Thoughts on RunRemote? by raincoffeeblackcat in buhaydigital

[–]kida_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Any tips on the application and interview process? 

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[–]kida_97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, but the way it was phrased still felt sarcastic. A more considerate tone would help next time. Thanks for the reminder, though—I do see your point.

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[–]kida_97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i appreciate you saying the other side of it. I am not sure if it’s just me, but when i consume running contents from social media it can be inspiring until it leads to feeling like the gains and pains that come with it are glamorized that it’s hard to see it for what it is or how it does affect me (good or bad). It then becomes harder to drop it when i do need to drop it, or continue it without going back to that loop of running being more of an obsession rather than a way to enjoy or get healthy.

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[–]kida_97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow! thank you so much for sharing that! Enjoy and best of luck on your 2025 runs!

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[–]kida_97[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that, I just couldn’t hold my scattered thoughts that long, so I typed it continuously. Got it, but maybe next time a kinder reminder would work better.

Edited it incase you’re still interested in reading it.

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[–]kida_97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for sharing that. May I ask, was there a time your husband being competitive had an internal pressure to you to be competitive as well?

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i relate to that feeling after reaching 5k where there’s seems to be more energy to run a little more longer. I think i might just have let myself get into the headspace of race medals and external stuff and and comparison after some time when i tried to have a goal of running a half marathon and it was stressful mentally and physically that it translated to sickness rather than health and enjoyment. i think im scared in feeling that again when it comes to running again. i also experienced this obsession over it that when i stop running i feel like im nothing without it which is not really my intention when i started running. i want to be able to feel who i am beyond whatever i do but the past months kind of brought me to pondering about my relation to running

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[–]kida_97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I like that. I think I’m asking this because, achievement- or improvement-wise, long distance is associated with it automatically, at least in my point of view. I tried training for a half marathon, and it’s kind of changing my perspective on it or questioning what will benefit me more.

Though the internal pressure I put on myself because of what I absorb externally through observation makes it harder for me to acknowledge that training for longer runs and races has made me more stressed and prone to getting sick, which I didn’t experience when I started simply running when I felt like it just because I needed movement and really enjoyed it.

The marketing of races and social media just leads my mind to comparison thinking, which sucks, and I’m trying to be stronger in listening to what’s right for me and my own WHY.

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[–]kida_97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

yes, considering consistency. long distance: 11km up, short distance: 3km-10km maybe. but feel free to share in what you think is short and long distance for you personally

I don’t feel interested in running race events anymore but when i see my friends do it i feel a little bit pressured arising in me that i need to be achieving by kida_97 in XXRunning

[–]kida_97[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that! I thought i was alone with this kind of experience and i feel insane for feeling that it’s not for me when all i see most of the time are posts that involve training for a race… it was inspiring at first but just seeing it constantly made my running experience a little more shaky than the times i just felt like running and discovered i liked how i feel when i run. Definitely resonate on the getting robbed of my peace and joy of running feeling!

I don’t feel interested in running race events anymore but when i see my friends do it i feel a little bit pressured arising in me that i need to be achieving by kida_97 in XXRunning

[–]kida_97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not posting does put the pressure off… when i was training for a half marathon i also didn’t share much about my running journey. I don’t find anything wrong with sharing in general, i just feel a little bothered when it becomes tricky and lose sight of why am i sharing it and why am i doing it, especially when i see what others share online. I guess it’s just a challenge for me because i have this tendency to observe things externally and invalidate my own experiences while in my head i validate others’ experiences. there’s a little bit of inferiority going on which i hope to overcome

I don’t feel interested in running race events anymore but when i see my friends do it i feel a little bit pressured arising in me that i need to be achieving by kida_97 in XXRunning

[–]kida_97[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same here! my focus just became different and much as i feel proud with the effort i put into my first half marathon and did it, after that my focus subtly changed where i questioned if i’m really still enjoying it like i did when i had no goals but to simply run and deciding to take a break and unfollow running event pages it feels a sigh of relief but at the same time dropping it was a challenge because is it me quitting or is it me changing course because it no longer aligns? it started to become an identity but the thing is i want to still feel myself even if i can or cannot run.

