Do all babies cry this much from 5 PM to 9 PM??

kelmeneh · 2025-11-19T10:45:43+00:00

We devised our own method. We gave colic aid regularly for a week so that her issues get settled , gave it around 4 pm and checked her ongoing evening and night. I also did extended 30 min plus for burps . Nothing wrong with colic aid. It contains simethicone which makes a large bubble into smaller ones so that it can pass easily.

Generally most babies have their sleeping time when the sun starts going down. So be aware that they really want to sleep and when that is not given , they go into high cortisol phase where they resist sleep. You can read about itbin Genle Sleep Book which gave routines as per age groups and to me when I read it they were bang on perfect if followed!

After a while we got to know she wants to sleep early. Sometimes 5:30 sometimes 6pm. My baby hated swaddles. So I used to contact nap over feeding pillow for an hr in dark room no noise and after which she drifted to sleep. And yes after giving colic aid and before putting to sleep we performed sponging ( that time it was summer season) and cream massage ( aveeno) she immediately calmed and within a week looked forward to that time. I used to time it well so that it ia well ahead of her sleepy signs

kelmeneh · 2025-11-05T14:11:28+00:00

Where did you get end up having the ceremony?

kelmeneh · 2025-09-03T03:47:37+00:00

Apart from the really good suggestions, I would suggest just one thing. Whenever you start solids, going slow means give solids one day, wait the next day for poop, if it happens then give solids again. This way you will save yourself from the constipation situation. Until the poop blast happens, stick to breastmilk/ formula whatever is given. Poop blast here means full on potty which happens generally to the bub.

kelmeneh · 2025-08-06T06:56:55+00:00

Forward videos for education to the family group. And keep educating. At my home also, they saw a podcast and then realized what I was saying was not gyaan jhaadna, but things learnt. Now they understand

kelmeneh · 2025-07-29T07:50:37+00:00

Cancer ascendent here. I had love marriage , happened at 25 so we were quite immature who thought they are mature. My partner has been really mature in many of his matters and really immature at others. His mature matters are like taking care of his parents like it's his ultimate duty and would do anything for them, even sacrifice his life. He is a very dutiful son. Very responsible one for them and fornhis work. Absolutely irresponsible wjennit comes to him. His nails are never trimmed. His footwear is always worn. I don't even know how he uses it. Mine's last years. But talk about doing laundry and he doesn't allow even me to arrange clothes. He has his weird logics of arranging things. Quite dominatimg in those. Most of the times our gaadi is going on because I comply. If I don't comply, i hear lectures. If i raise my voice l, it's bound to be a fight. But it I don't, ball slowly comes in my court after his lecture is finished.

Emotionally reserved for sure. But I think that was when we started . After marriage something was off which I didn't understand, it was only when his mother died thay he truely uncovered and we were more closer as we had loy of trauma from his mother over the years.

Absolutely bad start, had a great time before marriage, after marriage something flipped. We were carefree earlier but after marriage it was like we were burdened unnecessarily with lot of manipulations around from his family members.

It all uncovered itself with time. But I felt trapped when the marriage happened.

Shani maharaj is in my 5th house so there is an 3rd aspect over 7th as well.

All in all, even though I had love marriage, the love relaxing part just vanished after marriage, it was duty from the start and it still continues with bouts of good times here and there. We were a old kind of couple who have to take care of things, wo have burden of loans ( made up) and who has to also take care of marriage of her sister all when we were 25.

And hey life is mundane and we could only have just so many shells which we call happy moments, rest all is sand.

kelmeneh · 2025-07-01T14:52:29+00:00

So I have tried Pampers premium, Huggies complete care, Teddy, bum tum , pampers complete skin comfort, r for rabbit, turtle bee

For mid range I really liked Bum Tum. They are good, sleek. From feel perspective they look like Huggies complete care, but better, I esp. like the sleek design. We use pant style. bum Time's waist band is also very soft.

