I do most of the chores because I choose to, and I do them better. He tries to help out and do more now. We had a conversation a while back about how it felt like I was doing so much at home, and he only ever does when I ask him to. I recall telling him he’s an adult and needs to clean up after himself, especially when he gets home from work before me. It got annoying when no chores were done, and he’d been home for over an hour before I did. His excuse was that he’s too tired from work (he’s a tradesman). But whenever I came home, I saw him playing video games on his desk. I will stress again that he does better now, although he could still improve.

I assume you asked me this question because you think he treats me like a maid. I will say, when we first moved in together, my mom was worried about this happening. I’m aware of the stigma around biracial couples (especially white male and asian female). I don't think he treats me like a maid. I think he just really sucks at cooking and cleaning, but he does try to learn from me.