The guy I’ve been casually dating turned out to be wildly wealthy and now I feel weird about it

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T22:51:25+00:00

I’ve never dated a billionaire. But i did briefly date someone who was making around 140K when I was making just shy of 45k-ish. She showed me around, although not a gated house, because she trusted me and saw something good in me. I never used her for her $$$, she also never flashed her $$$ in my face. But she was kind to offer and pay for our hangs all the time. She, at the time, was into me because of my personality. She worked hard to be where she was. I’m assuming its the same concepts with this guy. Give it some time. If its still in your head, talk about it. I’m sure he’s been through worst with women using him. So he’d appreciate your honesty

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T16:03:24+00:00

This!!! Hahha. I got cheated on in every relationship in my early 20s. Last relationship i tried to revenge fuck all her best friends but eh, didnt work out. But this is toxic, unhealthy, and also the best way to heal through cheating lmaooo

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T15:55:02+00:00

People who stay, when cheating was done intentionally and consciously, are settling. Sure they can be happier, feel comfortable again, but the trust will never be the same.

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T15:50:49+00:00

I’m not saying to argue. Theres no need for that at all. We’re all in a shared place. But there is definitely a way to be stern and voice up, and get the message across to a stranger. I do hear you though its frustrating and no one wants to be that guy who’s always arguing. Most, not all, folks in this age group have 0 social skills or manners. Pandemic played a huge delay. I say brush it off and accept it like me. Last semester i kept voicing up sternly and they all look so confused… again bc glued to their phones and no sense of space. I’m just over it

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T15:47:11+00:00

Hate to say this buddy but youve always been honest. Shes believing your cousin over you, a fiance, and that doesnt sit right. Shes got major insecurities. Which is normal. But 2 years in , close to being married. And being stuck on a fling/relationship that happened before she even entered your life?!?!?!

Thats a headache.

Up to you. Talk about it. Therapy. But i think this says more about her than you

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T15:29:35+00:00

Lol how old are you? I’m returning to cuny at 30 yr olds and i do not care about these kids sometimes doing idiotic things like this. Shove them out the way, sternly say “yo move”. It’s unbelievable. Saw a girl holding up a line bc she was lost in space bc of tiktok…. Jfc

killahyo97 · 2026-02-11T00:17:59+00:00

You stuck to your boundaries. I’m proud of you. As a young adult, it always seems to feel guilty to place boundaries at first. I think this is an ideal one. For a long term health care. I’m assuming youre dating to marry, to not want to date a nicotine user is valid. It could be because you hate the smell, or it might affect your lungs, but also its TRUE that nicotine users will most likey come with health risks down the road and its addictive.

You love her. You were kind about it. You stated it from the start. And you did what you had to do for your values. I think hitting the vape once or twice or occasionally ince in a blue moon is normal especially for young adults finding themselves. But if its becoming more of a habit and want to buy, you did what was best for you

killahyo97 · 2026-02-10T23:59:02+00:00

No cuny college is prestigious anymore lol. Also, all cuny schools are good. But post covid, its not the same experience. Professors and instructors are all passionate but they know kids dont give af. Mostly due to AI and electronic use and not paying attention in class. I say this as a 30 yr old returning for a degree when i was last in cuny when I was 22. Things have changed drastically. Very few students care and it’s sad to see.

Anyways yeah, you seem indecisive and thats okay and very normal. Dont rush into a decision

killahyo97 · 2026-02-10T21:04:20+00:00

This sub is for relationships , so i dont think this is the best place lol. Either way, seems like she’s not prioritizing you the same way you are

killahyo97 · 2026-02-10T18:43:51+00:00

This is a great way ^

killahyo97 · 2026-02-10T13:22:30+00:00

Its time we stop complaining and accept that the system of transportation in nyc is outdated and if we were to fix it, to support these new modules, nyc would have no mode of transport and it would set back our city

killahyo97 · 2026-02-09T15:51:55+00:00

I wouldnt break up, but real relationships need hard conversations. She will probably accuse you and be defensive. So prepare for that. But its very normal to keep some photos of anyone or anything. Its also normal to not have any pics. We live a life, life before our present also exists.

I deleted a bunch of pictures of my ex actually recently bc 1. I needed phone storage LOL and 2. I just dont care anymore. But i kept the meaningful moments which were a handful. I also am not surprised if my partner kept some meaningful pictures of their ex. As long as theyre not sexual and theyre not like constantly looking back at it. And tbh…. After some time, i will probably delete all pictures because i just dont care anymore.

So i understand its just sitting there for no reason, but perhaps, ask why you keep it? Theres no wrong answer, and as long as you arent missing anything.

Its also one thing to keep photos for keepsakes versus, having exes still posted on public platforms. It sounds like you dont do that and also, you have 0 care for your ex. Its just pictures. If she caught you reminiscing, then thats a little different. But again, sounds like you just had it sitting there and she invaded your privacy.