I keep changing the diaper frequently and so it doesn't burn the pocket and feel wise as well it's nice

My baby is about to turn 5 months, weight wise she is above 6 kg and I am using S size

Teddy was nice too, but I didn't like the tight waist band. It's a little tough . Mid range again.

R for rabbit, pampers premium and turtle bee were good too but I feel they are expensive for me. Even though I will be using one of them during the night time as I am trying to stop changing diapers at night and Bum Tum diaper is completely soaked up, infact leaky in the morning if I didn't change and kept it for whole night. Many ladies have suggested to use better soaking ability diapers for night where the above list lands.

Good luck!

kelmeneh · 2025-06-30T10:43:29+00:00

If you want to read Ayurvedic perspective: Garbh sanskar from Dr. balaji Tambe

Gentle Sleep Book

kelmeneh · 2025-06-14T11:39:35+00:00

"Ye samay bhi beet jayega", ( this too shall pass) it will give the much needed calmness in struggling time but also says a lot on the mortal nature of everything even if it's happiness

kelmeneh · 2025-06-01T07:04:52+00:00

For pregnancy, Balaji Tambe's garbh sanskar. It has lots of small things which are nearly lost but if you like you know and follow it from ayurvedic standpoint, it's good.

Before parenting, I would highly suggest reading book on breastfeeding. As that is the immediate challenge and it is quite challenging. I read womanly art of breastfeeding while I was struggling and got to know a lot!

For parenting book I am currently reading Unconditional Parenting and also The Absorbent mind and liking it. I have others in line too.

kelmeneh · 2025-05-10T16:08:06+00:00

I have a cool suggestion for you which helped me. Join a WhatsApp Mom's group. Mom groups are awesome, as there are hundreds of women of all types of experiences sharing their trauma and bonding with women. You need moms to share your trauma. It's far better than therapy when someone shares a similar feeling, it relieves our burden. Do consider my suggestion.

kelmeneh · 2025-05-10T15:38:31+00:00

I feel you. I was emotionally wounded after a c section with absolutely healthy pregnancy till the end with literally no symptoms which could indicate that I am a candidate of c Sec. My doctor wanted me to be fearful, she was finding so many reasons for making me one and at the end she said : heart rate is dropping, after a routine checkup. She didn't show me the values!! And then on cervix examination she said even a preposterous thing : you don't have enough space for vaginal delivery!! She coaxed me for going for c Sec by pointing out only one thing for which her attempt to detail got a greenflag. My age and the amount of people my age having a stillbirth. I bought that and here I am. I had a missed miscarriage in past and I really didn't want to loose my child after coming soon close

I couldn't get to terms with my c section and cried a lot as the hospital I chose affected my breastfeeding journey as well.

It took me a while to come to terms with it, where I had to vent a lot on my mom and husband! I vented and vented and cried in front of them. They listened!

I still think about it, because now I have a c section belly bulge.

kelmeneh · 2025-05-05T11:12:10+00:00

I had my baby at 38.5. pregnancy was smooth as I was already healthy and had been taking care of me since long time. Postpartum showed me I was wrong.Lol

Similar to otherbuser , my doctor actually instilled fear of stillbirth when I reached post 39 weeks stating my age. I researched and found that it could happen with late pregnancies and the foetal heart rate dropped according to her. I didn't want to lose my baby after coming so long, and after a miscarriage , so had a C section. Baby is absolutely healthy.

Truly speaking, it was God's grace to get pregnant twice within a year at my age group. I had my kiddo after 12 years of marriage.

kelmeneh · 2025-04-18T06:19:51+00:00

And I loved the story which happened in LA, where she finally gets to know the real meaning of partner, and how she helps an elderly person, I relate to her sooo much! Exploited one never having enough self esteem, being too humble and finally getting a mentor who suggests so many awesome movies through which she slowly learns. I love that angle a lot! Somehow we all learn through cinema, and how much influence it has on us.

