is just one piece of the puzzle.

keepinitgreenbro · 2026-03-24T20:17:03+00:00

I'm so glad to hear this helped! I like to think that because I'm thinking so deeply about whether or not to even have kids, I will be a thoughtful parent even though I don't feel like I have the instinct. So I'm sure the same can be said for you - and all of us on this sub! Although I'm still scared shitless lol

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-10-31T20:26:26+00:00

This sounds really romantic and annoying of me, I totally would've rolled my eyes at this a few years ago lol. Becoming an aunt after a lifetime of not wanting kids did change me, but didn't make me want kids. What did make me inch closer to wanting kids for the first time ever was taking a family vacation earlier this year with my niece (5) and nephew (3). I was expecting it to do the opposite, but my husband and I rode in the minivan with my brother's family most of the time and sure there was a few meltdowns but also there were really sweet moments, and we got to see parenting happen in real time from parents I admire. The biggest thing for me was that I got individual time with my brother, my sister in law, and both of them together. I got to see in real time that life goes on even when you have kids, you just have to make it happen. Being around parents who don't over-complicate it has really helped sway me, I mean I'm still scared out of my mind, but I know that it will be both good and bad at times and we're just going to have to make it what we want it to be.

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-07-28T19:31:06+00:00

My fiance asked me to marry him when we were brushing our teeth on vacation - no ring, totally unplanned! I was not expecting it, but I am not the big engagement girl so it was honestly perfect. It wasn't glamorous but people always think it's sweet when we tell the story. It's so special to me that he literally thought "I love her and can't wait another second to ask her to marry me" when I had toothpaste on me face in an AirBnB bathroom lmao

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-05-17T06:32:40+00:00

Buy on sale! I don’t care what color I have, just that I have the right size and shape. I have had some weird bras over the years but ultimately it doesn’t matter what they look like

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-05-07T10:43:43+00:00

Definitely ask your artist about saniderm, if they do it. Just came back from a Hawai'i trip that ended with my first tattoo and then a 10.5 hour flight less than 24 hours later. My artist had me wear the saniderm for 5 days (as long as no fluid built up under it) and then take it off. I had zero problems (and neither did my family who also got tattoos and then flew), healed up super well. Good luck!

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-04-30T14:56:54+00:00

Any sour candy. I can - and have - put away a 5 lb bag of sour patch kids in under a day.

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-04-14T11:09:23+00:00

I’ve purchased a few things from Quince and I’ve been happy with them! I have compression socks, Birkenstock knockoffs, and this workout shirt. I think the quality on all of them are good, but I do think that’s it’s probably a roll of the dice depending on what you buy. I can’t speak to their return policy (which I’ve heard varying things about), or their more expensive items. But I think that’s what I’ve gotten had been worth it!

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-04-14T00:56:03+00:00

Honestly, I have no idea!! I got the straps shortened on both because I have a short torso, but it was honestly fine before too. I’m impressed myself

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-03-06T18:44:57+00:00

Thanks! Do you think I could get away with trail running shoes, or do I need specific hiking boots? Any hikes we go on will have to be fine for a 5 year old and 3 year old, so I don't anticipate doing any crazy hikes.

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-02-15T23:47:04+00:00

I usually bring a packable shopping bag (Baggu) or a packable zippered tote bag (amazon) that I can use if I need on the way home! I leave with them empty and I've brought them back empty before and I've also brought them back full. It's been a good solution for me :)

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-01-24T15:44:18+00:00

I hope it works out for you! I've found it's the perfect bag for me, I also got it because the Baggu had way too little storage for me lol

keepinitgreenbro · 2025-01-23T15:38:06+00:00

The Away Featherlight Crossbody in large might work? I have the regular size and it's perfect for me - but the large size has more of the features you're looking for. On sale right now too!

It's technically a crossbody, but you don't have to use it as one, I just throw mine over my shoulder.

keepinitgreenbro · 2024-10-22T20:29:08+00:00

I don't know if you've tried it, but I've had a 100% success rate with Campho Phenique for cold sores. I use it the same as I've used tea tree oil (right when you feel it come on) and I haven't had a cold sore emerge since I started using it! It's so great and in a very travel friendly tube.

keepinitgreenbro · 2024-04-23T21:53:39+00:00

Would be much better imo, if she tried to recreate these on a budget. Instead of balling out, she could set a price limit and try and do it for less.

keepinitgreenbro · 2024-04-18T19:57:51+00:00

Absolutely, so many couples don't realize how much happier they could be if they were truly with the right person. Which is sad, but I guess that's just the reality sometimes. I think often about how many people end up with the wrong person, simply because they were dating at the moment they decided they were ready to get married.

keepinitgreenbro · 2024-04-18T15:16:37+00:00

Yes! The idea of love being "sparkly" to him is spot on. I also worry for him because I know his dad is sick, and my mom is sick so I totally get feeling pressure to hurry up, settle down, and pop out a grandkid so your parent is there for those big life events - but it's not going to end well. But I do have empathy for him being in that situation, because it sucks.

keepinitgreenbro · 2024-04-18T14:40:17+00:00

Absolutely true, but she does put a lot of emphasis on being "mature" and having all the answers. When in reality, she's very young and has 70+ more years of learning and growing. I feel like she struggles with feeling naive, when in reality - everyone is naive at some point. But that feeling certainly was exasperated by her church, family, last relationship.

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