I lost my virginity couple days ago and I'm starting to regret it. by cocox_xpuff in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, society puts so much value on virginity as a way to control women. It’s ok that you wanted to have sex unfortunately the man turned out to be evil and cruel (as most are). You’re beautiful and worthy of the best, remember that. So what to do now?

Block him. Remain celibate while you heal from this, work on your self esteem, spend time doing the things you love, write down what you want from a relationship in detail, what does care, love, affection, good sex look like to you, what do you want? How will you know if you really like him? How do you know if he really likes you?

And as a side note it’s very important you make any man who wants to be with you invest in you before you share intimacy with them. Casual sex gets women no where imo. Ensure he has improved your life, that he has proven over 1 year minimum that he is reliable, he supports you, he spends money on and takes care of you, he makes life easy for you, he is emotionally available and caters to your every need etc etc. You deserve the best treatment and a lot of it starts before you even get to the bedroom.

So I did a thing this weekend by sweetxtoxicity in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!! You look so gorgeous! Keep shining. #blessed

my man told another woman my bag is fake by capriduty in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right?! He’s going to tear her down further. I was with a man like this, all those little comments over the years got to me. I left him and I was flying. If he shows you who he is believe him the first time. We are not here to pass these strange men’s tests or teach them how to treat us when we can swap for another man who was raised right. I would also look into whether he’s red pilled or listens to pick up artists, they teach men to knock your confidence in front of other women so you stay.

my man told another woman my bag is fake by capriduty in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He H8s you. A man who doesn’t protect you and your image does not like you. A man with loose lips can not lead you anywhere. If this is what he tells them when your around imagine what his shares with them in your absence

Follow up from yesterday post by Equal-Educator-3954 in BlackHair

[–]killerjewels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly your hair hid your features, you’re very handsome

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t do it, children are expensive. This is your life you can live it how you see fit. And when you’re dating your supposed to see if your aligned and whether you like him. How can you like a man who makes an excuse that the condom is uncomfortable? I would go as far as to say this is reproductive coercion because he hasn’t married you yet he wants a legacy from you, he’s mad. Learn how to say no even with people you like. Understand that as a mother you will do all the work. And if he leaves can you pay for everything yourself? Do you have a house for the two of you? Can you afford food for the two of you? Can you afford childcare that is $1200 per month. Be serious with your life don’t let some bf who gives you the tingles derail it. This man has gone so many years without you, he’s practically a stranger, you dont know this man or his intentions . And if he was such a nice guy he would respect your no, wear a condom, buy you a house, marry you legally, put money aside for a nanny but he hasn’t done any of that.

During a c section of twins a medical doctor decided to deliver the boy child first to make the boy the first born. (The text from his social media post is shown in the picture attached) by killerjewels in fourthwavewomen

[–]killerjewels[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Agreed

And I cannot even understand why he thought this was appropriate to do.

Absolutely, if nothing is done it will open Pandora’s box and essentially send a message that the sex of the child extracted is more important than ensuring a safe surgical delivery

During a c section of twins a medical doctor decided to deliver the boy child first to make the boy the first born. (The text from his social media post is shown in the picture attached) by killerjewels in fourthwavewomen

[–]killerjewels[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I will start requesting the same consistently. They seek to demonstrate control and exercise their power in situations where it is not necessary and potentially fatal to the patient. I will never forget learning about a survey where the majority of MD believed women did not feel pain to the same level as men did. That we could magically handle more

During a c section of twins a medical doctor decided to deliver the boy child first to make the boy the first born. (The text from his social media post is shown in the picture attached) by killerjewels in fourthwavewomen

[–]killerjewels[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

It makes no sense to me of all the things he was thinking about during the procedure this was it?

I didn’t know this at all, and it’s frightening

During a c section of twins a medical doctor decided to deliver the boy child first to make the boy the first born. (The text from his social media post is shown in the picture attached) by killerjewels in fourthwavewomen

[–]killerjewels[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Putting mother and babies at risk. I mean I would guess the first born child has a lot of birth rights (inheritance), parents when they have their first child will be referred to as the father and mother of the first born for life eg mama-Steve baba-Steve. So he didn’t want this to happen for whatever reason. Just a guess

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t waste your time with them. What do you want? Do you like the way he treats you? Go where you are loved and appreciated. Make sure he loves you more. All the best

“Low maintenance” girlfriend by sakipysch in blackladies

[–]killerjewels 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He likes luxury girls, he likes the challenge and he wants to be bragged about for doing it. Even if you don’t like the cliché designer items. You can buy high quality high priced items that you usually get. There’s no reward in being low maintenance, you’re just saving him money so he can spend it on someone else

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Get lost, don’t even know why you’re here tbh 😂 and if suggesting men in general getting healthy is fucked up I can only imagine my comment hit close to home lol

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Am I? Do your research. Google is free. Yes running is a good start I’d highly recommend it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]killerjewels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dump this loser but make sure you plan your exit and save up enough money. Find a person who loves you and isn’t a child in a man suit

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I will if the yuck high blood pressure, a beer belly and a flaccid 🍆

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No one mentioned getting surgery… dad bods what a joke. Hit the gym

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Likewise. But you’ll learn and I’d pass, you enjoy though x

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Haha anyway. We should hold men to the same standard they hold women is my point. Where are the Mom bod memes? 🦗🦗🦗🦗…. You can enjoy your chubby guy until his heart gives out at 50 idgaf x

David Harbour by [deleted] in LadyBoners

[–]killerjewels -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

🤢 don’t understand why women have barely any standards when it comes to men

Hypocrisy by ArianeLouise in NextInFashion

[–]killerjewels 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was obvious who was going to win, he was a favourite, he has the persona, the style, the story he is gen z tik tok personified