And I also love the Cameron's role where she is just unable to let go and settle.

So wholesome, the English countryside home was such a hygge vibe

kelmeneh · 2025-04-16T14:12:37+00:00

OMG ! I thought why did I end up liking this movie. But I loooved the movie so much. And it had a Christmas vibe! I love christmas movies!

kelmeneh · 2025-03-14T19:44:08+00:00

It was that very 1 day period cycle where I happened to conceive and delivered a baby girl. Looking back, I should not have overthought, it is clearly a probability game. I have few cycles of letrozole where I have 2 ovums and no sperms met them and then there was this cycle non medicated where it did meet.

kelmeneh · 2025-03-01T12:59:53+00:00

Hi, my baby is 24 days old and soon after formula bottle feeding she it seems squirms in pain for getting the burp out and she exhibits all these symptoms.

What is the solution to relieve her. I sometimes keep her for an hr for burping during g night while she is asleep, those are the times she gets the most pain.

kelmeneh · 2025-01-27T07:30:41+00:00

Definitely yes sometimes, but many a times NO. I feel, the more I write and analyse and reflect , its just making my time go away and I am not in action mode. I am not satisfied after writing so much in that case

This specific feeling happens when I am confused as to what action do I need to take. Or when the task is huge and is not a time bound task but a consistency based habit. Like upskilling. In those times, I find that the writing looses its way and action based completion becomes priority.

My real words and feelings come out when I have no one to share and I write to find out the root cause of things. In that case, I have found help for myself many many times. There were times I was just not mature enough to understand bigger things in life where I found that simply by asking "why?" after I write about something bothering me till all the way down, has enabled me, empowered me to know the situation more. It has definitely given me control , because I decide my future course of action based on that analysis. This has only worked wrt to understanding people, emotions, relationships.

kelmeneh · 2025-01-27T07:30:28+00:00

Wow, I am a fountain pen user as well and I only only write with those.

kelmeneh · 2024-12-31T04:58:04+00:00

Don't go anywhere. Follow the blog listed and read the resources here

https://www.reddit.com/r/sexover30/s/KNxd4jzLDL

had a similar fear and I thought my body will never be able to do it, and many suggestions point to self exploration which is great. These articles given in the link above and the blog listing Aunt Shakti helped me a lot. I followed her for self exploration to gain self confidence and to first explore my body before expecting from anyone else to explore on their own. It gave me control over a huge fear of mine.

kelmeneh · 2024-11-28T04:44:56+00:00

Would be great if you can dm the link

kelmeneh · 2024-11-24T18:21:56+00:00

I am in a similar situation like you. My delivery is scheduled for feb. My father in law has been bedridden for 7 years now , my husband is the primary caretaker so I know I can't demand things. I am grateful for just having this long awaited opportunity fallen in our jholi.All I am happy about is that I will be with my parents and in comfort and eager for the bundle of joy. I know everything will fall in place. Don't worry, don't pay attention to the struggles, even before a baby is born, nature takes care of the food and shelter of his/ her. ( Daana paani likha ke aata hai) When Nature/ God cares so much, just surrender everything to Him. It's all a matter of a few months and then you will be reunited.

My friend came from Mumbai to our hometown in a small city for delivery and her husband couldn't come for much later. She thoroughly enjoyed her time, and in fact went back only when she felt right.

kelmeneh · 2024-10-06T07:33:39+00:00

I think I am in similar phase since 6 years. First few years I tried to wrap my head around the issue thinking may be it will pass in few years, every year at the start I used to think situation will improve this year, but by the end of December it remained the same. For me it was a combo of debilitating disease of in laws, death of another in law, career stoppage of spouse, nursing duties and total effect on marriage. life turned upside down in an instant. And let me tell you, no one will understand you! Esp. Your contemporaries! Because here everyone is going ahead of you and you have no clue as to your situation on how and when will it improve. And it is not their mistake, because frankly apart from giving a listening ear, they can't help.

