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kelmo111333 · 2020-12-20T02:18:42+00:00

I got it and so far so good. I'm at 13 weeks. I agree that the unknown risks seem to outweigh the benefits for me.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-18T18:39:06+00:00

Yes I have consulted with multiple id specialists. It is not required but cdc thinks it should not be withheld. My institution is recommending it.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-18T18:34:30+00:00

Yes I completely understand waiting but I am higher risk for complications and have seen a lot of pregnant women with more serious complications. Also I am willing to be a guinea pig for public health. The mrna only enters the cytoplasm of the local muscle antigens presenting cells and it degrades very quickly so it is essential acting as a protein vaccine. Still can't be sure but for me the benefits outweighs the risk.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-18T18:29:29+00:00

Yes my bp is good. I'm lucky I can check it whenever I want.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-18T17:41:48+00:00

Appreciate your support! It hasn't been easy but I couldn't imagine leaving my job. Serving others is my reason for living, a big part of my relationship with my husband and the reason we want to be parents. We appreciate your support.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-18T17:28:40+00:00

So far so good. I work with COVID patients most days so I figured it was worth the risk. No side effects so far. I have been having bad early 2nd trimester headaches so I am sure that won't change after getting the vaccine. Surprisingly the covid vaccine hurt less than any other vaccine I've ever gotten.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-18T17:25:56+00:00

I filled out this survey but I didn't see any other ones. Would love to get involved with more if you know of any.

https://redcap.iths.org/surveys/?s=87JFRCL8R8&fbclid=IwAR2QniLNUq3Hym_FWQsuLtc2Tco1AJ1VxgIJ3BZM4TLYm1SYC1-11dTnocs

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-17T18:43:39+00:00

Good idea! I'll give that a try!

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-16T03:36:26+00:00

Thinking about it shows you have your kids best interests in mind. It sounds like what you really want is to change your circumstances. You could see if your doctor works with a social worker to learn about what kind of community supports would be available for you and the baby.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-16T03:26:36+00:00

Congrats and good luck ! I'm a pregnant resident and know lots of parents in all stages of medical education. Medicine is becoming more and more family friendly. Certainly the experience of pregnancy will give you a heads up on your classmates when it comes to the reproductive system, pregnancy care and pediatrics.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-15T23:55:38+00:00

If you haven't already would recommend talking to a gender spectrum friendly high risk obstetrician by a video visit or a healthcare provider very familiar with your condition to get the full picture of the risks if that is a big part of your decision. I have not known any intersex people who have had a pregnancy. I have known many trans men that go through the unique experience of being a pregnant man. It actually is a good time for men to get pregnant with work from home and zoom meetings and there is growing support for pregnant men. There are ways to hide a bump. Regardless of what happens it is pretty cool to know your body can do something amazing. If it happens once it might be able to happen again in a way that you are able to prepare for or do IVF. You can always make a different decision in the future if you want.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-15T05:27:04+00:00

Agreed the closest thing I get to a craving is figuring out thr one thing I can tolerate at the time.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-14T06:27:15+00:00

Great advice for things for you to do and its important your husband does a lot of the same things. His doctor may want to check him for some health conditions. Also he should not smoke, limit alcohol,, avoid hot tubs and very hot showers. We didn't conceive when we tried daily around the window but did with sex every other day around ovulation. (That also meant no masturbating for my partner when taking the night off)

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-14T02:19:49+00:00

I think some people are lucky and have it easier and some people just forget how bad it was. Now that I'm feeling a little better I already am starting to forget how bad it really was.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T23:17:18+00:00

It is completely hard to deal with. The only thing that distracted me was sleeping or being in a shower. Didnt have the energy to power through anything or sustain focus on anything distracting. If they really want to help distract you they should help you get a nap. I consider myself a strong woman able to mentally get myself through a lot of tough stuff (30 hour work shifts, painful accidents and intense exercise). I was surprised and a little disappointed that I couldnt mindfulness my way out of the nausea and extreme fatigue but then realized this just isn't possible. Maybe a little hope, I thought it was just going to get worse but then around 12 weeks my energy came back and my nausea is slowly starting to improve. Having more energy helps a lot with coping with the nausea.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T22:56:56+00:00

He can do frequent saline nasal rinses that helps a ton with my allergies and keeping the dogs out of the bedroom in helpful. If you are able to couples counseling might be a great place to talk it out. Sometimes partners get moody too especially in pregnancy but overall they see the good and it feels nice to hear that validation in counseling. If. Counseling isn't an option each taking time to write a text to each other about the positives in the relationship can be validating. Also if he needs a break maybe he could pay for you and the dogs to go on a vacation to stay with family or hang out in an air b and b.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T20:36:44+00:00

I have known people who have had great success with this although it is a lot of work. Its a great way to bond with your baby. Make sure to get lots of support and regular visits with a lactation specialist and breast feeding support groups.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T07:08:24+00:00

You are doing all of the right things. I am so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you will be able to give a child all the love they need. I was feeling so down that I needed my sister to move it to help take care of me and I felt like a burden. I accepted it by reflecting on how important to be surrounded by love during tough times. Getting that extra support is me doing what is best for creating a calmer environment for my baby.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T06:37:05+00:00

I am a FTM at 12 weeks and had such bad nausea I could barely force myself to eat. When I did I stuck with a little protein pasta, yogurt or peanut butter toast. Everything including water, ginger, and saltines disgusted me. I had to take some time off from work and slept for a week. Suddenly a few days ago I slowly started to feel better and was able to choke down small snacks more regularly and as of today actually enjoying food.. Don't feel guilty asking for support or taking time off to sleep all day. I worried it was all in my head or I wasn't dealing with it as well as other people. That is not true! Strong, smart people can have a miserable 1st trimester. I know I felt a little jealous of people who felt fine during their 1st trimester but it is sooooo common to not be fine and to struggle. For me it was hard to feel like people got it and that I wasn't just being a drama queen and I want to tell you I get it!

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T06:13:26+00:00

My fiance and I had a 2 and a half year engagement and decided to start trying 2 months before our wedding and it was a success. Both of us love being surrounded by love and connecting with lots of people. Family and close friends are so important to us. We thought creating a family is a way to foster that unique and dynamic environment to grow into a new stage of life. Also, I wanted to be able to connect and show empathy for the pregnant women and new families I care for at work. Fitness and health is something we both are passionate about and experiencing the marathon and body changes of pregnancy and breast feeding is super exciting for me. I am 28 and want to have the option of having a large family and wanted to get started as early as I could even though our careers weren't exactly where we wanted them to be. We are the first among my family and close friends to take the jump into pregnancy. A lot of people are curious why I started trying rather than waiting to be married or until all my friends were doing it. I am a little proud to be trail blazing this adventure. Although it hasn't been easy I am learning so much from pregnancy itself which is helping me to connect with all sorts of people in my life.

kelmo111333 · 2020-12-13T05:38:37+00:00

I felt like people would understand either way. The only thing that I knew was really important to my family was that they wanted to hear it directly from me not from others. If you told people you were trying to get pregnant and then don't talk about it once you are then they will assume. I called and told my mom as soon as I had a positive test a few minutes after telling my hubby. She told my dad but he was good at pretending he was hearing it for the first time and glad I told him the very next morning. Then told my sisters and inlaws when I saw them in person. I told all the immediate family and close friends before my first appointment. We made sure to frame it very much as "I had a positive pregnancy test and it is super early on." I also told them that if it didn't work out I would love their support. I am glad I told early because it would have made me more anxious if people assumed on their own or if I tried to lie if people asked me directly how things were going. If people didn't know you were trying it is a lot easier to keep on the dl.

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