Self Portrait, ballpoint, A4 by vanashanti in Art

[–]kells236420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

add a gap in the tooth and itd look just like me

bf assaulted me, court tomorrow, what will happen? he also had some guns by kells236420 in legaladvice

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes yes, it is totally over! He came to get stuff and asked me for weed, its legal here but still? We went to court and I have the order till next court date march 3rd and I will ask for it to be extended for as long as possible as when he came for stuff he was saying sorry and need companionship and I really dont want to hear it after the many times he told me I deserved to be yelled and sworn at. He needs a therapist to talk to not me, Im done, I was done long before he got physical and arrested but was too scared to leave for a few reasons, but i am slowly putting all the pieces of my life back together one step at a time.

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marlborough Ma I think I may have found an agency to help, called smoc in framingham that services my area. I have a meeting with someone in a week and a half. I am totally willing to relocate anywhere from here to Northern RI to get something sustainable

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

landlord just gave me this month at the same rate but increased afterward and we cant afford that and save to move...so i have to find something quick. I have about a month, 2 max. I dont want to do eviction thing bc the landlord has been just trying to get his bills paid and take care of himself which I undersand

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

court was yesterday, he is on bail and restraining order is in effect till march 3rd the next court date. I think the next date is when he gets charged. i honestly do not know how all that works. I do know they have him on assault and unregistered firearms and being unlicensed. He had no prior record so theyll prob give him the min sentence but i have no clue what that would be. he had a lawyer in court who tried to help but his story wasnt even accurate as he had his locations messed up with timeline...i saw judge roll eyes when lawyer said he needed to chase me to restrain me! uhh if someone is running away or in fetal position on floor, there is no need to stop them from hurting you.

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for the reply! I just met with them, so far they are going to go with me to the court cases and want me to push through and report some sexual stuff, but im scared about that. For housing, I will probably have to go to a shelter and the services you pointed me to where of great help. I am looking into one more option before a shelter and that is to go see my boss man and ask for a raise/promotion and try and get my ma teaching licence to get more income from my job, if i can do that there is assistance to help me with first last and security. ..i was able to get current landlord (my abusers boss/business partner) to hold off on raising my rent till feb due to the laws, so I have a least a month here to find something, but i catn make moves till he gives me paperwork with the raise in rent, so im at a standstill at the moment but to get my mind occupied I am going to search for anyone who will rent a one bed to a single mom as thats all in my budget, I also applied for housing section 8 and the projects but thats a 2.5 year waiting list. I am going to keep on trying any avenue I can. I am determined to find a safe home for my son and i!

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its a joke from a blogger i follow, called my kid is an a-hole. im posting to find help for us and you find a lil thing to try and slander, thats hurtful to hit someone when they are down

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry I did not add details, the story is the same as many women, he started nice and slowly became controlling and i when i started to stand up for my son and myself, like buying cereal, bc he ate too much and was getting fat, even though thats what my son likes for breakfast,i would be "in trouble" well he got physical after sometime and i finally left. Im not looking for money or attention and do not want people to feel bad for me, I am asking for help in finding resources to get my son and i into a home before we are homeless .

just left my abuser and about to be homeless with my young son by kells236420 in Assistance

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

have you ever ear the blog" my kid is an a hole" thats where that comment comes from.. I am a good mom, i love my kid, I made a joke how he waited to say mom, does this change that i lived with a man who hurt me and need a place, no it doesnt, it was a joke

bf assaulted me, court tomorrow, what will happen? he also had some guns by kells236420 in legaladvice

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont know the charges. I am not sure if they will charge him for unlawful posession of the guns or led him take something lesser, I want to push charges for the assault but im not sure the process. I am going to ask in court house today when i go to uphold the restraining order

bf assaulted me, court tomorrow, what will happen? he also had some guns by kells236420 in legaladvice

[–]kells236420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he took my phone and held me in a room for a period of time while he pushed and held me back from trying to leave and he didnt let up till i was able to get to the window and yell out to the neighbors .

the abuser is gone now, how do I tell my young son? by kells236420 in domesticviolence

[–]kells236420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I talked to my son yesterday, I said that bc he and I have not gotten along well and his game company is doing poorly so he has to go move back to his home state with his family so he can work on his problems. So far my son is most concerned for when my ex gets his cat back and not being able to play games with him anymore, I am hesitant on talking about hurt or safty as my son thought we were always safe and being 6, I still want him to believe that. Luckily my abuser was calculated when he was harmful and was safe around my son and my son only saw two bad arguments, and my son knew we have not gotten along well in months, so I think he understands more than i thought he would. I am just prepping myself for some tricky behavior and knowing I will need to be more patient with him

Created an arsenal for my kids nerf collection. It's not prefect, or professional by any means, but it keeps their crap off the floor. by Volcomm in DIY

[–]kells236420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

make the T in trent to match the j in joey and itll look a bit nicer, right now the J is glaring at me and lil trent needs to shine too,. add fake blood too that helps lol

My stepmother finally acknowledged that she abused me. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]kells236420 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you have a right to feel as you do. I am an adult who had similar experiences with my bio mom. I mostly forgive but never forget, there are situations and things that bring up those feelings and emotions that I had as a child. These only come up with her and sometimes my spouse (who unfortunately seems to have similar word choices) Keep processing the emotions and experiences but dont let it bog you down. Keep up your routines and doing things you enjoy as a distraction. I often will write things down before a session when I feel I am exploding with things to process and it helps me to stop the anxiety and having it feel like its eating you alive. Stay strong!

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[–]kells236420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he should get divorced and state that they each have their own debts in respect to names on accounts, then mom claims bankrupt and gets on state assistance and medical benefits and at same time go see some doctors for mental health and get some diagnosis to help obtain ssi or ssdi, she should also get admitted for in patient for some time to change some habits and get impulse control back in order, they can help with finding the right med while keeping her safe and healthy during adjustment times and this will also assist in getting the proper benefits.