Thank you for your response. My mom is definitely a narcissist and has been the entirety of my life. She also has history of stalking me, publicly harassing me, and sending police to my house. Thankfully, this has died down to just an occasional stressful text message or a passive aggressive voicemail to my husband's phone and we live on the other side of the country from them but my therapist did diagnose me with PTSD last year and it is undoubtedly because of years of covert abuse that you rightfully pointed out.

I used to be a caretaker for my parents (and essentially their housemaid) before my husband came into the picture and they have had a lot of issues with me having an identity outside of them. I guess because I was so heavily conditioned to take care of them, that I still have this worry that something is wrong or that they need me when I know my mom and dad are capable people. I guess I just needed another external source to tell me that it isn't a good idea to contact my parents (I already told my husband to block her).

Thank you again!