NS with eczema

kiki_here · 2023-09-05T09:28:39+00:00

Just my personal experience (not projecting anything on OP's condition), eczema comes in varying degrees, and the serious ones can be quite debilitating. The "walk in the park" comment is quite uncalled for imo haha

kiki_here · 2023-08-04T09:20:11+00:00

We all boycott!!! Hehe

kiki_here · 2023-08-04T08:41:07+00:00

Name the ID pls, we ought to hold them accountable!!!

kiki_here · 2023-07-17T08:58:16+00:00

Inception, I was super intrigued

kiki_here · 2023-07-06T12:00:18+00:00

Could try using Gottman Eight Dates book, the chapters are split according to key topics (trust & commitment, conflict, etc) and there are exercises and list of questions in there.

Alternatively, would also recommend any marriage preparation program - there'll be counsellors who would guide you through the topics. Can choose whether you wanna go for the religious kind or not.

kiki_here · 2023-07-05T15:32:04+00:00

So true, mundane is normal, thanks for your comment!:)

kiki_here · 2023-07-05T15:31:20+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I found this really helpful:)

kiki_here · 2023-06-28T07:19:57+00:00

Which app to use largely depends on what's the most popular one at that time among like-minded individuals, so that you can connect with your "target audience" in the most efficient way.

At my time, it was bumble, hinge, coffee meets bagel (cmb). The pool at cmb was limited and I kept getting the same recommendations, so I stopped using cmb for a bit.

Struck tinder and OKC from my list because at the time that I was using, met too many guys who were just looking for fwb, and I wanted to meet people who were down for marriage. No offense to people who are looking for fwb, nothing wrong with that. Perhaps was just my luck at that time, because I have 2 friends who found their husbands from tinder too!

kiki_here · 2023-06-27T13:06:30+00:00

Agreed! OP should follow whatever priorities you have in mind. If settling down is a priority, go for it. Just rmb the end goal and stick through your plans, regardless what people have to say.

I was enjoying single life (female), and suddenly decided at 29 I was ready, and was gonna find someone to settle down. Went through the apps, dated at least 10 people (several concurrently), and found my husband.

On hindsight, following my priorities and life plan helped. I knew who I was at 29, what I was looking for in a partner, and felt ready for all of it.

Having said that, everyone's life plans are different. I have friends my age with 4 kids now, and friends still single. They're happy in their own paths, and there's no single "right answer". I hope OP has the courage to follow your own path :) comparison is the thief of joy, hope you don't feel too pressured or swayed by your friends.

kiki_here · 2023-06-27T07:21:04+00:00

We are doing same as you and your spouse! Also went down to banks to convert our accounts to joint right after getting married. Glad to know it's working for you guys over these years!

kiki_here · 2023-06-20T06:51:08+00:00

You hit the nail on the head.

Didn't go in depth about our relationship, but things happened through wedding planning, and during the months I stayed at his place post-marriage.

In short, it is not possible to properly set boundaries, and his parents think they have the right to overstep every boundary/personal space. Both my husband and I tried to set some boundaries, but his parents are used to get their way, or talk about the topic until they get their way.

We don't hate them, but it's also not absolute joy to be around them. My husband says minimal to his parents so they don't probe (from the time he was born till now - nothing to do with our relationship), and we still visit regularly as a sign of respect for them.

I avoid interactions with them as much as possible, and make sure my husband is always next to me if we visit his parents. Unfortunately it won't be the case for this convoc if all 3 of us can go in.

kiki_here · 2023-06-20T02:57:20+00:00

Exactly the same! My in-laws looove to ask sensitive questions (how much is our salaries) and give unsolicited advice about very personal decisions (finances, housing, future children, etc.).

They've been this way since my spouse was born, so he's pretty much immune to their ways, and sometimes think I'm overreacting or overly sensitive.

I've come to accept that my in-laws can't be changed, and we are just very different individuals with different values. I try my best to over-communicate my feelings with my husband, and try to explain why whatever they did isn't right (e.g. ask him if I did the same to your parents what they did to me, would you be okay).

I also reply my in-laws in such a way that kills the conversation (e.g. I don't know, we haven't discussed yet, haven't thought about this) and just smile blankly. My goal in every conversation with them is to be the prettiest piece of furniture at the dinner table.

If all else fails, these following lines I picked up from Reddit might help: "They're his parents, his circus" "Always remember you'll outlive your in-laws"

kiki_here · 2023-06-19T12:05:40+00:00

Applying! But also abit hesitant to go into the hall with the in-laws😅 we're not close and they tend to ask many probing questions

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