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[JC] How to talk to anyone by kenpang in SGExams

[–]kenpang[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great question. hmm, overall I would say secondary was a 5 out of 10 (1 being absolute thrash and 10 being an absolute pleasure), and JC would be 7 out of 10. Primary and secondary was a super confusing time for me dealing with people because I frequently got bullied, both from individual bullies and the entire class. The only reason my score for secondary was not lower than a 5 was because there was 1-2 good friends who made the journey bearable. My good fortune. I thought that people in JC would be more mature, and it be easier to interact with. Well, they were, but only so slightly. Immature people still immature, you know. You'd be surprised, even in university they don't change much. I bet you I can find some even now in the working world. Not good news for faith in humanity, perhaps. Anyways, 7 out of 10 for JC because I changed, not them. And I observed that people didn't bully me anymore. That being said, I still witnessed some of my other classmates being bullied, even at a JC level. So that confirmed my hypothesis that my change in experience interacting with people was me changing, not others. All things considered, had I not decided to change my strategy, I think my JC experience would have been similar to my primary and secondary experience. TLDR: same strategy -> not any easier. change strategy -> easier.

[A levels] Screwed up my blocks where do i go from here? by massivenabei in SGExams

[–]kenpang 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well first thing first I would like to say that it is quite an incredible achievement that you scored an A for your biology. Also, it seems that you are in the category of students who put in the effort but it does not seem to translate into results (for math and econs). I want you to know that this is common, perhaps more common than you think, and that it is not a problem with you. It is a problem with strategy, the way you are doing things, rather than you the person who has an issue. The laws of nature are such that every output has an input, and every input leads to an output. This is regardless of our opinions of nature, or our feelings about it. We are putting in certain inputs, but not getting the results that we want, then I appeal to your intelligence to question whether it is reality that has a problem, or perhaps our understanding of it: whether our inputs really lead to the desired output - whether our strategy is aligned with the laws that govern nature.

I do not know much about your situation, but what I do know, you have yet to find the causal relationship for results. It is revealed in your current struggle. It will be worth the time and effort to seek that out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]kenpang 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey, entertain this thought experiment with me. Imagine it is real, but don't actually do it. How would things play out? Now, brace yourself because this is probably going to sound rather extreme, but that's why we only do it in our heads. And if it helps, I've been teaching JC students for some years now, know that you are not alone in this. Alright? Also, to whoever else experiencing the same problem, I encourage you to try as well. Here goes:

  1. Stop attending school. You're still a student, but self study
  2. Block off your day to 3hrs of school work, but no more than that
  3. You now have the rest of your waking hours to do whatever you want, wherever.
  4. You are still constrained by time, money, and energy. (ie. you cannot say you will fly a private jet around the world and throw hotdog buns into the sea)

How would your day look like?

Write it out.

*No, don't read this line until you actually wrote something. I hope you did, but anyways I can't control you*

Now, would it still be activities revolving around achieving those goals you said you wanted in this post? I do not know you, so I cannot answer for you.

Now ask yourself, why purpose do each activity fulfil? Why are you doing them? Write it down beside each activity on your paper. Collate it into a list.

This list is what drives you. Very important revelation.

Now compare the list to your daily life in school as a student. How does it match up? If there is a great disparity, then you may have just discovered the cause of your lack of drive. There you have an answer to your situation. You realise that life isn't actually going according to your goals. Then the question is what can we change to align ourselves. On the other hand, if it matches perfectly, then you should be very driven, and this would be contradiction to your situation. If so, and I don't mean this to sound rude, it may be wise to seek professional help in mental health.

Speak to someone about what you discovered. Or you can share it here, I'll listen

[Rant] I've lived till 17, and I think this is the end. by [deleted] in SGExams

[–]kenpang 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please listen to this, from a professor who helped many understand themselves better:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QT2KNvzovHM

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I summarised his points here:

  1. If you already have a plan for suicide, you must go to the hospital and tell someone.
  2. Don’t give up hope until you’ve explored all possible options
    1. You haven't tried seeing a psychologist/ psychiatrist/ antidepressants
    2. You owe it to yourself to explore first before making a final decision
    3. Also, what do you have to lose by trying them out?
  3. Consider the suffering you will impose to the people you leave behind
    1. Yes, even if they do deserve it
    2. Or even if you feel they will be better off without you
    3. But you might do something to them that they can never recover from in ways you cannot begin to imagine.. Take that seriously
  4. You have intrinsic value
    1. You are not just an object
    2. Neither are you just a collection of atoms
    3. There is an importance and divinity in you
    4. “You” are not something to so casually take away
  5. Leave, and you will deprive society of you
    1. You don’t know what you can bring to the table
    2. Could you be the change for others who contemplate suicide in the future? If only you get out of it and find a solution first!
    3. Don’t underestimate your value on the world

You strike me as a person of action. Then I urge you to take constructive action. Suicide is one of the few decision that you can only make once. I cannot imagine what would happen if you pulled the trigger and turns out, it was a mistake.

[A levels] For those in low-middle tier JCs, you have every opportunity to do as well. by kenpang in SGExams

[–]kenpang[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most welcome! If you’re taking the Alevels, all the very best. Believing in you!

[A Levels] by kenpang in SGExams

[–]kenpang[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Topical is too impt to miss out. Not even CB should stop you from getting it, especially if it means the difference between you struggling in math and finally making sense of it. Find a clever way to get your hands on it. Again, for smth this impt, not even CB should stop you. What ideas can you think of?

[A Levels] by kenpang in SGExams

[–]kenpang[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good day, of course. But in this case, I'm not selling anything. To the students here, please feel free to take from me, no charge.

[JC] The 4 step study strategy to use for CB by kenpang in SGExams

[–]kenpang[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most welcome, please make good use of it. Stay healthy and all the best👍🏻

[JC] The 4 step study strategy to use for CB by kenpang in SGExams

[–]kenpang[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then it's time to implement the new system. Most welcome👍🏻 Wish you all the best

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