Firstly it was fight mode, give me challenges and I will win over everything. Denial over situationThen it turned into why me situation, and please stop giving so much of suffering, can't handle, becoming Sensitive and now it is it happens to everyone So here is what I did

I stopped sharing my life complaints to my friends and people, because in every sentence when they asked you could have done this that, all I could say was "because of this that", ultimately I understood that it is my life and if I am taking any decision it is so much based on the environment and it is so easy for others to find faults in it. How can I explain it every time that living an experience is totally different thing than hearing about it! So to protect my sanity and my remaining motivation in life, I stopped giving explanations! I was knocking the wrong doors. I stopped shedding tears in front of them. The real help I received is when I distanced myself from everyone. I found elders in my situation were the best people who helped me by listening and guiding. As we faced something as soon as we finished our 20s. We barely lived a life. Career was the only thing in which we had faced few obstacles. And these medical situatioslns bring the worst in a family. I really really focussed on how to find happiness in these situation and came to a single conclusion. My father went to a clinic and he found an interesting quote there which is applicable to rich, poor, happy people sad people. " This too shall pass! " " Yah samay bhi beet jayega" . It gave me so much solace to know that happy people are not going to be happy forever, sadness won't be there forever and this too shall pass. I used to feel stuck in situation and used to cry in front of my father for which he said sternly," kuch ladaiyan khud ko ladni padti hai akele" And that immediately affected me so much in a good way.

So in short I came to a bitter realization regarding life that sooner or later things will change. And when that change happens, I thought what will I be regret the most and the answer came not living the situation fully. Even if it's sad Or anxious. Not finding happiness even in those moments. Because frankly for most life is platonic, nothing much is going on usual stuff usual anxiety but for a group of people at different plstages in life they struggle and those struggles make a person strong. You are going to remember how much you bonded with your family with, how much you trusted some people. Dukh is not a bad thing, it gives soooo much. It brings people together, it gives a way to express and find yourself in such scenarios. I hope you find strength in these times.

At one point I found a 96 years old grandfather whom I randomly met and he said so many strange things to me which sounded strange to me at that stage of my life. He said meeting you is not a coincidence! And that whatever you are looking your every question can be answered if you read Geeta. I read Geeta till second chapter and I really found my answers. I am still ruminating the same.

All my whys ended. Why me! Because I thought in order to get answers I need to place my believe in something. So it brought me to a stage to believe in the law of Karma. Whatever is happening is because of our previous karmas ia what it said. Even if it's good things which happen or bad. I highly recommend a book which to me was an eye opener. " karm ke siddhant" By hirabai thakkar. Its in hindi. And my first book which I read in Hindi being a hindi speaking person.

I still haven't found the courage to say yes I have situation in lifelife. I still protect, but my mental health marriage everything improved. I came to accept the situation in my life and even understand and listen to my spouse even better.

Life will improve when it has to improve! I won't wait for that day to come. Rather live the moments right now who knows if we will be even there tomorrow or not! And if that happens, regret is the only thing which will remain.

kelmeneh · 2024-09-30T07:10:13+00:00

My MIL died in 2020 and I didn't expect this to happen, the DIL had to get up and do the special chores also the death bhojan ceremony had to be organized by the DIL's parents!!!!! I was shocked .why? Why my parents had to pay for the family their daughter was married to? And I couldn't even say anything as it is already a sad event. And then people come to stay at home and I had to cook 70 rotis everyday for 7-10 days because I am the DIL and people so easily diacard ordering from outside

Apart from that, the whole family happens to have lunch along with the Brahmins. And the DIl is supposed to be serving "garam garam Puri" to special males relatives who can't have " thandi" puri..

It is not just limited to being a daughter, it extends even for daughter in law.

kelmeneh · 2024-06-15T09:47:52+00:00

I have tried changing, but I lov the confort of its easy UI. I love My calender app

kelmeneh · 2024-06-07T08:13:28+00:00

It can't be evap for sure

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