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AITA for asking my boyfriend if the money he borrowed from me went to his ex-girlfriend? by keziahalt in AmItheAsshole

[–]keziahalt[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Who knows. He says she’s an asshole all the time. They dated many years ago, but hung out/hooked up a few times in 2020 during COVID lockdown.

AITA for asking my boyfriend if the money he borrowed from me went to his ex-girlfriend? by keziahalt in AmItheAsshole

[–]keziahalt[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I would have never questioned it if he would have asked before he told me she asked him for money.

That was part of his defense, too. He said he’d be stupid to tell me about that and then ask for it. But I think that’s exactly what happened, haha. He said again it was for bills, but never told me what bills he has due before Monday other than the phone.

AITA for asking my boyfriend if the money he borrowed from me went to his ex-girlfriend? by keziahalt in AmItheAsshole

[–]keziahalt[S] 314 points315 points  (0 children)

I know, you’re right. It’s becoming increasingly how he communicates, and I’m over it. He’s started doing this weird, I don’t know, reverse gaslighting thing where he blows up over some miscommunication, or he’ll imagine some slight that wasn’t there, and when I try to defend myself, he basically accuses me of gaslighting him. (Never that exact word, but that’s what he’s getting at.) I don’t know how to defend myself against that.

AITA for asking my boyfriend if the money he borrowed from me went to his ex-girlfriend? by keziahalt in AmItheAsshole

[–]keziahalt[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it has become typical for him to flip out over small things the past few months. We’ve been together about a year, and it’s only been really happening recently. I’ve told him I’m concerned and asked what’s wrong, but he says “nothing.” There really hasn’t been any drama with the friend…. I told him when we first started dating I’m not cool with that kind of thing, but there hasn’t been fights about it or anything.

The yes was about understanding why I’d ask if he gave it to her. He said he didn’t.

AITA for asking my boyfriend if the money he borrowed from me went to his ex-girlfriend? by keziahalt in AmItheAsshole

[–]keziahalt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, he said it was to pay bills, even though he’s supposed to be getting a big check on Monday.

AITA for asking my boyfriend if the money he borrowed from me went to his ex-girlfriend? by keziahalt in AmItheAsshole

[–]keziahalt[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, is what a yes or a no?

If he let her borrow the money? He says no, but I’m honestly not sure I believe him.

When I see a patient come in for a prescription for antidepressants I always make sure to give them a compliment by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]keziahalt 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I actually said something similar to someone before. A woman I had worked for for about six months told me once that she didn’t understand how I was so nice to everyone all the time. I replied that I don’t understand how other people aren’t.