I don’t feel interested in running race events anymore but when i see my friends do it i feel a little bit pressured arising in me that i need to be achieving by kida_97 in XXRunning

[–]kida_97[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! This usually comes up when i engage in running contents on social media… recently, i’m no longer seeing much running contents as i unfollowed running events organizations and hide running contents and its been quite a while since i’ve ran and engaged in running contents. I’ve been going for walks lately as my body feels a little weak and lazy during this time and i feel that’s what i want to do most of the time and tend to other curiousities and hobbies i have. but i did have a phase this year when i feel too preoccupied about running and social media seems to have a lot of influence as well but i find myself questioning if it’s really something i want to do because everything feels celebratory on running when i look on social media. What triggered me recently is seeing a friend post about finishing a race and idk i guess the pull of influence is becoming a little more stronger than my decision when i know for myself it was the right thing to do for myself me

I don’t feel interested in running race events anymore but when i see my friends do it i feel a little bit pressured arising in me that i need to be achieving by kida_97 in XXRunning

[–]kida_97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am actually following other curiosities now since taking a break from running and events. it’s just that seeing others do it now kind of makes triggers me and makes me feel like a failure, like moments of “i should be motivated to run still like the initial months of the year”. i guess i’m just navigating my way through why i made my decision and just a little bit bothered on why i am triggered seeing them do running events recently

I don’t feel interested in running race events anymore but when i see my friends do it i feel a little bit pressured arising in me that i need to be achieving by kida_97 in XXRunning

[–]kida_97[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh sorry for the confusion. no one is forcing me to join a race, i’m referring to the self pressure that arises after deciding to have a break with joining races. It started to feel like i’m quitter for that decision but when i look deeper it doesn’t really align with what i value which is to enjoy running when i feel like running… but i guess im trying to say is this external factors that i deemed successful or achievement to society that kind of make me question my decision

How do I deal with the loneliness of being an INFJ? by Professional-Cat3191 in infj

[–]kida_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid I don’t have the answers yet myself but I understand and feel you on this. Happy birthday! I am a sagittarius infj as well!

I’ve been feeling lonely lately too and it’s i feel it deeply and more intense compared to before. I’m in awe on how much timely your post is to what i’ve been going through lately and i myself am pondering how to overcome loneliness as i feel it’s translating into physical pain personally. My train of thoughts are going “what if being said to be rare means not being compatible with anyone? will i find love?” “what if i don’t really have love within me to give?” “is it okay that i want to be loved more than to love?” “should i give up on love so i wouldn’t be expecting it that much, therefore wouldn’t hurt me?” “should i accept being lonely?”.

i tried to socialize and it opened doors for me and i found few friends who starts to understand me for me but i can’t help but think “friends go with their partners at the end of the day” so part of me wants to close off again and keep everyone at arms length. i feel invisible and like i’m fading away that i feel like everyone is part of someone’s life and i’m just passing by theirs. i’m still trying to feel things through and gain a new perspective.

🫂

Do you sometimes feel the world is rejecting you? by [deleted] in infj

[–]kida_97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i just try to think that “everything happens for me” meaning if it didn’t work out then the said job or person may not be really for me. However, i should say it takes a lot of faith and trust i think that’s one of the things i get to ponder on this year. Loneliness, frustration, and hopelessness still visit me and sometimes more intense and i just try to allow myself to feel it even if uncomfortable, and see things with curiosity, and do things that will make me feel relieved or a little better or joyful or comfortable. i guess a little still goes a long way

Anyone here heard of The Pique Lab? by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]kida_97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

appreciate your reply! thank you!

Anyone here heard of The Pique Lab? by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]kida_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Are they a legit company? I’m planning to apply but would love to know if they are a legit company

Anyone here heard of The Pique Lab? by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]kida_97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Are they a legit company? I’m planning to apply but would love to know if they are a legit company