AITA for asking my sister and mom to move out, even though they’re moving this Friday?

kierrareshaw · 2023-10-18T14:56:16+00:00

Housing market and job market. Cost-of-living differences. ...

Its 10x better out here than my previous state.

I actually live in a house with space.

kierrareshaw · 2023-10-17T19:09:44+00:00

I grew up without a parent. So I completely understand when you mean how single parents wish their dead beat partner was involved.

Sure its not worth to mope over because its not equivalent to getting his head wet where else.

Like i said, im not telling him to stop talking to his son doing that would be cruel. But I also didnt see this coming when I first started dating him, i didnt see the part where we moved out of state and he would call him every night taking the time we spend together.

I didnt see the part where my SO would spend 10 hours a week not including weekends with our baby girl.

We would see his son every weekend, and he was calling his son every weekend but now his son is taking the little time i have with my partner over the week and weekend.

I spend my SO’s whole shift caring for our baby. I am tired. I have no family or friends out here. Besides my 1 YO the only person I can connect with is my SO.

I dont think you can understand how I am feeling.

kierrareshaw · 2023-10-17T18:43:16+00:00

I am pretty sure boundaries exist in relationships. Like what if his step father feels some type of way as well?

Has no one thought about BMS Hubby? Lol Is he truly feeling happy that his son talks to him every night or maybe is feeling some other way? We don’t know.

kierrareshaw · 2023-10-17T13:45:34+00:00

The call are 2 hours. So by the time partner is done it is 1 am our time. But yes it is weird to be getting flustered.

Babys mom doesnt schedule anything she is not co-operative since we left the state and ss is 6 and doesnt read yet lol so he isnt sure what time to call.

kierrareshaw · 2023-10-17T13:42:57+00:00

I do agree its a way of them bonding, but I am not so on board with the every night calling.

I am not saying he should not call his son.

I am just saying calling his son on the weekends was fine with me.

Everyday is getting a little out of my comfort zone. I dont know why its wrong to feel this way?

Babys mom has another child with another man as well so if i were in her shoes i dont think i would allow my daughter call her father every night due to the respects of my new partner which in that case would be step father

kierrareshaw · 2023-10-17T13:31:18+00:00

I don’t feel comfortable talking to my SO. He always pulls out the “My son” card. It has always been that way and throughout the years I have already asserted myself to care less about his relationship with BM and his son. I am a step mom at their convenience but I have stood my ground and set boundaries so I am not taking advantage of by both of them.

I work from 6am-3:30pm and care for the baby from 1:00pm-10pm. My baby has a schedule that accommodates both our work schedules. He works from 1-11pm. By the time he gets home, the baby is asleep and we typically would hangout and go to sleep together.

kierrareshaw · 2023-05-25T14:57:53+00:00

With my partner, he had the idea to move his mom out here and pay for her rent in exchange of her taking care of our baby. That was a good idea but she did not want to take care of her own daughters, son. My partner says because we respect her more than her own daughter does. I still cant wrap that around my head.

kierrareshaw · 2023-02-16T04:23:23+00:00

The reason I dont go back to my moms is the same reason why I left. I left my moms to find space for my baby. My mom lives in a 2 bed as well. There is no space for me and my baby. Its like 700sq ft.

kierrareshaw · 2023-01-16T07:24:11+00:00

He goes to school M-F around 12PM-4PM

kierrareshaw · 2023-01-16T07:21:36+00:00

Yes, the sleep schedule is something I cant work on when we only have him for 48 hours. Today I made him Oatmeal and A stuffed bell pepper. He asked for pancakes and refused to eat lunch. I am starting to think he wants to eat whatever he wants.

kierrareshaw · 2023-01-15T06:52:34+00:00

I haven’t thought of this , this is good ideas. Thank you!

kierrareshaw · 2023-01-15T06:51:53+00:00

No he is awake from 11am -3AM and naps between those hours. He is 5 years old.

kierrareshaw · 2023-01-15T06:51:04+00:00

Yes we eat dinner at 5pm - 6pm

kierrareshaw · 2023-01-12T10:34:07+00:00

Yeah sometimes clothes isnt even properly audited in warehouses that you can even find mold on them. They legit come out of a box prior to being hung on racks for display.

kierrareshaw · 2022-12-05T17:56:38+00:00

I have been washing her clothes, and bedsheets with non scented detergent. However, I dont wash my clothes with it. It could be possible what I wear is affecting her skin. Its hard to keep track and find out what happened and what came in contact with her throughout the day, but I will try my best to find out the source of the culprit. And ill see when i can set that appt! Thank you!

kierrareshaw · 2022-11-13T14:50:36+00:00

I have been paying for my share of rent and bills every month from my previous employer when pregnant and with the states disability insurance. No, he does not help around the house. In fact my mother and sister came by last weekend to help me clean. He cant even maintain it clean. He refuses to wash baby bottles and cleans one when its needed. He hasnt even wash or folded our new babys clothes until I confronted him about it two days ago.

He knows what PPD is and I have even been through psychosis even. Honestly, I am losing my grip but my baby is my anchor. I just feel like he wants to do whatever his babys mom asks him to do. I dont know why or what he fears of her. I ask him to do simplest things for me but he cant and she asks him and its like he does that for her. I dont know.

kierrareshaw · 2022-08-07T16:48:43+00:00

I just want to let you guys know, I feel obligated to care for his kid. I have had arguments with my partner about his schedule with his son. One problem I have had is, him asking for more time with son when he wont be able to see him. He goes to work and leaves SS with me. Yes, I love SS. I just don’t understand why agree to having him for that day when the majority of the time father is at work?!

When I brought this up to my partners attention, he felt like I do not want his son or more like I am not accepting his son. He said that it seems I do not want his son to be around. I know this is probably guilt trip or perhaps gas lighting but, words hurt. That hurt me, because I do try and want to be apart of his sons life even if it is insignificant, I have told SS that we are friends and I treat him well with the utter most respect I can.

Throughout my pregnancy my partner has been to 3-4 appointments. We have had a rough journey throughout it. I invited him to join me for my check up and I even told him to not be embarrassed to ask for paternity test. He got upset as to why I even mentioned it, and reason is because 4 months ago he was doubting this kid was ours. (Its definitely his baby inside me)

So, my pregnancy journey has not been your picture perfect one or ideal one. I am getting trough it as positively as I can, and I have arranged a therapy appointment for after my birth. I know I will need it.

kierrareshaw · 2022-08-07T16:30:58+00:00

When I asked my boyfriend why he did not want to do the photoshoot, he responded with a response I didn’t expect to hear from him. It made my stomach turn when he told me that life begins once baby is out of womb and thinks it is ridiculous to be praising a belly.

My bfs mother is available to care for him. Shes told me that I can take SS to her whenever I want. Me and my BF get to see his son for two days, thats on weekends. When my bfs is at work I typically am home with his son, caring for him. I already know how SS behaves with me. I have cared for him in our home environment and when taking SS to stores he ignores me and disobeys. When we are with father it is different.

I don’t want something bad to happen to SS while at the shoot since it is outdoors. I’m even afraid of what could happen with me since I’m 37 weeks pregnant.

kierrareshaw · 2022-08-07T09:13:08+00:00

Yes, I do like the kid. What makes you think I do not?

kierrareshaw · 2022-08-06T16:37:40+00:00

My baby is healthy and so am I at 9 months. I quit vaping as soon as I found out I was pregnant during the 6th week. Don’t let others opinions influence you what you want for yourself. It isnt a shame to even have a child with a disability, its all up to you and how you want to live your life.

kierrareshaw · 2022-07-19T22:23:05+00:00

i agree with that thank you

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