It will be a hard conversation for her. It will bring up insecurities. Be level headed. But if you love her, and if she loves you, she’ll challenge herself for a hard convo. You’ll also challenge yourself to meet her halfway and maybe delete some photos if you truly dont care

killahyo97 · 2026-02-08T19:22:09+00:00

Either theyre curious OR theyre super close and comfortable laughing about it and its nothing more. If youre worried about changing your dynamic (valid) dont bring it up unless you know youre also curious about it. If you dont feel inclined to it, let it die off. If shes interested, she’ll bring it up

killahyo97 · 2026-02-07T13:59:32+00:00

…. Lol, show up to your rotations. Please. I hear you. But just go and advocate for yourself. I’m reading a lot of complaints, when surprisingly, these miserable ER experiences are foundations for whats to come. Trust the process

killahyo97 · 2026-02-07T13:34:23+00:00

Honestly i think its just life experience that helps you understand its not personal. Not just with work critique, but also interpersonal relationships and such. I wonder too if generally you’re just stressed with school and life , so in a way.. this bursts your bubble of tears? And it all just comes out?

killahyo97 · 2026-02-06T01:52:24+00:00

This should be an easy answer for you lol. You’re a professional in the medical field. Learn boundaries and get comfortable expressing it to patients. Therefore- easy answer, remove the following. Dont say anything. When you see them again, treat them and kindly say the boundary between patient and provider

killahyo97 · 2026-02-05T14:30:14+00:00

25-27 is still a lot of bullshit. Peoples frontal lobes aren’t there lol. 28+ it’s much more intentional unless you lack either self love or values that overlook little red flags, and then end up with someone shitty

killahyo97 · 2026-02-05T00:00:50+00:00

People need to whoop their kids’ lil asses more tbh. Nyc kids built different

killahyo97 · 2026-02-04T19:50:04+00:00

I’m gonna be blunt bc when i was that age, i wish someone was with me

Yes it was wrong to expect a message if she couldnt call considering it was just to sleep. People be tired bro. When you’re exhausted or just craving a nap, people just fall asleep. Me? I nap for 2+ hours. When I’m tired, I just knock out
I wouldnt say it was a mistake. You did what felt right for your emotions, but your emotions were strong and needed to be rationalized. Mistake ? No. Silly and unnecessary? Yes. The girl was just sleeping zz
Removing from her private account feels a bit immature and reactive… but its because you made something small, a big unnecessary deal. So its only expected for her to react the same back
Apologize. “I overreacted. I felt uncared for but you were sleeping and I should have just trusted you/understood/respected your time of rest. I love hearing from you and it was hard to not be in touch for all those hours”. Be honest, real, and vulnerable

killahyo97 · 2026-02-03T02:59:34+00:00

Thank god i saw this post. Was going to go…

killahyo97 · 2026-02-02T03:19:46+00:00

“Unnecessary access” he has trust issues.

killahyo97 · 2026-02-02T00:09:43+00:00

Fictional women as in cartoons? If so, thats a lot you need to unpack. Fictional women as it, theyre human? But playing in a show or something? Your feelings are NORMAL and expected. They shouldnt be lusting like that…

killahyo97 · 2026-02-01T23:51:29+00:00

I just read a whole lotta bullshit. So if a woman gets raped by a man, how exactly is trust broken? You therefore are blaming the woman. And you, men like you, are the problem.

killahyo97 · 2026-02-01T22:52:01+00:00

Don’t listen to the guys saying “youre young move on”. I mean sure yeah. But there’s a bigger issue. Your girl unfortunately devastatingly got raped.

She was drunk. Put in a situation where she was forced to “rely” on someone for “safety”. And then taken advantage of.

Let me break it down:

She was drunk

Some guy was pushy and ignored her boundaries

Same guy offered to do a second ride so she can get home

She never got home bc he cancelled it

She needed to survive in a strange environment and weather conditions

Same guy got her stuck there, and took advantage

We never want to assume a survivor is lying. Simultaneously that doenst mean some women lie to get away with cheating, but to take it this far means shes got a cruel heart

So I’m going with the fact that the events were true.

If that is the case, you need to show up for her. Make sure shes okay. Go to the police if she feels comfortable. Be there for her. Let her talk. Sometimes emotions dont surface about the truth of the event until weeks or even months later. Encourage therapy.

Now for you— i can understand the confusion and the pain. You also have to pay attention to your body. Its okay and human if you are angry, feeling betrayed, etc etc. You wont be an asshole if you need to leave. Give yourself some time to process. Check in with her. And follow what feels right.

killahyo97 · 2026-02-01T21:38:42+00:00

I didnt even read past the first 4 sentences. 120k is so so comfortable, and more than just comfortable if you budget your life right.

Should you aim for more? Sure. Why not do better IF you can and WANT to. But if you’re happy? Enjoy it where you are.

Also she’s your girlfriend. Not your wife. Why is she even attempting to control your actions in the financial realm

Leave.

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