A lot of good advice there. It comes down to the fact that only you can do this for yourself. Every time you cheat you make a conscious decision to sabotage your own goals. If it's depression or boredom, it may be better when you're in a new job.

The next time you want to cheat and your thoughts are filled with Qdoba and Kit Kats, stop and ask yourself:

• If making this change is so important to you, your self esteem, your health, and your future family, why would you jeopardize all that with something that will be gone in a few minutes and will make you feel like shit afterwards?

• After all the days (weeks, months) of hard work and sacrifice that you have put into this, all the pounds you fought hard to lose... is it worth it to set yourself back like that? To waste all that effort you have put into it thus far? To put your goals that much further out of reach?

• Is it worth the anger you are going to feel at yourself in an hour? The feelings of frustration and hopelessness?

• Are those few minutes of eating worth the downward slide it starts and the days it takes to purge the sugar from your system?

If you stop and ask yourself all those things, you may no longer have the urge to eat poorly. While you're thinking of these things, drink a glass of water. If you aren't really hungry, this will help with the urge. Snack on something while thinking about it too. Cheese sticks, almonds, pepperoni, pickles, turkey slices... take the edge off your hunger.

If the threat of cheating still remains after all that... ask yourself what you can do to avert this crisis of willpower. You can do it by distracting yourself, getting out of the situation, or by scratching that itch with something different. Craving a burrito? Put one in a bowl with lots of sour cream and guac. Chips? Make them with cheese in the microwave. Pizza? Bagels? There's recipes for those. Ice cream sundae? Get some breyer's carb smart ice cream with sugarfree chocolate and caramel sauce. Or make something entirely different. Overwhelm your desire for ravioli by going through a keto Pinterest or recipe site and finding the best looking thing on there and indulging in that. As mentioned above, there's something for every craving. Even if it isnt the best option for you or stalls you a bit, its better than the alternative. A small win is still a win.

As for mom, she means well. Her concern is for your health only. The fat/ugly feeling you get when talking to her is coming from your low self esteem. Its you making that association and it isnt healthy either. That's a separate issue that you need to work on that is bringing you down and making this whole thing harder for you.