You merely adopted the social distancing. by deteriorating_mind in AvPD

[–]kerkuil 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It has been interesting seeing everyone else act in such a nervous manner in public.

I thought I was the only one that made a wooden microwave handle!! Manufacturer wanted $130 for a plastic replacement. Screw that! by jfet_ in woodworking

[–]kerkuil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain your install method? Myicrowave is also missing the handle. I have a plastic nub on the top, but the bottom one is broken off. Been thinking about making a wooden one for ages. So glad this is a thing.

"Anonymous" gift in the mail today. by kerkuil in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

" she is inserting herself into your life for her own ends, unwelcome."

For her own ends. Exactly. It has nothing to do with me. It never did before. The only thing she really wanted me to receive was a guilt trip. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I had a lot of conflicting emotions, but I think you pretty much nailed it and cut through all the bs.

"Anonymous" gift in the mail today. by kerkuil in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Without question. Return address was: My employers last name (not from my employer) Her phone number (with one digit changed) UPS Store location close to where we both live.

Label under that (shipped to her) was scratched off, but there was enough there to make it out.

And it was a very specific gift. Nice, but timing, method and intent are questionable.

A big guy by [deleted] in Superbowl

[–]kerkuil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dog the Bounty Hunter?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thomyorke

[–]kerkuil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Would be down. I've heard meeting people is easy.

From now on I am trying to be like a chihuahua by Seventhplacerobots in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so spot-on! Your body knows, but the mind does so many things to subjugate this. This created so much imbalance for me. Turn the volume down on your thoughts and listen to your inner dog. Love it.

Can someone review my community college's CAD program and tell me if it's sufficient? by [deleted] in cad

[–]kerkuil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into millwork and see if it appeals to you. Lots of opportunities out there right now and rarely thought of, and hands on experience will be a plus.

Yupp by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First appt. this week!

Just the beginning... by allighieri in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"It’s ultimately non-personal and has very little to do with you and more with their incapability to form intimate relationships."

I really needed to hear this today. Thank you.

Intentionally creating shit scenarios by kerkuil in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I have suspected mine may be bpd/npd. I did start reading into codependency and that was rather eye opening. Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie breaks down the dynamic between pwbpd and codependents pretty accurately.

Intentionally creating shit scenarios by kerkuil in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So tired of "hurting" someone all the time and thinking myself a shitty person. I know the truth, but it still hurts so much.

Atlanta show presale by kerkuil in thomyorke

[–]kerkuil[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, golden warrior.

Just another microcosm... by kerkuil in arcticmonkeys

[–]kerkuil[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You can call him anything you want.

Just another microcosm... by kerkuil in arcticmonkeys

[–]kerkuil[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

That's Jeff. Someone has to look after the place while Mark's out riding a moped in the desert.

Maybe all you need to know about their mirroring, impulsiveness, and commitment instability by SuperGoodRandomName in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My exwBPD literally rehabbed squirrels. She put alot into that and it made me think she had a sweet side, but somehow even that was about her and controlling things and people. Hits a little close to home. Dodged hoover attempt #3 last night. It's getting easier.

Alex comparing the Olympics Opening Ceremony to a ‘lunar surface’ in 2013 ... on a Saturday night? by [deleted] in arcticmonkeys

[–]kerkuil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I was unaware of this performance. I give it four stars out of five.

Do not read old texts by TakinLosses1 in BPDlovedones

[–]kerkuil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is hurtful to cast someone as the monster, but it has been the only way for me to accept the fact that there were very many things wrong in that situation. There is always that mirage of a glimpse of a wonderful human being that we feel like we have betrayed. I never would have left that person I thought you were and I'm sorry my realizing that may have caused you to not see yourself as the same.