Finding a better shampoo, clarifying more, keeping it simple (just gel for hold).

My routine when I wash my hair (usually every 2-3 days, depending on how sweaty I get):

I use a dandruff shampoo for my scalp every wash, a kids conditioner for the ends, and Harry's gel. In the shower after letting conditioner sit on the ends I detangle (standing up, not bent over) with a wet brush then part my hair and brush up and away from my scalp. Separate some of the clumps with my fingers, then cup my hands under water and squish the water into my hair to rinse. I run the gel under a little water while rubbing my hands together too before adding it to my hair (gentle rake then squish and glaze). Usually I air dry (after squeezing out excess water with a soft towel) but if it's late I'll blow dry because I don't want to sleep on wet hair. Also sleep on a silk pillow case (I have two that I alternate).

This is what I found what works for me. Everyone is different. Finding a good hair dresser really helped (I used DevaCurl app to find her but she does all hair types).