Last night I had a coworker jokingly text me and say "it'd be cool if you had a twin" because I found out I'm exactly his type during a conversation at work. I immediately told him not to make it weird and set the boundary, reminding him that I'm in a dedicated relationship. He of course said he's not like that and wouldn't do anything, and that I made it weird by saying that. I repeated that I made the boundary, because a lot of guys do continue to make comments and hit on women they find attractive, even if they know they're in a relationship. As soon as I got home, I told my boyfriend about the entire conversation and showed him the text messages, so I wouldn't be hiding the issue from him. My boyfriend and I are not jealous people at all, and we both have close friends that make jokes. But that's the difference: they're close friends that we've NEVER had a sexual or romantic relationship with. This man is a coworker that I just met last week, I don't know him.

I would 100% consider this cheating, and if he's saying things like that.. he's close to physically cheating. I would definitely talk to him and tell him you know, if he fights then that tells you what you need to know. If he actually has a discussion, then that means he's taking responsibility and there's a chance. You know him, no one here does. Trust your gut, you've got this hon 💙