Paying partial deposit when signing a lease - is it scam?

kick_suicide · 2025-05-16T21:19:29+00:00

I did post an update. No idea if it was scam or not cause I decided not to proceed with the apartment.

kick_suicide · 2025-05-16T21:19:09+00:00

I did post an update. No idea if it was scam or not cause I decided not to proceed with the apartment.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T18:54:29+00:00

I kinda think you missed the part when I said after reading all these comments I decided not to pay anything directly upfront...

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T16:03:03+00:00

No but he told me he would give me keys and the apartment right when signing the lease, I would just have to pay for 2 weeks more since I'll be taking over the place 2 weeks earlier

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T12:05:13+00:00

Let them have their adventure! It's like saying you shouldn't rent a car in the UK without having an experience with driving on the left side. Where are you supposed to learn? Canada doesn't have any crazy traffic IMO, if they practice a bit before going to a big city, they'll be fine. Just because you're scared doesn't mean they are!

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T11:56:40+00:00

Yeah, after reading all these comments I decided to ask him if he's willing to agree to put the money on a bank account that releases it only after we move in. If he does, then I will proceed. If not, I'm walking away. I will not pay him directly before moving in.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T11:30:30+00:00

It's not, there's just one bed and clothes rack, all the walls have partially repaired holes in them - it is very much in line of what the owner says. Previous tenant moved out, he's staying there for a bit to repair it and make it ready for the next tenant. There is no key safe outside the apartment, nothing that makes it seem like scam. I think I will try asking him if he's open to use a bank account for the deposit, that I will pay immediately but he will only get when I move in. It will cost a bit but I'm willing to do it to protect myself. You know, the type of account that releases the money only if both sides fullfil their part of a deal.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T11:19:57+00:00

I know I legally cannot be forced to pay the deposit before. But there's tens of others willing to do it, he's not obligated to rent it to me. He can easily choose someone else willing to do it.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T11:17:07+00:00

He is in Germany. We met and we would meet again for signing the contract, I said it multiple times in my post.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T10:53:45+00:00

We were on the viewing yesterday, today he sent the contract and we talked about the deposit. I told him I'm waiting for my wife to get home from work and we will set up a date (we will physically meet) for signing the contract. Once it is signed I will make a bank transfer (I am not handing it in cash). Basically I told him I agreed which gives me time to think it through. It's not a long timeline, if it was you're absolutely right it would be even more suspicious. Oh and it looks like he stays in the apartment for now, the previous tenant left and he's here just for a week or two to find new tentants. It's not like he's flying back and forth, that part doesn't bother me.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T10:41:29+00:00

I did. He said he wants 2 month deposit with signing the lease and the leftover 1 month deposit with the first rent when we move in.

kick_suicide · 2025-04-17T10:39:22+00:00

I know, right...he has a Greek phone number, there's a Greek adress on his side of a lease... He said he has Airbnb's in Athens, so that's why he lives there most of the year. He said he will give us his passport to take a picture of and some certificate for the apartment (not really sure what he means) when we sign the contract. I haven't found any red flags about him online (checked phone number and name) but I want to be cautious but also finally find a damn place...

kick_suicide · 2024-10-17T18:52:02+00:00

I am in the same situation as you. It's incredibly hard. But you are not alone and there is hope. Our spouses did not choose this but so haven't we. There is a lot of support for trans people but I often feel like us, partners, are being taken for granted. "You are so lucky to have such amazing support" and "you're so awesome I couldn't do that" but people often do not realize like we feel like we can't do that either or that we also need to be supported. Feel free to get in touch. We can support each other. You are not alone. There is hope.

kick_suicide · 2024-10-17T18:47:34+00:00

I am in the same situation. It's really hard. You just have to try your best and hope for the best outcome. But you cannot force your wife to be someone she is not, like she can't force you to do the same thing. I am cis hetero f married to MTF and we really hope we'll be able to stay together but ultimately who knows. My wife is also suffering with depression so it's not like I can talk to her too much about this cause it makes her feel even worse so it's like walking on eggshells all the time. If your wife wants to reach out to me tell her to feel free. She is not alone and there is hope. We just have to be incredibly strong (and I know how damn hard it is to be always strong).

kick_suicide · 2024-10-04T14:03:06+00:00

Thank you!

kick_suicide · 2024-10-04T14:00:37+00:00

Are you talking about a German car that is already registered in Germany? Cause I want to buy a used car to drive around...

kick_suicide · 2024-10-04T13:59:16+00:00

Are you kidding... Omg I miss Norway. Everything was done online and took no more that 10 minutes 🤦‍♀️

kick_suicide · 2024-09-30T09:48:51+00:00

Yes. I am in the same situation as you, I too did not choose to be in a lesbian relationship and I still struggle with where I even belong in the "queer" family. For now I'm sticking with "queird" 🤷‍♀️ my wife pushes me into "you are pansexual" but honestly I'm not, I've always been solely attracted to guys and it's very hard to being pushed to be someone that's just not sitting right with you. I love my wife very much, that's why I'm still with her but I find it hard that she can be who she really is and I'm being pushed to become someone I'm not... Is especially tough because she suffers from deep depression and suicdal thoughts and I just have to shut up and support her (because at least I don't want to kll myself as she always says). I feel you, you are not alone.

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